As one ages, the question of keeping one’s Respect really matters.
Though one may delude himself/herself that the opinion of others do not count, one knows in the heart of hearts that one looks forward to/yearns for it.
This is but natural as the Human Psyche expects approval to sustain its emotional needs.
At a young age it is in the form of ‘peer Approval’ and at later stages it is ‘Respect’.
It is a difficult Art to get respect and more difficult is to maintain it.
More so from one’s near and dear, despite the oft stated ‘true Love doesn’t need expression either in the form of demonstrated Love or Respect.
Absence of these, leads to Strained Relationships.
How to earn Respect and how to maintain it?
1.By Strength of Character.
2.Reliability.
3.Resilience in times of Adversity.
4.The Gift of Forgiving.
5.Tolerance.
6.Acceptance of what Life has offered.
7.Not offering Advice when not asked.When people ask you for Advice,it is generally for the endorsement their views.
8.Knowledge.
9.Humility.
I came across an article which was interesting and am reproducing the Excerpts.
“We need to take care of ourselves first, meaning we need to:
- Expand our mind through learning and reading
- Improve our bodies through exercise and healthy eating
- Refresh our spirit through practices to center our soul and keep us on a purpose-filled path
Self-respect puts substance on our presence. It is not a one-time activity. It is a continuous flow of self-enhancement, self-awareness, and self-empowerment.
The point is self-respect needs to be at the core of how we gain respect in our community, workplace, family, and other places of interaction. Self-respect, however, is not arrogance. Arrogance rarely, if ever, inspires respect……..
Humility denotes self-confidence coupled with an understanding of place. By place, I mean we are not above others or certain standards. We hold ourselves accountable to a higher calling.
Humility is strength in who we are and what we are called to do while always being aware of how we fit into the world and support others around us. Yes, a long way to simply say “If you want respect, don’t put yourself above others in an inappropriate or superior way.”
Even better, as Kate Nasser recently pointed out in a blog post:
“Consider replacing the weak image of humility with a picture of its authentic strengths. Tapping others’ talents shows your confidence. Hearing others’ opinions expands your view. Celebrating the whole instead of yourself extends your reach.”………
To gain and retain respect, we need to act. Respect is about doing good works and inspiring others. It is not about recognition; it is about helping out and lifting up others. Our actions will really determine what level of respect we have.
Our actions may include:
- Mentoring others in the workplace or mentor kids who don’t have a father (seeThe Mentoring Project)
- Volunteering at school
- Getting involved in a community project
- Starting a leadership group to raise insights
- Smiling and engaging people in conversations
- Doing something positive often!
Being active translates into doing more than the minimum at home, work, andcommunity. Respect gains more traction and staying power when our work is demonstrated more fully in more places…….
A way to think of these four practices for getting and keeping respect can center on four core questions:
- Who are we? Leads to self-respect.
- How do we do things? Embraces humility.
- What do we do? Incorporates purpose-filled actions.
- Why do we do things? Inspires solid, positive big and small choices.
- http://www.thindifference.com/2012/06/14/how-to-get-and-keep-respect-4-practices/?utm_campaign=Feed%3A%20ThinDifference%20%28Thin%20Difference%29&utm_medium=feed&utm_source=feedburner
Related articles
- Tips on How to Get Someone Back (socyberty.com)
- Humility (thedarkglobe.wordpress.com)
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