This is an observation by a Lower Court in India and The Higher Court has taken objection to it!
I am surprised.
Women and Men Symbol.
Is quoting a fact of Life condemnable?
I would have understood this stricture coming from a Feminist Group,come to think of it, from a Woman, as if a woman does a favor to Men by indulging in sex and that women are least interested in Sex.
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A man and woman, if left alone, will always go for sexual intercourse.” This is what a Kancheepuram judge said while awarding life imprisonment to a murder accused last year. The judge‘s loose comments have drawn the ire of the Madras high court, which not only acquitted the accused but also decried the judge for arriving at “judicial conclusions purely based on surmises and conjunctures.”
In the March 13, 2012 order sentencing Kattu Raja, a factory watchman, for murdering a co-worker, the district and sessions judge-II of Kancheepuram had said: “A man and woman, if left alone, will always go for sexual intercourse. In this case, the accused and the deceased might have been left alone. At that time, the accused would have advanced sexual overtures towards the deceased. She might have refused. Still there might have been sexual intercourse between them. Again, the accused would have invited her for sexual intercourse, which she would have refused. This would have resulted in an ill-feeling.”
The order was quoted by the HC division bench of Justice K N Basha and Justice S Nagamuthu while acquitting Raja of all charges on April 30. Flaying the sessions judge for such loose comments, the bench said: “These observations of the trial court are based merely on conjectures. It is not understood as to how the court could come to a judicial conclusion that a man and woman, if left alone, will always go for sexual intercourse.”
There are two schools of thought on the subject of ‘waning interest of Women in Sex’.
One states that women and men lose interest as Passionate Sex is replaced by Compassion Sex.
The other school argues that ‘remain perpetually high in order for them to produce many offspring, while female desire should decrease as their attention turns, historically, toward child-rearing.’
These studies seem to assume that the interest of Men and Women decrease in general and more so in a long term relationship.
Men do not lose interest in Sex but it is true that they lose interest with the same partner or in a long-term relationship.
But women do not admit their interest in Sex remain undiminished save in the circumstances applicable to men.
However, the interest of Both males and Females remain intact or even heightened in new relationships.
The reason is that in Sex mystery and the thrill of exploration heightens the interest.
This is missing in a long Relationship as the thrill, excitement and a sense of exploration is gone.
This is because in a long-term relationship things are taken for granted.
Sex is interesting so long as it is wrapped in mystery and remains seemingly difficult to achieve.
Women , at least in India, tend to neglect this, pay scant attention to their physical attributes and cease to be interesting to men.
In the case of women ,they do get the feeling of being tired and get excited by the prospect of uncharted territory.
The females while taking care of the child, is also interested in producing more offspring in different combinations.
This also applies to Males.
This may sound shocking to some.
But one should not forget that we are animals by definition and Mother Nature wants to propagate Species.
Sexual Health and interest in Sex will be good if one were to treat it as one treat Hunger/ Thirst, as basic instincts.
Only when you attribute values to them it becomes complicated.
Sex in neither sacred nor is it a Sin.
Take it as it is as one would, avoiding what is bad as one would in Food.
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New research is demonstrating what many people already knew from experience: Women lose interest in sex over time, while men don’t.
The finding has the potential to help couples, the researchers said. Knowing that many women’s sexual desire diminishes over the course of a relationship could encourage both partners to be more realistic about their sex lives, and could help them weather the changes in desire as they occur.
Sex researchers Sarah Murray and Robin Milhausen, both of the University of Guelph in Ontario, Canada, asked 170 undergraduate women and men who had been in heterosexual relationships for anywhere from one month to nine years to report on their levels of relationship satisfaction, sexual satisfaction and sexual desire. Desire was scored using an established model called the Female Sexual Function Index, which ranges from 1.2 to 6.0.
The participants reported being generally satisfied with their relationships and sex lives, but women reported lower levels of desire depending on the length of their relationship. “Specifically, for each additional month women in this study were in a relationship with their partner, their sexual desire decreased by 0.02 on the Female Sexual Function Index,” the authors wrote online Jan. 23 in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy.
In fact, relationship duration was a better predictor of sexual desire in women than both relationship and sexual satisfaction. While the 0.02 decrease in female desire was small, it contrasts with male desire, which held steady over time, the researchers said. [6 Scientific Tips for a Happy Relationship]
Evolution of desire
Scientists have disagreed on what happens to desire over the course of a relationship. “Some researchers suggest that both men’s and women’s desire would decrease over time as relationships move from passionate love to compassionate love,” said Murray, the lead study author and a doctoral candidate in human sexuality.
Yet evolutionary theorists predict that male desire should remain perpetually high in order for them to produce many offspring, while female desire should decrease as their attention turns, historically, toward child-rearing.
The new research points toward the latter theory, although longer-duration studies on different groups of people are still needed, Murray said.
Men consistently report higher levels of sexual desire than women. Differences in levels of hormones — testosterone, specifically — are believed to at least partially explain the gender divide.
Hormonal changes that occur as couples move from the passionate early stage to the compassionate later stage into monogamous relationships sometime between six and 30 months may also mediate changes in desire over time. Pharmaceutical companies are currently researching the impact of testosterone on women’s desire, but so far, the results have been inconclusive.
Hormones are only part of the story, Murray told LiveScience. “Although they are one piece of the sexual desire puzzle, focusing too heavily on hormones can remove the contextual factors that play into desire, such as whether or not a woman is in a satisfying, loving relationship, and if she has time to feel relaxed, playful and sexy,” she said.
Keeping the spark alive
The results could help researchers understand why women who seek sex therapy complain of low desire more than any other problem. Differences in levels of desire within couples, known as desire discrepancy, is a growing area of interest for therapists.
“The concept of an absolute level of ‘normal’ or ‘low’ sexual desire is being replaced by the view that low sexual desire is relative to one’s partner’s level of desire,” Murray said. But although desire discrepancy is known to negatively affect overall sexual and relationship satisfaction, very little else is understood about it, such as whether it contributes significantly to infidelity or breakups.
The new research could also help couples manage their relationships over time. In an earlier study, Murray found that women who reported more realistic expectations about what sex would be like in a long-term relationship also had higher levels of desire than those with less realistic expectations. “I think that individuals who expect to maintain the high level of excitement and passion that often exists in the first few months of a new relationship are setting up unrealistic expectations about what is to come and will be more disappointed when the desire and passion take on different forms,” she said.
Belgian researchers watched videos of women walking, and were able to tell whether they regularly had orgasms from intercourse.
At the Universiti Catholique de Louvain, Institut d’itudes de la famille et de la sexualiti, Louvain-la-Neuve, Belgium, they set about proving the theory right.
They took women with known histories of either vaginal orgasm or inability to orgasm from sex and videotaped them walking on the street, and their orgasmic status was judged by sexologists blind to their history.
‘In the sample of healthy young Belgian women, half of whom were vaginally orgasmic, history of vaginal orgasm that was triggered solely by penile-vaginal intercourse, was diagnosable at far better than chance.
The researchers think that, as well as having an effect on people’s mental health, orgasms can ‘loosen’ muscle groups.
They wrote: ‘Research has demonstrated the association between vaginal orgasm and better mental health. Some theories of psychotherapy assert a link between muscle blocks and disturbances of both character and sexual function. In Functional-Sexological therapy, one focus of treatment is amelioration of voluntary movement.
‘The present study examines the association of general everyday body movement with history of vaginal orgasm.’
The team said the objective was to determine if appropriately trained sexologists could infer women’s history of vaginal orgasm from observing only their gait.
BLOOMINGTON, IN—A new study released Monday by sociologists at Indiana University found that women will always answer their telephones unless mind-blowing sex with a man other than the caller prevents them from doing so.
The findings were consistent across all demographic groups in a sampling of 500 females between the ages of 18 to 35, which included women who were romantically involved with the caller but had requested some time apart to clear their heads, as well as women who had dated the caller briefly but assumed it was understood by both parties that the relationship had not worked out.
“No matter who they were, or what their perceived or actual relationship with the male caller was, women who failed to pick up the phone were statistically all but certain to be deep in the throes of coital passion with one or more virile lovers at the time of the call,” researcher Patrick Berger said. “In addition, a vast majority of the female participants we observed had seemingly forgotten all about the relationship they once had with the caller, and were, in fact, completely consumed by the vaginal gratification they were currently receiving.”
“A type of gratification they would hesitate to even call ‘sex,’ since it was so much more intense and transcendent than any kind of sex they had experienced before,” Berger added.
The study revealed that 80 percent of the time, women who declined to answer their phones were, at that very moment, being sexually pleasured by a man superior to the caller in terms of looks, genital endowment, and stamina. Researchers also found that a majority of women picked up the phone, examined the caller ID, and told their male lover “It’s nobody” before continuing with sexual intercourse.
In another 15 percent of cases, female research subjects had just journeyed to a land of pure sexual delight with another man and were, at the time the phone rang, smoking a cigarette while letting their fingertips graze over the unusually thick penis that had just brought them to, on average, four orgasms. The remaining 5 percent of non-answerers consisted of women who were stimulating their own genitals, either while talking on the phone to another man, instant-messaging another man, or simply imagining another man who had sexually turned them inside out on a recent occasion.
Vaginal intercourse in the man-on-top missionary position can feel wonderful: the physical closeness, the emotional intimacy, and for many people, the feeling that this position is a very important part of what sex is all about.
But the missionary position can also be problematic: According to a great deal of research, only 25 percent of women are consistently orgasmic in man-on-top sex, no matter what size the penis nor how vigorous or prolonged the intercourse.
Eighty-five percent of American men say the last person they had sex with had an orgasm. And yet, only 64 percent of American women say they had an orgasm the last time they had sex. What’s going on, guys?
The “orgasm gap”—which is too big to be explained away by men whose most recent sexual encounter was with another man—is one of the findings of a huge new national sex survey, the largest since 1994, undertaken by Indiana University’s Center for Sexual Health Promotion and published in a special issue of the Journal of Sexual Medicine available here.
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