I do not Kids who speak and act beyond their age.
It robs them of the charm of childhood.
In some of the Reality shows in India ,some kids speak and act much beyond their age and to me it is revolting.
I am more shocked that parents appreciate and encourage it.
Barring Geniuses, these upstarts normally end up as good for nothing!
Read a news item on this.
There are always things to which we should say to.
Saying ‘Yes’ to some thing is relatively easier than saying .No’ for when you say ‘Yes’ you can always say that you said ‘yes’ and that eases your conscience.
At best you can shift the blame for blind following, an error.
But saying /No’ is tougher.
When you say ,No’ . the mind has a tendency to focus on the best things that could have happened by saying ‘Yes’ instead of “no.
And saying ‘no’ often involves getting away from the established habits.
There are things that merit a ‘No’ right from the early stages.
We might leave the child hood out of this.
“No” to.
Harsh words.
Liquor.
Promiscuous behavior.
Reaching the Moon.
Physical Harm, to self and others.
Certain Foods that are not conducive to Health.
The need to say No’ increases as you age, especially after 50.
I read an interesting article in aol.
These are things to say ‘Yes’ to.
Especially after 50.
There are things to say ‘No’ to.
Post Follows.
Most important is- say No to ‘Temptation To Offer Advice”
In probably the First Divorce in India granted on Wife Swapping ground, this story makes fora sad and angry reading.
The judge ,in his wisdom, let off the couple with merely granting the Divorce.
The Boy should have been charged under SITA(what an acronym for Suppression of Immoral Traffic Act.
The girl should also have been charged under the same section, as she had taken time and there is no mention of Rape(This calls for the re-definition of Rape-read my blog on this)
Is is that the girl had brought the charge because she did not like the ‘partner’ she had?
Cleverly, probably under the advice(?) of a Lawyer she had admitted consuming Liquor .
She had informed her in-laws?
What did she inform?
I know of a Star Hotel in Anna Salai -Chennai, where the wife swapping takes place during week ends.
Be wary or eager ( depends on how you view it) of special entrances charges upwards of Rs 3000/ head with discounts for Couple and drinks on the house on weekends.
The process of wife swapping is very simple and ingenious.
The couple ,whenever they want to leave,just exchange car keys -the usual destination is OMR Road,resorts/individual houses on rent.
What could be the reasons?
It is not as though this is happening now.
Even 15 or years back such instances were there.
Now the incidents are on the rise.
The advent of IT Industry, pay package, the pampered cocooned atmosphere, the atmosphere to mix , the illusion of Life as being ‘Great’, ‘Cool’”awesome’ and easy monetary success contribute to this.
IT industry produces the best paid , most restless,emotionally unstable sad human beings.
Please wake up.
Worse still that the people involved do not even feel it is immoral.
Being immoral is pardonable, Amoral is not.
Story:
“By Umesh R Yadav – BANGALORE
23rd October 2012 09:30 AM
It might be one among the many divorce cases in the city. But what made it unusual were the grounds on which the divorce was granted — wife-swapping.
Granting divorce to Bhavya (29) (name changed) recently, a family court judge observed: “Practices like wife-swapping spoil Indian society, and people should not forget their culture and tradition by being attracted towards foreign lifestyles.”
In her petition seeking divorce, Bhavya of Chikmagalur said she was married to Dhanush (name changed), a software engineer residing at Jayanagar, three years ago. Both of them were attracted towards lavish western lifestyles. They used to go to late night parties and discos, and Dhanush used to introduce her to his friends, she said.
Bhavya further said sometimes they used to drink together, and Dhanush encouraged his friends to get too close to her. Dhanush also used to get intimate with wives of his friends. Recently, Dhanush and his friends arranged a party at a resort near Nelamangala, where they had brought their wives. At that party, they all drank and Bhavya was completely under the influence of alcohol. They spent the night there.
When Bhavya turned sober the next morning, she found one of Dhanush’s friends sleeping on her bed.
When she informed her husband of that, Dhanush seemed to be knowing about the “arranged incident”, and asked her not to discuss it with any one, Bhavya said.
After that incident, Bhavya refused to go to parties with him. But soon, Dhanush started compelling her to accompany him to parties. When she protested and informed her in-laws about it, he started torturing her.
Unable to bear it any more, she went to her parents’ house and stayed there for one-and-a-half years, but Dhanush continued to torture her, she said in her complaint.”
http://newindianexpress.com/cities/bangalore/article1311119.ece
Related.
What a helpful TV Programme?
Wife swapping is a hit for subscription television channel LifeStyle You, with Wife Swap Australiaranking as the number one entertainment programme on the Foxtel and Austar platform on Monday evening.
The premiere of Wife Swap Australia became the channel’s highest rating programme to date with 163,811 viewers.
The Twittersphere lit up too, as #wifeswapau became Australia’s top trending topic for the night.
Wife Swap Australia gives a whole new meaning to domestic bliss and lifts the lid on what it means to be Australian in the 21st century. The programme offers no cash rewards, but seeks to help couples reestablish their love and commitment to each other.
The series runs over ten weeks.
http://www.mediaspy.org/2012/01/11/wife-swapping-delivers-for-foxtel-and-austar/
Of all the things MA has not understood Sex is one thing he has understood the least.
People earn for it ,yet they do not know why.
New Study on Why we have Sex is quite revealing or even shocking.
Read On.
“Sex is hard to explain,” writes Michael Brothurst in a recent article in the journal Science. Like others in his field, Brothurst, who studies the evolution of sexual reproduction at the University of Liverpool, doesn’t “get” men….
The most likely explanation is known as the Red Queen hypothesis, named after the monarch in Lewis Carroll‘s “Through the Looking Glass.” In that novella, Alice and the Red Queen hold a race in which they run in place but never get anywhere. Somewhat analogously, the Red Queen hypothesis holds that organisms and the parasites that live on them are running a race in which they constantly evolve in response to each other’s genetic mutations , maintaining an overall balance. [Read: Sex Stats: Virgins On the Rise ]
As parasites evolve to take advantage of the weaknesses of a typical host organism, Brothurst explains, host organisms with rare versions of genes, known as alleles, are less susceptible to the parasites, and so stand a better chance of surviving to their reproductive age; likewise, their offspring are endowed with these advantageous alleles. As a result, over generations these organisms’ rare alleles become more common in the population, so parasites start evolving to take them on. At that point new unusual alleles begin to flourish among the hosts.
Sex, the theory holds, gives host organisms a leg-up on this evolutionary treadmill. “This continual selection for rarity favors sexual reproduction over asexual reproduction; sexual recombination allows hosts to reshuffle their pack of alleles and generate new, rare combinations in their offspring,” Brothurst writes.
http://www.lifeslittlemysteries.com/1607-why-sex-evolved.html
The survey, I am not sure, how scientific it is.
The size of the sample and cultural back ground seems inadequate for any real conclusions.
The answers need not be correct.
If women go out with men without being unaware of the men’s interest in them for more than sex, you can not expect them to be aware of the feelings for men to enable them to answer the questions!
However some interesting points:
1.The age old wisdom that there is no such thing as ‘ friend ship with out sex between men and women’ is true.
2. Middle aged Men’s interest in women who are younger remain the same if they are Single than the younger men.
3.Interestingly Women’s interest in Men remain the same at all ages!
Specific questions on a married men’s/women’s interest in the opposite sex might have elicited interesting information.
Sex is the basic instinct.
You can not help it.
It is as good as bas as Hunger.
Your study does not change it or your awareness of it.
Sex is neither a sin nor is it sacred,
So long as it does not affect you emotionally,socially( which is very rare), i
Story:
Researchers have found that men’s friendships with the opposite sex are driven by sexual attraction, regardless of whether they are single.
Women, however, are more likely to consider their friendships with men as platonic – and only hoped for more if their own relationship was in trouble.
The scientists’ findings mirror the plot of 1989 film When Harry Met Sally, in which Harry, played by Billy Crystal, tells Meg Ryan’s Sally: ‘Men and women can’t be friends because the sex part always gets in the way.’
The researchers said the study had ‘potential negative consequences’ for people in long-term relationships.
They said the impact of work, hobbies and university has seen friendships between men and women reach unprecedented levels.
But our mating instincts, which have evolved over hundreds of thousands of years, may get in the way.
n a survey, 88 pairs of young male and female friends were asked to rate their attraction to each other in a confidential questionnaire.
Men – whether attached or single – were more likely to be attracted to their female friends and want to go on a date with them than the other way around.
They also assumed their female friends were more romantically interested in them than they actually were – and women tended to be unaware of this
Single and attached women showed the same level of attraction to their male friend. But attached women tended only to want something to come of that attraction if their relationship was in trouble.
Women were also less attracted to attached men.
A second questionnaire for 140 middle-aged people, who were almost all married, found levels of attraction between male and female friends fairly equal. Middle-aged men’s attraction to their female friends was much lower than that of the younger men, except among those who were single.
For women, levels of attraction had stayed the same.
Participants of both questionnaires said they gained benefits from friendship with the opposite sex including getting good advice and boosting their confidence, according to the study in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships.
Those who did harbour a secret crush were five times more likely to see it as a potential problem than a benefit. But more men than women saw it as a perk.
The authors of the study, from the University of Wisconsin, said films and television programmes had helped instill the idea that normal friends can easily become ‘friends with benefits’ – friends who have sex with each other.
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