It is recommended that you express your feelings to others.
It so happens that I am brought up in an environment where not much of expression of emotion was encouraged and the examples were set my Father and other menfolk.
My father was of such a disposition, that when his father died, the body was in laid out in the Hall of the house in the Hindu manner, and there was my father reclining , apparently non nonchalantly in an armed chair rocking gently.
I was about 15 then.
I asked him as to why he did not cry for his father’s death.
He replied,
‘If some one can guarantee that my father will come back alive if I cry, I shall.
No amount of tears will bring him back.
So why cry?
On another occasion when my other was lying in bed seriously afflicted with Cancer, I was half asleep around by 100 am.
My father woke me up gently and told me,
‘Your Mother is dead, now go to sleep’
I was shocked.
it is a different matter that my father who was nearly 110 kgs came down to bout 70 kgs in a matter of six months after my mother’ death.
In another instance, when my father heard the news of my first wife’s death from me, he did not react; he stood numb and promptly lost his power of hearing.
Not that he did not feel, only that he did not find it necessary to express his anguish or feelings as, in his opinion, it is unnecessary.
For him , his feelings are best with in himself.
He did not seek other’s approval of his Love for others such out ward expressions.
Before his death he told me ,
‘Some times, I think it is necessary that you let the others know what you feel to make them feel good.
There is nothing wrong, now I realize.
Ensure that your emotions are genuine , not artificial .
True.
I am guilty of the same failing.
Well it is difficult to change at my age.
To be happy and make others happy, it is necessary to express one’s feelings.
And avoid thinking for them, including offering advice.
Now we seem to be doing the reverse,
Thinking for other,not expressing the feelings for them.
The root of this word is ‘Pitrr”,meaning .ancestors’
Pitru -Father.
Pithamaha-Paternal Grand father Prapitamaha–Paternal Great Grand father.
The Obsequies are performed by one on every New Moon, the start of a month,Eclipses, the day of the shifting of the Sun of Cancer to Capricorn and from Capricorn to Cancer(Dakshinayana and Uttharayana), Solar and Lunar Eclipses , on the day the Grand Sire Bhishma left his mortal frame(Ratha Sapthami)
The Sastras say that the Tharpana is to be performed daily along with Sandhyavanadana, ,Brahma Yagyam and Aupaasanam.
These are performed with water,a variety of Grass (Kusa,Dharpai) and எள் ‘Sesamum Indicum’ .
One’s gratitude is expressed to the ancestors, for we are nor here without them .
Those to whom (mainly) the Tharpana is offered are
Father Paternal/Maternal Grandfather,Grandmother. Paternal/Maternal Grandfather,Grandmother.
And to Those who are closely related like brothers and at the end of this ceremony this gratitude is expressed to those who have died without children to perform these rites and all those whose names and lineage we do not know.-that is to every one departed.
Meaning.
Tharpanam for. Ancestors.
Sankalpa(Right Resolve)
“Mammopatha Samastha Dhurithakashayadwara Sri Parameswara Preethyartham – Thatheva Lagnam Sudinam Thatheva, Tharabalam Chandrabalam Thatheva, Vidyabalam Daivabalam Thatheva, sri Lakshmipathe Agriyugam Smarami – Apavithrova Sarva Vastham Gathopiva – Yasmareth Pundareekaksham – Sabahya Abhyanthara Suchihi, Maanasam Vaachikam Paapam – Karmanaam Samuparjitham – Sri Rama Smaranenaiva Vyapohathi Na – Shamsayaha – Sri Rama, Rama Rama- Thithir Vishnu – Thatha Vara Nakshatram Vishnurevacha Yogascha Karanam Chaiva Sarvam Vishnu Mayam Jagath, Sri Govinda, Govinda, Govinda”
For the quick dissipation of my problems, in the Name of,
Lord Parameswara(this refers to the Universal Principle, though literally taken as to mean Lord Siva,-Parama Iswara, Personal God of All,And to His satisfaction,
On the The Auspicious Lagna,Day.
The Blessings of Lord Chandra and Thara( wife of Chandra),(be showered on Me)
The Good Effects of Knowledge and the Blessings of the Deities( May be Showered on Me),
“BERLIN (AP) — Berlin police on Wednesday released photos an English-speaking teenage boy who wandered into the city nine months ago saying he had been living for the last five years in the forest with his father. Police spokesman Thomas Neuendorf said all attempts to identify the boy since he emerged in the German capital on Sept. 5 have been unsuccessful, and they are now hoping the release of his photo may produce some leads. “We have checked his DNA against all missing person reports, sent the data to Interpol so that they could check it internationally, but unfortunately without any success,” Neuendorf said. The boy has told authorities his father called him “Ray” and that he was born June 20, 1994, but claims not to know his last name or where he’s from. He said his mother, Doreen, died in a car accident when he was 12 and after that he and his father, Ryan, took to the forest. He said they wandered using maps and a compass, staying in tents or caves overnight. He told authorities that after his father died in August, 2011, he buried him in the forest and then walked five days north before ending up in Berlin, and showed up at city hall. Investigators have been unable to confirm any details about a fatal car accident that matches up with Ray’s story, however, and haven’t been able to find the body of the father — raising “serious doubts” about the story. “There are many question marks,” Neuendorf said. He is now being taken care of by youth services, and is going to school. When he first appeared, Ray spoke English and a few words of German, but has picked up more German fast, Neuendorf said. He has also quickly adapted to city life and technology, using a laptop and his cell phone with no problems. [Related: Mother, son separated, begin 25-year search] “Everything gives the impression that he was not far away from civilization for years,” Neuendorf said.
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