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Choose Brahmin Mates Swayamvara At Chennai

I have lamented the fact that the Brahmin Community is finding it difficult to find suitable Mates .

This problem has become more pronounced now because of various factors.

1.Girl's parents delaying the marriage.

2.Girls and Boys having imaginary Ideal Girl/Boy and waiting for a Wave length.

3.As the custom of circulating the Horoscope is getting diminished because of shrinking Families and same community friends, the choice becomes

restricted to only Internet, Matrimonial sites.

Though these are effective, the communication conveyed through these sites by the uploaders do not receive possible Brides/Grooms.

And in most of these sites, the educational and salary expectations are so high and unrealistic, one wonders how people with less qualification/Income get married at all.

Marriage Compatibility Myth

Once the girl and the boy like each other, then the arrangements for Betrothal and marriage starts.

The problem with the present generation is that they set conditions.

1.They need to talk to each other,by email,webcam and in person and it is in vogue now.

2.The girl should be well-educated, employed and domestically well-trained(?!)

3.The Boy without parents being alive is preferred and most preferred boys are those who do not have siblings;they must commit to support the girl's parents.

The Boy should be in a transferable job and can get transferred to the Girls' place.

4.Both the Boy and girl declare they should be in the same 'wave length' , each must 'personal space and they want to ensure that each is compatible with the other.

I am talking about the point on 'wavelength' , 'personal space 'and compatibility.

I was married to a girl whom my parents finalised and have grandchildren now, with usual, ever-present misunderstanding between us.

What exactly is ''wavelength'?

If my understanding is correct , it means that both should be able to have same tastes, likes and dislikes.

I am afraid this is not possible or probable.

Each is unique.

If one were to have the same likes, dislikes then Life would become dull and boring.

It is a question of supplementing each other.

None loves, likes the others in all their follies and tastes.

It applies to every one.

It is the process of compromising and adjusting that makes Life happy or at least tolerable.