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Mourning Death Theetu Rituals Hinduism Details

There are forty Samskaras to be performed by a Hindu.

Death is an important Samskara,

I will provide some guidelines with Links.

However, the suggestions of the Purohit is to be taken for consideration as some customs vary for each Caste and even in a Caste for a particular Family/Group.

General.

Those who become Untouchable during the period of Mourning-Theetu

The following link is very useful.

http://stotraratna.awardspace.com/sruthi/Samkshepa%20dharma%20sastram/vd4.pdf

Check list.

1.Inform Family priest, Sastrigal.

2.Keep the body lying head facing South.

3.Light an Oil lamp near the  Head;apply Vibhuti(basmam, not as a paste)

3.Light some Agarbathis to ward off smell.

4.As one is not to cook at Home till the body is taken out,inform relatives for arrangement of food for the day.

5.Inform people who are to be informed.

6.At best the body can be kept for about 10 hours;under special circumstances, it may be kept for 24 hours in an air-conditioned casket.

7.Those who go to the burning ghat must go the next day for the collection of Ashes.

8.Ensure that a Doctor visits and give you a certificate.

9.In the case of Death in a hospital, make sure that the necessary formalities are complied with and a certificate is obtained.

10.Inform the Crematorium about the expected time of the arrival of the body after consulting the Sastrigal.

11.At the Crematorium show the certificate and get a receipt. Some times it will be issued the next day.

12.Get the Death registered .

Clarifications on some aspects.

1,One can perform the ceremonies for the first twelve days at specified places,

However it is correct to perform all the Rites at Home and it will bring prosperity.

2.The rites for the first ten days may be done from the seventh day , performing the cumulative rites for six days.

3.There is still a custom in the Hindu communities. especially among Brahmins for a  Widow.

That of removing the Mangal Sutra or Thaali and breaking of Bangles in Public.

This does not have the sanction of the Sastras.

The wearing of Thaali is a later custom developed and it does not find a place in Vedic Marriage,

The removal of Mangal Sutra may be done some one who is widowed already(preferably elder to the one in question) quietly on the morning of the Eleventh Day,;have the bangles removed and have the Mangal Sutra removed and dropped in a vessel containing  milk.

One can perform all functions in the Family including Marriage after the Thirteenth Day, Subasweekara,Gruha Yajnam, except in the case of Spouse. Wife and children.

The Gruha Yajna means you are  permitted to do Yajna.

Subasweekaara means you invite Auspiciousness.

Suggestions, questions are welcome.

Additional Link.

http://indiansamourai.hautetfort.com/media/01/02/1850732936.pdf

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244 responses to “Mourning Death Theetu Rituals Hinduism Details”

  1. Raji Avatar
    Raji

    Sir,
    Want to know theetu for how many days for death of married son’s paternal grandfather’s first wife’s daughter-in-law? The particular son in question is the grandson from his paternal grand father’s second wife.

    So, it will be his father’s step-brother’s wife who has died.

    Tomorrow is Karthigai deepam–want to know if lights can be lit in the house ? If so, how many days after the death of the above said person?

    Thanks
    Raji

    1. ramanan50 Avatar

      Theetu 13 days.You can light Karthigai deepam if the death was 13 days earlier. Subhakaryas may be performed after the 13th day Subasweekaaram.

  2. Prema Ramchandran Avatar
    Prema Ramchandran

    Dear sir,
    My sister passed away on the 17th of nov. 2016 …the first two days rituals were done and then the hasthi , was sent to kashi as she has only three girls all living abroad…the rest of the rituals they will do only after a couple of months…so for how many days ,should kolam not be put outside my house…I am her younger sister…can I celebrate karthi which is coming up on the 12th…or do I have to wait till 30 days are over…can I do pooja a in my pooja room.
    Thanking you
    Prema Ramchandran
    29th nov.2016

    1. ramanan50 Avatar

      Your theetu is for 13 days from the date of demise. Aftter that you can perform all auspicious functions including Drawing Kolam ‘ visiting temples .

  3. Prabu Avatar
    Prabu

    Dear Sir,

    Thank you for your blog to enlighten us on rituals, I have a doubt. My cousin brothers wife (mothers side / periammas sons wife ) passed away on 22 Nov 2016 after brief illness . We cousins were there shouldered the body to the crematorium. Earlier we have planned to visit Palani and tonsure as nerthi kadan for my son coming 5th december. Can we do it as per plan or do we have to defer it cos of our Hindu Rituals. I am Kshatriya by class. Your clarity on this is much appreciated. Thanks

    1. ramanan50 Avatar

      You can visit temples and perform auspicious functions from the 17th day.

  4. Kadhirvelu Nisha Avatar
    Kadhirvelu Nisha

    Sir,

    My father-in-law’s cousin (son of father-in-law’s dad’s brother) passed away on 22/11/16. We planned for rituals for removing hair for my 11 months old on 04-12-2016. Relatives say it is a theetu for us & should not visit temple for next 30 days & we can postpone the rituals to Margazhi month (i.e., 12 th month for the baby).
    I am reluctant to have the ritual for removing hair on 12th month.
    Can you please guide me on this if it is ok to do it on 04-12-2016 as planned?

    Thanks,
    Nisha

    1. ramanan50 Avatar

      All subha karyas can be performed after the thirteenth day of death,including hair removal/ear piercing.

  5. Balaji Ramamurthy Avatar
    Balaji Ramamurthy

    Sir, my grandmother passed away on 17th nov & i being one of the grandson, participated on the death day & took part in the “nai pandu” event, now my question is that should i be a part of the 10th day ceremony coz people say that one who visit for the death should be a part of the 10th day too – especially if you have shouldered the body, we need to be a part of the 10th day – pls advise

    1. ramanan50 Avatar

      Yes. You have to be present on 10th and thirteenth day.

    2. ramanan50 Avatar

      It is necessary for those who participated on the first day to be present on the 10 and 13th day and it is advisable.If you can not visit on these days due to circumstances beyond your control, you may visit any of the Pirtudhosha parihara temples I have listed.https://ramanan50.wordpress.com/2014/09/10/nine-temples-for-pitru-dosha-parihara/

      1. Balaji Ramamurthy Avatar
        Balaji Ramamurthy

        ok sir..thanks for detailed clarifications..since 10th day is a part of karma, I agree that we should be present, however since 13th day is subhasweekaram can we be without going on this day

      2. ramanan50 Avatar

        Aparakarma nivruthi on 13th day

      3. Balaji Ramamurthy Avatar
        Balaji Ramamurthy

        thnx sir..god bless

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