Ilnar Salakhiev/AP – For a lioness, the safest bet would be to have a girl cub, according to a new study that says mammals have the ability to select the gender of their offspring for the benefit of their species. With sons, a lioness could end up with zero grandcubs or hit the genetic jackpot.
The bond between the Grandparent and Grand children is unique.
While certain naughty behaviour from sons and daughters were frowned upon, are overlooked in the case of Grandparents.
They have more liberty with their grandparents,share their intimate details with them, which the would not share with even their parents.
I have seen that Grandchildren ,in general, share physiological emotional and mental characteristics f Grand parents.
Tamil language calls he Grandchildren as ‘peran’, ‘The one who establishes Grandparents’ name.(பேரன்)
Now it transpires that Mammals choose the Sex of their grand children, a Study reveals!
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Mammals appear to have the ability to select the gender of their offspring for the benefit of their species, according to a new study that followed three generations of more than 2,300 animals from the San Diego Zoo.
It is not a conscious choice, but in some way, a female’s biology has the capability to assess her health, the quality of her mate, and her environment to determine which sex to go with, according to study author and Stanford evolutionary biologist Joseph P. Garner.
For a lioness, for example, the safest bet would be to have a girl. Even if her daughter isn’t the strongest or highest-ranking female, she will most likely have at least the average number of cubs.
Sons, on the other hand, are a high-risk but potentially high-reward bet. Most male lions don’t reproduce because they are beat out by the few alpha males that father the vast majority of cubs. With sons, she could end up with zero grandcubs, or hit the genetic jackpot.”
There are also indications in the study as to why the initial Human Society was Matrilinear , the preference for female offspring instead of male.
Using massage oils or cream and gently rubbing her back or tummy can help to soothe your baby. It may also make you feel better, as it’s a practical way of reducing your baby’s distress. Ask your health visitor about local baby massage classes.
Try a different feeding position
Some babies cry during or after feeds. If you are breastfeeding, you may find that improving the way your baby latches on helps her to feed calmly without crying.
If she seems to have painful wind during feeds, you could try feeding her in a more upright position. Burp your baby after a feed by holding her against your shoulder. If your baby cries straight after a feed, she may still be hungry.
Let her suck on something
In some newborns, the need to suck is very strong. Sucking at your breast while you are breastfeeding, a clean finger or a dummy can bring great comfort. Comfort sucking can steady a baby’s heart rate, relax her tummy, and help her to settle.
Give her a warm bath
A warm bath may soothe your baby and help her to calm down. Check the water temperature before placing her in there. But bear in mind that this may also make her cry more. In time, you will get to know your baby’s likes and dislikes.”
Eldest son is employed in a Private Firm in Chennai.
He draws about Rs 9000 per Month.
He has a child.
My second son , also in Chennai, is doing some small business in Ambattur, Chenaai.
My Daughter is married and is living well in with her Husband in Villiwakkam ,Chennai and has two children.
I worked in a government Organisation, receive a pension of about Rs.9000 per month.
Me and my wife have been living separately in a small portion in the same compound where my eldest son stays.
My wife, being 82, can not cook.
I have come here to end my days and hope I shall, soon.
My second son and daughter are yet to come and see us”
Parents quote
“I am 82.
I lost my husband 25 years back.
I have five sons and three Grand children, one Grandson is working in Computers(means Software)
I was staying in a small room in the out house of my eldest son, taking care of myself.
One day, about a week back, my eldest son brought me here in a Car and told me to stay here as these people will take care of me.
He has not called back since, other children have not called up either.
I will never go back, though I miss my grand children.
Leave it, I have lost my Will…
விடு, சாமி, மனசுவிட்டுப்போச்சு
These are the statements from the elderly who are now housed in a Home for the Aged near Chennai.
I saw the programme by accident in Podhigai (tamil) TV channel.
I am reminded of..
When Sankaracharya wanted to become a Sanyasi, his mother refused to let him go.
After a lot of persuasion, she let him go only after Shankaracharya promised that he would return to her in her death-bed and perform her last Rites, which he did.
Another Saint Pattinathaar when asked to light the funeral pyre of his mother, was heart-broken ,instead of firewood, laid Plantain leaves and recited the following poem for he did not want to set fire to his mother!
“ஐயிரண்டு திங்களாய் அங்கமெலாம் நொந்து பெற்றுப்
பையலென்ற போதே பரிந்தெடுத்துச் செய்ய
இருகைப்புறத்தில் ஏந்திக் கனகமுலை தந்தாளை
எப்பிறப்பில் காண்பேன் இனி”
When would I see again my mother, who has suffered for ten months when I was in her womb; who rushed me to offer her breast before I could cry for Milk?’
Lauren Sanders makes some observations on the ‘Only Child’
‘Only Child’
I am sharing my views on this subject and her observation are provided after that.
I was the last child for my Parents.My sister and brothers were old enough to be my Parents , they were married before I was born and were living in other cities from our Home.
1. I was brought up, for all practical purposes, as ‘only Child” ,It is not necessary for parents to have another child to make a child ‘only child’,it is the way he is brought up.
I am amazed at the fuss my Daughter and daughter in law make and the efforts they put up in bringing up children,
My son and son-in-law are not far behind.
My parents did not spend ‘quality time, as fancy terms indicate, with me.
I used to take food as it was given to me without any attempt to feed me(after I was Three),went to school on my own without parent’s accompanying and generally did what a child is expected of, playing on the street till called Home(from 630 am to 8,430 pm to six pm).
I never felt alone and was always busy.
Never have i felt that I was being brought up differently.
I am given to understand that I mix with people freely and easy to get along with.
But as Myth would have it I should have been an introvert, reserved and difficult to get along with; I am not.
This nails the myth that ‘only child’ is lonely, difficult to get on along with and is prone for maladjustment later in Life.
2.I have not been pampered.
I f I want something I used to ask my mother, which will be conveyed to my father,by her.
If he can not afford it, he would call me and say that he could not afford it.
My tantrums would be of no avail.
This has not made me adamant and cantankerous in my later Life.
3.Being the ‘only child’ has not made me any more selfish than any other child.
I am selfish as any other child and my daughter tells me I am selfish especially in Food, when I fight for Ice cream and chocolates with my Grandson, 4!
4.I had no idea what ‘shared strength’ is all about. till I heard the term recently.
The fact that Parents have more children does not make them to share less with children no dor parents Love one child the less.
This feeling is an illusion , for Love can not be quantified.
However it is a fact that parents do have a special fondness for a particular child, not that they love the other children less,
In general, I have seen fathers more attached emotionally to their Daughters.
In fact a Man sees his Mother in his daughter,
I do not know about Women.
5.It is a contradiction to observe that the eldest child gets priority in a Home and in some Homes the youngest’ it is the things are.
In short I am of the conviction that Children and emotions are not quantifiable and any conclusions based on these assumptions are incorrect and sends a wrong message to Parents.
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The three biggest myths, she says, turn into one word — lonelyselfishmaladjusted — when people talk about us, despite the hundreds of studies that show only children are no different than people with siblings. It is a knowledge gap with consequences. The stereotypes “are really infringing on the lives of parents and especially mothers,” Sandler says. “They have their first kid for them and a second for the other kid. If the reason they’re doing that is that only children are somehow screwed up, then the reasoning is flawed.”
As I dared to exhale, she laid out the facts:
1. Only children are not lonely. This is true, but with a few qualifications. School-aged only children are not lonelier. However, those in rural areas might be somewhat more so, and adolescent onlys get lonely because they are teenagers. And grown-up only children coping with the needs and then the loss of aging parents do tend to feel more isolated than others in the same boat. “For me, personally, it is not a reason to have another kid,” Sandler says, “just so my kid has a sibling when I die.”
2. Only children are not more selfish than other people. Instead, Sandler says, “we become generous and respectful people. We put a lot of weight on our relationships. We tend to be very giving friends, and we are no more narcissistic than anyone else. For some reason, researchers cannot believe this, and just keep testing.
3. Only children are not all spoiled. At least, no more spoiled than any other child might be. “There is a notion that only children are spoiled because they get everything their parents have to give,” Sandler says, “and end up with the pony in the backyard and the diamond tiara and have a snit when they don’t get what they want. That’s not my kid. It wasn’t me.”
4. Only children are not maladjusted. “All of the data around that shows us that as long as kids go to school they’re socialized,” Sandler says. “I tend to be the person throwing a party. I bought a house with friends.”
5. Only children do have shared strengths. High achievement, intelligence and self-esteem. Raised in a “rich verbal environment” we talk a lot — and with depth. But, Sandler says, just as preventing “lonelyselfishmaladjusted” is not a reason to have a second child, improving your child’s SAT score is not a reason to stop at one.
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