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  • Kids(9-12) Share Parent’s Credit Card Details and Personal Information -McAfee Survey-Effective Solution?

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    The Threat of internet to  children is not to be underestimated.

    Now we have Children sharing vital personal information of themselves and Parent‘s Credit card details on the net..

    This information is highly dangerous as the potential kidnappers can evaluate their victims.

    And the same report also mentions that Bangalore logs 28%(second in India,first being Bombay with 40%) of Browsing adult contents.

    Please follow the Links below for details.

    The tendency of parents to substitute money and gadgets for their children is one of the reasons.

    With Double income parents on the rise, parents spend little time with children.

    To assuage their guilt over not finding time to spend with children, they place money and gadgets at the disposal of vulnerable children.

    Parents must choose what is more important in their Life children’s welfare  or economic prosperity to meet unwanted and addictive  items and habits.

    Shifting blame to internet Technology and changing world is only a feeble attempt of refusing to face the reality of not caring  the children.

    Children seek expression and comfort in the internet which has been denied to them at Home.

    Parents are well advised to take care before it becomes too late.

    Some technical help is provided by technology to combat this problem.

    Even this has become suspect.

    Read this as well.

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    A Federal class action suit filed by Rosen, Bien & Galvin, out of San Francisco alleges that McAfee uses deceptive techniques to “trick” users into handing their credit card information to a third party partner.

    After entering the information, previously undisclosed charges charges appear on the user’s credit bill.  The suit alleges that when the user attempts to contact the third party to cancel the “service” they receive a recording that states it “does not offer cancellation or subscription services

    http://inforensics.vidocrazor.com/2010/04/08/mcafee-alleged-to-hand-subscriber-credit-cards-to-third-party/ )

    However one must remember that this is only a temporary one and lasting solution is attention to children.

    You track and lock the computer or sites.

    What next?

    Children are going to agree with you and stop these activities?

    Think.

    McAfee commissioned Synovate, to conduct a comprehensive research titled ‘How safe are Indian kids online?’ across 10 cities- New Delhi, Mumbai, Pune, Ludhiana, Kolkata, Ahmedabad, Bangalore, Chennai, Hyderabad, and Cochin, covering 500 children and 496 parents. Following are key highlights of the revelations from this survey: (Please refer to Annexure 1 for a detailed analysis of the survey)

    · 62% of all polled kids have shared personal information online.

    · 58% kids share their home addresses on the internet.

    · 39% of all polled kids do not tell their parents about these online activities

    · 12% of all polled kids had been victims of some kind of cyber threat

    -12% share parent’s credit card details…..

    In the context of these newfound online threats, McAfee Family Protection offers a host of essential features to enable Indian families in monitoring their children’s online activities:

    · Age-Appropriate Settings – Settings are customized according to age-groups;

    · Filtering for Music and Online Games –Parents can decide what rating of content children have access to. Types of filtering include:

    o Songs with explicit lyrics from iTunes

    o Access to online gaming sites

    o Viewing of objectionable videos on YouTube

    · Encrypted website blocking blocks teens from accessing proxy sites so they cannot try to bypass content filters;

    · Program blocking enables parents to block any program, including file sharing networks which can lead to malware infections on PCs;

    · Instant messaging monitoring enables parents to monitor and record complete instant message conversations to alert them of improper dialogue with strangers;

    · Time limits help families manage the amount of time their children spend online: families are able to set the day and/or time for when their child can access the Internet;

    · Email blocking pre-approves email accounts that a child is able to access and blocks emails from unknown sources;

    · Instant email alerts can be sent to parents when access to objectionable material is attempted;

    · Social network filtering records all social network postings that contain profanity and posts that include confidential information that has been predetermined by parents–such as a home address, phone, school name, etc

    McAfee Family Protection incorporates technology from McAfee® Safe Eyes® software, which has won the following awards:

    Ranked #1 in parental control programs in the European Commission Report , earning the highest overall score of 29 filtering products
    · The National Parenting Center’s 2011 Seal of Approval two years in a row

    · Winner of PC Magazine’s Editor’s Choice Award two years in a row

    · Rated #1 in Independent Testing of 11 Leading Products

    · Outstanding Score of 4.5 out of 5 by MacFan Magazine

    For additional information on where to purchase McAfee Family Protection, please visit

    http://home.mcafee.com/Store/family-protection 

    http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/bangalore/Your-kids-are-vulnerable-online-too/articleshow/8956137.cms

  • Man Raised by Parents Struggling to Adjust to Society?

    I have not been able to get the correct meaning from the Web.Nor could I understand it contextually.

    The nearest answer is;

    “It’s a spoof. I think the divorce rate in the US is like 60% or something high like that. “Mated Parents” in this case is a married man and woman who DON’T divorce. I”

    http://www.cafemom.com/answers/826978/What_does_it_mean_to_be_raised_by_a_pair_of_mated_parents

    Assuming this is correct maladjustments are due to breaking down of family System and the “Free Living”.

    People who can not raise a child have business to have one ,either through mating or Adoption.

    You can not punish some one else for your ‘Freedom’

    MINNEAPOLIS—Two years after his discovery by a team of developmental psychologists, David Sullivan, a man raised by a pair of mated parents, is still struggling to adapt to normal human society, sources confirmed Friday.

    According to researchers at the University of Minnesota, Sullivan, 25, has made significant progress since moving into his own apartment in 2009, but the decades he spent being reared by parents has made joining civilization a desperately difficult task.

    “The chances of David ever becoming socialized to the point where he can function normally among humans is very slim,” said Dr. Lisa Reynolds, a psychologist who has observed Sullivan since he was first introduced into the real world. “The sheltered, isolated environment in which he spent his adolescence has left him completely unequipped to deal with modern life. Tasks that may seem simple to us, such as doing laundry or grocery shopping, completely baffle David.”

    http://www.theonion.com/articles/man-raised-by-parents-struggling-to-adjust-to-huma,20263/

    Related:

    My parents got divorced when I was nine years old. Rapidly increasing divorce rates is a phenomenon which has drawn an extreme amount of attention from psychologists. Studies have been done linking children of divorced parents to changing IQ scores (dropping), dysfunctional relationships, and increased likelihood for psychological disorders. Psychologists have already begun drawing conclusions about what the ramifications for society will be when the majority of individuals will come from non-nuclear family households.

    http://somescientistsbelieve.wordpress.com/2011/04/13/developmental-psychology-myself-as-a-case-study/

  • Remarriage,does it work?

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    Relationship does not work on Statistics.

    Those who remarry are inclined to compare the present spouse with the former one, whatever the reasons for Divroce might be.This creates tensions and arguments , one of the main reasons for divorces..( comparisons are present in first marriages as well,but definitely not with the same intensity)

    Any relationship is based on compromises-‘Me first marriages’ read my blog on this;- unless this is understood, any marriage is bound to fail.

    As for children, they are affected psychologically by a second marriage,statistics not withstanding.

    Ask any child about it.

    Value for family system is the bedrock on which the well being of the individual and the society is built.

    Story:

    Sharon Sassler is an associate professor in the department of policy analysis and management at Cornell.

    Previously married people have probably heard the warning that divorce rates are even higher in second marriages. But I ask you, how could remarriage possibly be any worse? After all, 100 percent of marriages ended unhappily among the currently divorced. Second marriages on average cannot possibly fare any worse statistically.

    Yes, second marriages have a high failure rate. But dissolution rates are far greater among cohabiting couples of any age.

    Just as with marriage rates overall, remarriage rates have declined. Divorced individuals are increasingly choosing cohabitation as an alternative to marriage. Living together is sometimes believed to be a safer, if less formal, relationship.

    But the reality is that dissolution rates are higher among cohabiting couples than remarried couples. According to results from the National Survey of Family Growth, only 13 percent of cohabitations remained intact (that is, did not make the transition into a marriage or dissolve) after five years; in contrast, 77 percent of couples that remarried were still together five years after the ceremony. The odds of remaining in a long-term partnership are higher when there is a legal tie.

    As for those who are parents, remarriage is sometimes unfairly maligned for the impact it can have on children. It is often difficult for children to adjust to a parent’s new spouse, and on average, research shows that children who spend time in step-families fare less well than those who grow up with married biological parents.

    But on many dimensions children whose parents enter into second marriages have better outcomes than do children whose parents cohabit. They are less likely to drink or smoke, have higher levels of economic well-being, and as adults have better relationship quality than their counterparts whose divorced parents formed cohabiting unions or remained solo. Parents’ intimate relationships serve as templates for their children, long after the divorce and its aftermath.

    Finally, looking at those who do remarry reveals a well-kept secret.

    Just as the advantaged are now more likely to tie the knot in the first place, they are also more likely to remarry following a divorce. Men, for example, are more likely to remarry than are women (especially if they are custodial fathers), and remarriage rates are also higher for whites and the college educated. That suggests that marriage – even second marriages confers social, legal, and personal benefits that those in positions of power or authority take advantage of.

    Remarriage may be less beneficial among those nearing retirement age. Some recent studies have found that later-life cohabitations are more stable than those entered into by younger adults, though they are still less durable than remarriages. There may be other reasons to avoid remarriages among those who are retirement-aged; concerns with children’s inheritance, reliance on a former spouse’s pension, or a desire sometimes expressed by widows to enjoy the chance to do what they want without concerning themselves with another’s wishes.

    But for those interested in establishing intimate relationships with new partners, there are many reasons, well supported with the scholarly research, to put aside the fear of failure that divorce represents to many Americans, and engage in “the triumph of hope over experience.

    http://health.dir.groups.yahoo.com/group/public_awareness/message/2248

  • ADHD ‘is not bad behaviour’.

    Abnormal or normal behavior is a value judgment.Many of us impose our views of behavior on children.
    If one is sloth or a martinet, then behavior of the child may be viewed differently based on one’s nature.
    In the present day, people tend to seek immediate,instant solution for everything , including children behavior.
    Children are children.Merely because they do not conform to our standard of behavior, it does not mean they are sick.
    Trying to find a physiological/psychiatric solution shall compound the problem.
    Children follow parents behavior and the child needs to have a normal stable family. Ido not know how many parents’ background has been taken into account along with the status of their married life.
    Behavior of children shall drastically vary in each case.
    Normal behavior( again a relative term) can be expected of children if the home is stable and proper parenting, by which I mean personal attention ,not money alone with personal attention and sharing of children’s emotion and feelings, is done.
    Children must be treated as a kings till 10 years,as a slaves till 15 years and as  friends after 15.To achieve this our behavior should be exemplary.
    Children not doing well in class is not the criterion to classify the child as  a problem child as also being cantankerous can be taken as a sign of  bad behavior.
    Stable family ,Faith( of any nature),Family values and courteous behavior by parents, the ability to understand the child’s likes and dislikes  and effective verbal and non verbal communication shall ensure that the child  develops into a normal adult.
    Story.

    A child is being disruptive in the classroom – not paying attention, talking and annoying those around him. Does he have Attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder? Or is he simply badly-behaved?

    Children jumping on sofa Experts say bad behaviour is distinct from ADHD

    It is a question many parents may have asked themselves about their child or about someone else’s.

    But experts say if parents think their child may have ADHD, they are probably right.

    Bad behaviour is intermittent and often premeditated, experts say.

    http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-11443945

    Misbehavior is caused by bad parenting, right? That has always been said, but that child in the grocery store might not be a brat – he might have a medical problem.

    Not Bad Parenting – Medical Causes of Behavior: Some Conditions that Affect Children’s Behavior http://www.suite101.com/content/not-bad-parenting-medical-causes-of-behavior-a70954#ixzz11vGTG6L7

    Children with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, also known as ADHD, are very energetic and can cause a great deal of frustration for parents that don’t know how to deal with their sometimes outrageous behaviors. ADHD children sometimes seem as if they are driven by a motor, the Energizer Bunny that never stops! They also have a difficult time sitting still, often squirming in their seats or fidgeting with anything they can get their hands on. ADHD kids also seem to talk excessively, the non-stop chatter can be frustrating and even overwhelming, especially when it’s combined with the creative sound effects that these children are so good at. Whether it is talking, whistling, or clicking their tongues against the roof of their mouths, ADHD children are continually making some sort of noise!

    How does a tired and overwhelmed parent deal with these hard to handle children?

    1. ONE THING AT A TIME! Parents should realize that they can’t change all of the child’s undesirable behaviors at once. Focus on one specific behavior that you would like to change. It doesn’t necessarily have to be one of the most annoying or distracting behaviors. It could be something as simple as remembering to put his toys away when he is finished playing with them. Remember that ADHD children forget things quickly, they need several gentle reminders to help them remember. When it is almost time to clean up, start reminding the child that he will have to put all of his toys back into his toy box as soon as he is finished playing with them. Many ADHD children respond better when they know something is going to happen, surprises or a change of routine may throw them off-guard and cause them to act out.2. STAY CALM! Although it may be difficult, try your best to remain calm even when the child’s behaviors are at their worst. When you get angry or scream and yell at the child, it will NOT make his behavior improve, it will make his bad behavior increase. Couple that with your bad reaction to his behavior, and a real crisis could result. Many children, particularly ADHD children, will strive for attention, even if it is NEGATIVE attention. If the behavior is something that can be ignored (something that is not dangerous or potentially harmful to anyone), try ignoring the behavior. In some cases if the child sees that he is not getting your attention with his actions, he may stop the behavior. However, in some instances the child may try to outsmart your ignoring technique and increase the actions of his bad behavior. If after several minutes the child continues with his behavior, you probably need to intervene. Try putting the child in Time Out for a few minutes, usually the amount of minutes should correspond to the child’s age. While the child is in Time Out, do not talk to the child. This will teach the child that his negative behavior will not earn him your attention, but his good behavior will. Explain to your child WHY he is being put in Time Out and that you will talk to him as soon as he gets out.

    3. A FIRM ROUTINE! ADHD children function best when they have a firm routine to adhere to. Spontaneity is not a friend to the ADHD child

    . Knowing what to expect and when to expect it can decrease a lot of bad behaviors. If the child’s bed time is 8:00 p.m., you should have him start getting ready for bed 30 minutes sooner, knowing that his ADHD behavior will require him to be forewarned. Establish a routine where you tell your child that he has 30 minutes until bedtime. Remind him again when it is 15 minutes until bedtime. Make sure that he is in bed at 8:oo p.m. if that is the bed time you have chosen. Establish a similar routine for homework, getting ready for school or in whatever category your child needs more structure.

    4. ESTABLISH A BEHAVIOR MODIFICATION PLAN! A Behavior Modification chart should not only take away privileges when the child displays the wrong behaviors, but it should reward the child when something is done successfully, or when the child has tried his best! Make a chart of behaviors that are acceptable as well as ones that are not acceptable. Make sure that the child knows that his good behavior will reward him with something he wants (stickers, a new toy, watching a movie of his choice, etc.). Always be consistent with your Behavior Modification techniques. Your child will soon learn that not putting his toys away means that he will have to go to bed 15 minutes early. If you need help creating a Behavior Modification plan, check your local library, there are several books available aimed at helping parents to create an effective Behavior Modification chart for their child.

    5. GET SUPPORT! There are many organizations that bring parents, teachers and doctors together to discuss ADHD and how it affects your child and your family. One such group is C.H.A.D.D., Children and Adults with Attention Deficit Disorder. All parents of ADHD children feel overwhelmed at times. Support groups, such as C.H.A.D.D., are not only a wonderful way for parents to get together to discuss behaviors and techniques, but the group leaders often have some of the latest information and medical updates on the disorder. Check your local newspaper or phone book for times and meeting places, or you can search for C.H.A.D.D. on the Internet.

    Different children respond to different methods of Behavior Modification. Above all, be consistent in your approach to dealing with your child. ADHD children need a very strict routine, any changes may upset them. All parents of ADHD children know how frustrating and overwhelming it can be to deal with the child’s behaviors

    at times. If you feel that you cannot deal with the child at that moment, take a few minutes in a separate room to calm down. Remember that you are not Wonder Woman or Superman: if you need help don’t be afraid to ask for it.

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  • Who is family?

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    Family initially consisted of,after social orderIndiachildren‘s family. was established,in at least, parents,Grand parents, Brothers’ family and

    Now the concept of Joint joint family in India is dwindling and it is a joint family if husband and wifehouse. stay together in a

    Acceptance of gays and lesbians as a member of the family is inevitable as the values are changing.

    We do not know whether it is for the better.

    Whatever be the  definition of family the principle is emotional and spiritual bonding and support.

    It does not matter who constitute a family but do they fulfill the above criteria ?That’s important.

    Joint family as stated in the beginning of this blog is ideal.

    Story:

    NEW YORK (AP) — As much as Americansrevere the family, they differ sharply on how to define it.

    New research released Wednesday shows steadily increasing recognition of unmarried couples — gay and straight — as families. But there’s a solid core resisting this trend who are more willing to include pets in their definition than same-sex partners.

    http://www.usatoday.com/yourlife/parenting-family/2010-09-16-family-definition_N.htm?csp=34news&utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed:+UsatodaycomHealth-TopStories+(News+-+Health+-+Top+Stories)

    Related article.

    Whether modern lifestyle that we are leading is correct.We have to go to villages small cities to learn about happy living. A lots of things have to looked into to lead good lifestyle. Read the article for all these.

    http://socyberty.com/society/modern-life/

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