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  • Why do women fake orgasms? A study.

    Any activity that relates to response to instincts is purely a reflex action and not deliberate.

    This has been proved now.

    This applies to every being.

    Guys, I know you’re going to find this hard to believe, but sometimes some women pretend to have orgasms during sex. No really, it’s true. In a recent survey, 54% of women admitted to faking it. (Obviously, your lady friend is definitely not part of that 54%.)

    For the longest time, conventional wisdom has held that the reason women fake orgasms is to protect the fragile male ego from the disappointment of failing to satisfy. But now researchers are starting to think it has nothing to do with making dudes feel good about themselves in that sense.

    An interesting new study headed up by Dr. Farnaz Kaighobadi at Columbia University has found that faking orgasm is more closely associated with the level of insecurity a woman has about the status of her relationship. In other words, the more she fears her man may stray, the more likely she is to be a thespian in the sack.

    But this isn’t necessarily a conscious strategy. As Dr. Kaighobadi explains, “Pretending orgasm may be part of a broader strategy of mate retention available to women to maintain their intimate relationship.”

    In other words, faking orgasms may actually be an evolutionary adaptation. Previous research suggested that the evolutionary purpose of the female orgasm may have been to retain sperm from genetically superior mates—with the ability to produce a female orgasm being an indication of this superiority.

    Over time, female orgasms would have become signals to males that they have been chosen as mates. Eventually, this way of signalling mate selection may have led to the propensity to fake orgasms.

    So don’t give your lady a hard time if you ever do discover she is faking orgasms. She may just be doing what nature programmed her to do

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  • You have a disease! Buy our drug!

    Most of our present conceived(pun intended) are pharma company induced.

    In India. companies tell us if you use a soap , you will be protected by 10 ten diseases without telling us what the diseases are(Hamam)

    Complan or is it Horlicks (?)tells you ,on an imaginary scale, that you are not tall and their product can make you taller by 100 % without any supportive evidence.

    If you are slightly out of sorts, which is normal for any body, you are made to imagine that you are under Stress and need ‘mood elevators’.

    Sexual desire is purely personal and it does not need to be present 24/7 in every body,you are prescribed a drug.

    Drug enforcement authorities do nothing.It is for us to understand this non sense and stop using these so-called drugs-market hits the companies most.

    Story:In order to get a drug formally approved and have insurance companies pay for its use, it has to be shown to work against a specific medical condition: ‘The whole thing is kind of complicated because you have to have a disease before you can treat it.’………..

    So from the industry’s perspective, there was no time to waste in developing the sister condition for women. “We’re hoping to be able to expedite the process of drug development and of disease development,” she told film-maker Liz Canner during the interview for Canner’s documentary Orgasm Inc.

    ..

    Condition branding’

    Bizarre as it may sound, the idea that a drug company would play a role in ‘disease development’ is backed up by observations from another industry insider, this one with expertise in the practice known as ‘condition branding’. The advertising expert Vince Parry famously revealed how drug companies are sometimes involved in ‘fostering the creation’ of medical disorders, giving a little known condition renewed attention, helping redefine or rename an old disease, or sometimes assisting in the creation of a whole new one. The branding expert has said that as part of his high-level work for drug companies he will sit down with medical experts to try to ‘create new ideas about illness and conditions’. As the Canadian writer Naomi Klein told us in her classic No Logo, corporations are no longer just selling products, they are selling brands, and brands are about lifestyles and concepts, not commodities…

    It was only as recently as the 1980s that the term ‘sexual dysfunction’ first appeared in the DSM though sexual ‘disorders’ had been previously listed. Since then, the definitions have changed a number of times, as the manual has been updated and new editions have been published. The details of the most recent definitions now run to many pages, but in simple terms the condition known as female sexual dysfunction, or FSD, has been divided into four sub-disorders: desire, arousal, orgasm and pain. The disorder of low desire is defined as a deficiency in sexual interest or fantasy, and technically described as ‘hypoactive sexual desire disorder’, or HSDD.

    http://www.alternet.org/story/149318/pharma’s_new_sales_pitch_to_women:_if_you_aren’t_horny,_it’s_’sexual_dysfunction’_–_try_these_pills?page=2

     

     

  • Women Always Answer Their Phones Unless They’re Having Great Sex With Someone Else

    ??!!!

    Story:

    BLOOMINGTON, IN—A new study released Monday by sociologists at Indiana University found that women will always answer their telephones unless mind-blowing sex with a man other than the caller prevents them from doing so.

    The findings were consistent across all demographic groups in a sampling of 500 females between the ages of 18 to 35, which included women who were romantically involved with the caller but had requested some time apart to clear their heads, as well as women who had dated the caller briefly but assumed it was understood by both parties that the relationship had not worked out.

    “No matter who they were, or what their perceived or actual relationship with the male caller was, women who failed to pick up the phone were statistically all but certain to be deep in the throes of coital passion with one or more virile lovers at the time of the call,” researcher Patrick Berger said. “In addition, a vast majority of the female participants we observed had seemingly forgotten all about the relationship they once had with the caller, and were, in fact, completely consumed by the vaginal gratification they were currently receiving.”

    “A type of gratification they would hesitate to even call ‘sex,’ since it was so much more intense and transcendent than any kind of sex they had experienced before,” Berger added.

    The study revealed that 80 percent of the time, women who declined to answer their phones were, at that very moment, being sexually pleasured by a man superior to the caller in terms of looks, genital endowment, and stamina. Researchers also found that a majority of women picked up the phone, examined the caller ID, and told their male lover “It’s nobody” before continuing with sexual intercourse.

    In another 15 percent of cases, female research subjects had just journeyed to a land of pure sexual delight with another man and were, at the time the phone rang, smoking a cigarette while letting their fingertips graze over the unusually thick penis that had just brought them to, on average, four orgasms. The remaining 5 percent of non-answerers consisted of women who were stimulating their own genitals, either while talking on the phone to another man, instant-messaging another man, or simply imagining another man who had sexually turned them inside out on a recent occasion.

    http://www.theonion.com/articles/study-women-always-answer-their-phones-unless-they,18254/

    Related.

    Vaginal intercourse in the man-on-top missionary position can feel wonderful: the physical closeness, the emotional intimacy, and for many people, the feeling that this position is a very important part of what sex is all about.

    But the missionary position can also be problematic: According to a great deal of research, only 25 percent of women are consistently orgasmic in man-on-top sex, no matter what size the penis nor how vigorous or prolonged the intercourse.

    http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/all-about-sex/201010/easier-orgasms-women-in-the-missionary-position

    Eighty-five percent of American men say the last person they had sex with had an orgasm. And yet, only 64 percent of American women say they had an orgasm the last time they had sex. What’s going on, guys?

    The “orgasm gap”—which is too big to be explained away by men whose most recent sexual encounter was with another man—is one of the findings of a huge new national sex survey, the largest since 1994, undertaken by Indiana University’s Center for Sexual Health Promotion and published in a special issue of the Journal of Sexual Medicine available here.

    http://gawker.com/5654724/american-men-think-theyre-better-in-bed-than-they-actually-are

  • Why Older Women Lust.

    Both male and female have the same urge for sex.Differentiation in terms of their overt behavior is due sociological constraints.Basic instinct remains the same.However the approach to sex overtly is conditioned by the male instinct of ‘Protection’ towards the female counterpart makes it imperative for the male to be overtly aggressive in terms of sexual advances and behavior.
    Shorn of all civilizational clothing and hypocrisy(these too have a place in the emotional well-being of human beings), we are animals first.
    Hence Nature has endowed us the urge to have sex with the sole intention of propagating the species and sexual enjoyment is a spin-off and not an end in itself.
    Hence classification of behavior into male and female is only academic and we need not go to the extent of assuming theories ourselves and try to prove the same.
    Nature is what is.Our dissection of the same is irrelevant to it.
    Sexual urge is reinforced, nay, arises, because of emotional content.No sex is possible without emotional content.
    Sexual behavior is determined by genes,ethnicity,mores,customs, civilizations and culture.

    Story:
    Men who cheat on their spouses have always enjoyed an expedient explanation: Evolution made me do it. Many articles (here is one, and here is another), especially in recent years, have explored the theory that men sleep around because evolution has programmed them to seek fertile (and, conveniently, younger) wombs.
    (See the top 10 political sex scandals.)
    But what about women? If it’s really true that evolution can cause a man to risk his marriage, what effect does it have on women’s sexuality?
    A new journal article suggests that evolutionary forces also push women to be more sexual, although in some unexpected ways. University of Texas psychologist David Buss wrote the article, which appears in the July issue of Personality and Individual Differences, with the help of three grad students, Judith Easton (who is listed as lead author), Jaime Confer and Cari Goetz. Buss, Easton and their colleagues found that women in their 30s and early 40s are significantly more sexual than younger women. Women ages 27 through 45 report not only having more sexual fantasies (and more intense sexual fantasies) than women ages 18 through 26; the older women also report having more sex, period. And they are more willing than younger women to have casual sex, even one-night stands. In other words, despite the girls-gone-wild image of promiscuous college women, it is women in their middle years who are America’s most sexually industrious.
    By contrast, men’s sexual interest and output, usually measured by reported number of orgasms per week, peaks in the teen years and then settles to a steady level (an average of three orgasms per week) for most of their lives. As I pointed out in March, most men remain sexually active into their 70s. According to the new study, as well as the one I wrote about in March, women’s sexual ardor declines precipitously after menopause.
    Why would women be more sexually active in their middle years than in their teens and 20s? Buss and his students say evolution has encouraged women to be more sexually active as their fertility begins to decline and as menopause approaches.
    Here’s how their theory works:
    Our female ancestors would have grown accustomed to watching many of their children — perhaps as many as half — die of various diseases, starvation, warfare and so on before being able to have kids of their own. This trauma left a psychological imprint to bear as many children as possible. Becoming pregnant is much easier for women and girls in their teens and early 20s — so much easier that they need not spend much time having sex.
    (Read abut cougar cruises.)
    However, after the mid-20s, the lizard-brain impulse to have more kids faces a stark reality: it’s harder and harder to get pregnant as a woman’s remaining eggs age. And so women in their middle years respond by seeking more and more sex.
    To test this theory, Buss and his students asked 827 women to complete questionnaires about their sexual habits. And, indeed, they found that women who had passed their peak fertility years but not quite reached menopause were the most sexually active. This age group — 27 through 45 — reported having significantly more sex than the two other age groups in the study, 18 through 26 and 46 and up. Women in their middle years were also more likely than the younger women to fantasize about someone other than their current partner. The new findings are consistent with those of an earlier Buss paper, from 2002, which found that women in their early 30s feel more lustful and report less abstinence than women in other age groups. In both studies, these findings held true for both partnered and single women, meaning that married women in their 30s and early 40s tend to have more sex than married women in their early 20s; ditto for single women. Also, whether the women were mothers didn’t matter. Only age had a strong affect on women’s reported sexual interest and behavior.
    And yet there are a few flaws with the data in the new paper. Chiefly: some three-quarters of the participants in the study were recruited on craigslist.com, a website where many go to seek hook-ups, meaning there’s a self-selection problem with the sample. (The other participants were students at the University of Texas in Austin.) The authors also note that there are some alternative explanations for why women in their 30s and early 40s might be more sexual. Many of them may simply be more comfortable with sex than women in their teens and early 20s. Still, that raises the question of why they are more comfortable: perhaps evolution programmed that comfort.
    Buss is the author of the groundbreaking book The Evolution of Desire: Strategies of Human Mating, which is now in its fourth edition, and he has become strongly associated with evolutionary explanations for sexual behavior. His theories explain why men can be cads — and, it turns out, why women can be cougars.

    http://www.time.com/time/health/article/0,8599,2002838,00.html?xid=newsletter-daily