I read an interesting article in The Telegraph ” How to be a Lady in the 21 Century‘.
It had a Professional teaching manners explaining the writer on the above subject.
It conveyed the point that women of the day are not being polite as they were before.
They swear too much.
They wear skimpy Dresses.
Women are bitchy at their work place.
Let’s see how women have changed in India in the last 20 years,in my experience.
The first thing that comes to my mind is that they call their Husbands by Name and use Singular in Public which was unthinkable.
I think some of the women of the Day are also uncomfortable, as my daughter confirmed.
This becomes an embarrassment when their small child addresses both byName and Singular!
I have seen them squirm.
Dressing the less they wear, the more ogling eyes, but it leaves the essential of Sex, Mystery!
As a wag remarked ‘a completely Nude woman is an ungainly sight!’
The absence of Coyness and courtship in Love.
I am not too sure how many women know the meaning of the term ‘coy”
The word is nearly dead.
Approaching girl, following her)not stalking) imaging one’s life with her was thrilling and a pleasure.
Now see, take out and ….?
Yet they remain the same.
Usual nagging, not allowing Husband’s relatives as freely as they would theirs,
Comparing their Status with all and sundry including their sisters( brothers are not in this list) and being jealous.
Possessive about their children and Husband.
Taking care of them.
Eternally dissatisfied with their Husband’s their Status.
Accumulation of junk at Home.
On Sexual behavior . I think that it remains the same as it was.
The only difference is that the News is spreads quicker and you have no place to hide!
Story:
“Being a lady today is about the same principles it always was – there are just different expectations,” Hanson explains with a smile. “It’s all about elegance and confidence and the behaviour doesn’t need to be something straight out of a Jane Austen novel.”
In a nutshell – being a lady to Hanson is about treating people with respect, having self respect (so not being drunk and disorderly) and having your own personality – but not being abrupt with people (as he so often thinks people are today). And all of these traits are to be taken into the workplace, instead of the home – which is where the majority of women spend the bulk of their time…..
he thinks that the demise of manners and society’s treatment of each other, has affected men and women equally. Hanson doesn’t long for the days when women were chained to the kitchen sink. He longs for everyone to remember the importance of social grace.
“Manners are all about putting other people at ease and thinking about others,” he says simply. “We have become increasingly selfish as a society.” And it is this vision I can buy into – as I find myself sitting up a little straighter as we talk…
What do women do today that they shouldn’t?
But seriously, what does Hanson think is specifically ‘unladylike’ about modern women’s behaviour today?
“I think women are swearing too much. I think they are drinking too much and I see them regularly falling into gutters on nights out. It’s fine to drink, but not to the point where you can’t control yourself,” he explains. And it is at this point I start to bristle a little.
“I also think women are sharing too much today. I was sat on the train the other day and a woman got on board and began talking very loudly about her private life on her phone. The whole carriage learned everything about her existence.”
He then also shares with me the rules around skirt length. Apparently a lady should never really wear any garment which is comes up higher than the knee. On the knee is fine and so is slightly above – but you must be wearing tights, preferably dark ones…
Hanson assures me the rules of engagement and society that he teaches cross to the place of work – but I am not too convinced on this on. I believe women in the workplace are all too often accused of being hard, or aggressive when trying to get across their points in difficult scenarios – an insult not directed at men – when making similar points in similar tones.
I am assured that the documentary host, Rachel Johnson, shares this concern. How can ‘one’ be a lady and a hard-ass at work – the two don’t seem to mix.
Hanson advises women to always keep their cool and keep their voices controlled in all scenarios. This will always reap the best outcome. But what about passion I counter? What about those moments when you need to row, both at home and in the workplace? Can you still be considered a ‘lady’ if and when you need to fight?
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/womens-life/9952908/How-to-be-a-lady-in-the-21st-century.html
Some books may give you an idea.
Multicultural Manners ,Essential Etiquette for the 21 st Century by Roger Axtell.
21st Century Etiquette Guide by Charlotte Ford, Jacqueline DeMontravel.
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