Sometime back I posted an article on the views of Hinduism on LGBT.
The post received good response and many with this issue have written to me saying that th post helped them mentally.
Yet members of some communities i Facebook of which I am a member, felt that these issues are in bad taste and some communities have even removed the post.
Hinduism is a way of Life.
It does not feel shy of addressing real issues of Life.
It understands the nature of Humans including their frailties and try to offer solutions.
By adopting an Ostrich like attitude, one faces on certain issues, much more serious issues later that would arise because of this.
Problems are to be addressed to and not wished away, thinking that if we do not think about them , it would disappear.
There is this attitude of taking no decision, a modern western concept of course,justifying that the problem would solve itself.
True, but the solution need not be to our liking and at times may even harmful.
I have not taken the trouble of finding statistics of LGBT in India, ,especially Community wise.
It is likely to be incorrect as this is a sensitive and too personal an issue to be divulged.
Strength in numbers does not diminish the gravity of the problem.
About a year back two issues of m friends were referred to me, regarding their family problem, so sensitive the could not discuss with their relatives.
Well, you do not discuss sensitive issues with relatives, only with friends who have no stakes.
My friend’s son((34)got married to a girl from an orthodox family.
The boy is well settled and the girl was very nice, working in a MNC.
The girl was a Lesbian.
This, she disclosed to her husband, after a couple of days of marriage to her husband.
This she told him that she was had been scared to inform her parents and she had a girl friend from US.
The boy wrestled with this problem and he informed me.
Many among the younger generation , boys and girls,open up with me about intimate problems, though , b age , I am like their Father.
I took up the issue very gingerly with the girl first and later with the Boy’s parents.
It took some time for m friend to come back to normalcy.
I informed him, he was very orthodox, that this an accident of Nature and one should ensure that two lives are not ruined.
Our Religious texts inform us these problems and suggest we take appropriate action to ensure that no one is affected.
He came around.
After discussing the issue with the girl’s parents,a Divorce b mutual consent was organised( the reason as disclosed in Camera in the Family Court).
The girl went to US to be with her Girl friend in the US.
The Boy is married again, after disclosing the details to the would be bride and her parents.
The Boy’s first wife came from US and corroborated the facts to the would be bride and her parents.
The boy is happily married and has a son.
A similar case was in respect of Gay.
Here the marriage was stopped.
Elders should not wish away the problem.
It is tricky in Hindu communities, notwithstanding the elopement in many a case.
Children still are respectful for their parents and are shy of discussing their intimate problems.
It would be prudent , before arranging marriage, boys and girls, talk to them and wherever necessary , get to know their friends and get information very discreetly.
This would help a lot of problems that might arise later.
This applies to issues concerning Transvestites as well .
