I had posted a couple of days ago on Male Harassment and Helpline numbers.
I am posting now information on Males who survived Rape from Women/Men.
Story:
A 19-year-old man has come forward and reported his own sexual assault that took place March 30 in Toronto. The report singles out four women as the assailants, highlighting not only the brutality of the assault, but the bravery of the victim to come forward in a world where sexual assault against men is rarely reported.
Allegedly, the victim was alone the night of the assault until he met the women at a nightclub. They offered him a ride home, drove a few blocks away to a parking lot, and sexually assaulted the man. When they were finished, they drove him a few blocks further and let him out of the car.
1.Those who were sent to Old Age Homes by the Wealthy sons and Daughters.
2.Those who had no body to turn to but economically independent.
3.Those who were economically downtrodden.
In the first category thee were two sub groups, one where the children were abroad and had no intention of returning to India and another where the children are in India and in some cases in the same city where the Elderly have been sent to.
I will be covering the issue in a couple of posts with Statistics.
What struck me first are the Statistics
.* Statistics in this Post are from HelpAge India.
I am also posting Statistics from Other sources.
Elder Abuse
Contrary to popular perception, the sons were the main cause for dumping( I deliberately use the Term) and the verbal abuse of parents, and not the Daughter’s in Law!
56 % of the parents were sent to Old Age Homes because os f sons and 23 % because of Daughters’ in Law.
I had blogged earlier on the Sexual harassment of Men by Women and that it never is noticed and even if the complaint is made it is assumed that the Man is lying, so loaded is our Society in these values in favour of women.
Now interviews of Men on Sexual harassment of Men have become public and some instances are really shocking.
Had it been levelled by a woman the man would have been either thrashed in Public or booked under Sexual harassment of women and in some cases under NBW!
The general reason for men not lodging a complaint, apart from facing Social ridicule,is the most important fat that he would not be believed.
It is often assumed illogically that women do not make sexual advances and that they merely respond.
Even in marital relationship, some even go to the extent of husband’s advances as ‘attempt to rape’ and in some case men were punished.
Looks as they women accommodate Sex!
This anomaly needs to be addressed to.
Story:
The Women and Child Development minister,Krishna Tirath, recently announced that the government will conduct a study on “what kind of (sexual) harassment of males is prevalent at workplaces.” This has prompted many to wonder – male sexual harassment – is that really a thing? From Michael Douglas in Disclosure to Akshay Kumar in its Bollywood rip-off Aitraaz – there have been cases of men being victims to sexual harassment in the reel and real-life workplaces in the past. But why is the topic still not taken seriously? That’s probably because though many agree that subjecting men to involuntary groping and touching is certainly not a laughable matter (ask John Travolta’s last masseur and victim!), many are still used to seeing men as the harassers rather than the harassed. However, not only is male sexual harassment ‘a thing’ – it has been legally addressed in countries across the world, and has precedents in several workplaces.
Legal definition
The definition of sexual harassment, as per the US Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC) is “Unwelcome sexual advances, requests for sexual favors, and other verbal or physical conduct of a sexual nature” at the workplace. See? Completely gender neutral! In fact, in most countries, the definition is applicable to both sexes and falls under two categories for men – female-on-male harassment and male-on-male harassment.
The first ever reported case of male sexual harassment was in the United States in 1995, when a female supervisor at Dominoes pinched the male manager’s butt. The EEOC sued the outfit and the manager was paid $237,000 in damages.
However, in India, where the Sexual Harassment at Workplace Bill was passed only in 2012, the provisions were restricted to women and their modesty. Is this because men don’t get molested in Indian workplaces? Nope, because as it turns out, men do get sexually harassed in India… a lot!
Male harassment in India
Judging from the findings of a recent Economic Times-Synovate survey, the men need to be incorporated in that bill ASAP. Of the 527 people queried across seven cities – Bangalore, Chennai, Delhi, Hyderabad, Kolkata, Mumbai and Pune – 19% said they have faced some kind of sexual harassment at office. In Bangalore, 51% of the respondents had been sexually harassed, while in Delhi and Hyderabad, 31% and 28% of those surveyed said they had been sexually harassed. Around 38% of the respondents across 7 cities in India said that in today’s workplaces, “men are as vulnerable to sexual harassment as women.”
…When it isn’t all about work
Two 20-something professionals anonymously reveal to DT why going to work became a “horrible” experience after their respective bosses and colleagues took office flirting to a new level, and in one of the cases, refused to back off even when confronted.
She grabbed me; I wanted to slap her, but couldn’t, as I’ve been taught to respect women
I started working as a trainee accountant with my firm in 2008 and through the years, I’ve managed to gain the respect of my colleagues and my seniors. Sheena (name changed) joined my firm in 2009 and from the beginning, everyone knew she was the flirtatious type. We all took it in good humour and she was fun to be around at first, but things weren’t the same when she started openly flirting with me. It seemed like I had become her target in office, and it was very embarrassing. Once, she spread her legs in front of me and I could see that she was wearing a thong. This happened in my cubicle, and as much as I would like to believe it, it wasn’t a mistake. She sat like that for a long time, and kept flirting with me. She would make excuses to take coffee breaks right when I’d have to step out for a smoke.
All of this was fine, up until one day she grabbed my butt. I was speechless. She was fishing for compliments and I told her she was hot, so she replied by saying I was pretty hot myself, and grabbed me from behind. I could only smile at her in embarrassment, but somewhere deep inside, I just wanted to slap her. Being brought up in a household that respects women, I didn’t react. I am just looking to out her in front of my other colleagues one day, as I’m sure she will try one of her tricks on me.
She made me feel like a misfit, and it did nothing for my self confidence
I work at a job consultancy firm and Disha (name changed) has been running this little sham of a place since 2010. I’ve been here since the very beginning; in fact, I was one of the first people to get hired. Disha always leaned towards me as compared to my other colleagues. She would always oversee my mistakes and that made me feel good. I thought it was because I was one of the older people working at the firm.
I take it to mean that a Man is a Man first before being a colleague , friend or a relative.
Better be prudent.
Remember we are all animals basically.
What is said here of Man is applicable to Woman as well.
Story.
Women are often reluctant to report incidents of sexual assault for many reasons. The aftermath of the victim-blaming they may face is just one of many, but the insults that come can be ugly, sexist, and to be honest, completely idiotic.
After finding a picture of Logan in a low-cut gown displaying cleavage, Rottenberg basically makes the argument that her sexual assault shouldn’t be surprising given her decision to wear a cleavage baring dress. Under the picture reads the caption: “What message was the TV journalist Lara Logan sending here?…
“Earth to liberated women,” says Rottenberg, “When you display legs, thighs or cleavage, some liberated men will see it as a sign that you feel good about yourself and your sexuality. But most men will see it as a sign that you want to get laid. Forewarned is forearmed.”
Rape is Not About Sex
Women are not raped because they choose to bare cleavage, wear a mini-skirt, or strut down the street in thigh high boots.
Rape isn’t about sex or attraction. It’s about power…
In addition to avoiding skin baring clothing, Rottenberg adds:
“Don’t trust your male friends. Don’t go to a man’s home at night unless you’re prepared to have sex with him. Don’t disrobe in front of a male masseur. If you take a job as a masseuse, don’t be shocked if your male customers think you’re a prostitute.”
If I were a man I would be insulted by these comments. Are men such sex crazed animals they can’t keep it in their pants?
And Rottenberg doesn’t stop there:
“Women today are technically free to do all sorts of things that were forbidden to their grandmothers, which is all well and good. But in practice, rape and the notion of sexual conquest persist for the same reason that warfare persists: because the human animal— especially the male animal— craves drama as much as food, shelter and clothing. Conquering an unwilling sex partner is about as much drama as a man can find without shooting a gun— and, of course, guns haven’t disappeared either.”
Perversion of the Highest order.
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