I am hurt.
I am unhappy.
These are the most heard from people.
This is also reported to be cause of Stress.
People attribute this to the changed Lifestyle and a host of other factors, like work pressure,peer Pressure.
But there are more fundamental issues involved.
One is regarding our-self.
Another is how we behave with others.
Regarding the first point, our attitude of Comparing ourselves starts in childhood.
Parents would like children to be what they have failed to be and force them into doing what they may not prefer.
Parents compare their children with other children and force the children.
Then comes the way of behaving.
They are taught what the others follow and this even in matters of Food and dressing.
There is a fine line between good behaviour and aping others, especially the West.
Then Education.
We study what guarantees high income, without bothering whether one has the aptitude or attitude for it.
Lifestyle again.
We acquire , not things we need, but what we think others will be envious about.
That’s the point.
We allow ourselves to be conditioned by the others.
Why?
Because we want to be what they are.
Bottom line of this, we are jealous of them.
But this remains hidden in our heart.
Jealousy, trying to become what we are not and our striving t be like them is the cause for our ills.
This is what we should avoid.
Closely connected to this is our desire , avarice.
We fail to distinguish between Wants and Needs.
Blind desire blurs the line between the two.
Desires are fine.
We should be able to channelized desires, not allow desires to direct our lives, or Desire is impulsive and does not envisage the future problems arising out of satisfying the desires.
If we can avoid Jealousy and Desire, avarice, quality of our Lives would improve.
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