Speaking and expressing one thing and doing another thing, remains the cause for major problems in Life, especially in Relationships.
Most of the time we do not mean what we say.
We say things what we know are untrue and in most cases know that we would be found out.
Still we say these things.
This has developed only after we stopped being a Child.
We try to be pleased others, say and do things we do not like.
If we are true to our nature, relationships will be normal.
People will Love you for what you are and can see through you if you try to be some one different.
I hold the view that each has three personalities.
1.What we project to others.
This often, is what we think they might like.
Imagine if every one were to behave so,which every one does, one never has a real relationship and never gets to now the other.
2.The second is what we think we are.
This, normally, is a composite picture of our selves to ourselves consisting of our real nature and what has been imbibed and taught to us, which we unconsciously adopt in the visualization ourselves to ourselves.
Though the Stress factor is responsible for suicide and Divorces, to cite some areas, it affects the people in the IT Industry more.
As mentioned my earlier post it is the not normal working rhythm as a consequence,irregular food habits, lack of physical exercise,varying sleep pattern, setting up of high and unrealistic goals( most of them set for to suit the Company’s needs,assumption of fake IDs as in the case of Call Centers and BPOs,less time for persoanl interaction with the family(includes, apart from wife and children, parents and relatives, high Income at a young age, not finding enough time to manage family affairs, Peer pressure, multiple chains of commands and reporting and constant thinking of job all the time(the IT people would deny this) are some of the pressure points.
Stress Reaction
“If you’re in a position within the IT business, you’ll know that you’re expected to come to grips with huge amounts of information. So it’s normal that, from time to time, you’ll find yourself out of your comfort zone. How do you tell the difference between normal stress and something more serious?
The signs of stress
While the signs of stress can vary significantly from person to person, cognitive impairment is common. Indecision, forgetfulness, negative thinking, loss of confidence and a lack of concentration are all classic symptons. Physical symptoms can include hair-loss, muscle-tension, sweating and nail-biting. Stressed people make more mistakes, smoke or drink more, are more prone to accidents, and suffer from insomnia, loss of appetite and self-neglect.
So how do you combat stress? First of all, keep active and maintain your interests outside of work – many stressed people give up on exercise or hobbies, but not having an outlet for stress can make things even worse. Try to take a more positive approach to situations: adapting to change and viewing new situations in a more positive light will be crucial to dealing with stressors. And if you do recognise some of the symptoms listed, visit your GP and explain any concerns and symptoms.
As career consultant Sherridan Hughes points out, “No working environment is pressure-free and jobs in IT are no exception. How you adapt to changing circumstances is key to your ability to handle potentially stressful situations in a more positive way.”
If this ‘stressed out’ feeling is about too much work and not enough time, you may want to reconsider how you deal with people from other areas of the business making demands, all assuming that their request should take priority.
Log each request and attend to them in the order they were received, making sure any legal or regulatory pieces of work get done quickly.
Some elements to consider for effective prioritisation in IT:
1. Who is making the request and how senior are they?
2. Is it a ‘must-do’ or just a ‘nice to do’? Is it a legal, regulatory or industry standard that needs to be met? Will it hinder your competitiveness as a firm until it is done?
3. How does it fit in with the company strategy and priorities?
4. What are the dependencies? Who does it affect if it doesn’t happen immediately?
Of course, it’s vital to ask your line manager’s advice about prioritising requests, but he or she will be more impressed if you come to them with a suggested solution, rather than just a problem.
Rethinking your life at work
Of course, if you’ve taken all the suggested steps but you’re still aren’t enjoying your work, then perhaps it’s time to consider a job move.
You might prefer a different role within IT or a different type of organisation – perhaps of a different size or in a different industry. Sherridan Hughes adds, “Being mismatched to your role or organisation can result in significant feelings of stress. Within IT there are many different roles: web developer jobs, for example, are more creative, while IT project manager jobs are more people-focused. Consider your areas of strength and where you would like your IT career to develop, and then plan a move accordingly.”
Many people have been sitting tight during the recession and still believe it is ‘all firing and no hiring’ in the market – but you may be pleasantly surprised to find a new IT job that is a better match for your skills and personality – as well as leaving you a lot less stressed out.”
The WHO study high lights an increase in the number of suicides in India.
Experts suggest that the rapid economic development, setting of High goals not in tune with Reality,lack of harmony in Relationships as some of the reasons .
The incidence is high in The IT Industry, where people do not realize they build Anxiety at an enormous pace with impossible dead lines,irregular work timings,less time to spend with the family and inability to handle high Income at a young age.
Suicides are not the result of a single event ; it is an accumulation of pressure built over a period of time and it explodes the moment a flash point is reached.
Stress and Suicides
In a two-part Essay we shall attempt to understand this phenomenon.
These are indicated above in the order of priority to the Organism.
When there is a clash of Instincts(which happens at all times during Life) among themselves ,Conflict arises.
These Conflicts are resolved by the organism on the basis of priority to ensure its survival.
For instance, if there is a choice before a Man Water and Food when he is both Thirsty and Hungry, he will choose Water.
Similarly when there is clash between Hunger and Thirst ,Thirst will score.
While resolving these Conflicts, the organism is torn between the instincts and we feel the Stress.
Normally Stress is resolved biologically by the Organism.
But the Cognitive instrument we call the Mind starts analyzing and it causes anxiety.
We completely forget that in the battle between the Heart and Mind Heart always wins.
We presume that Mind does.
Therefore, the essential problem does not concern Stress per se but our cognition of it.
“Young Indians are more likely to commit suicide than previously thought, especially those living in wealthier and more educated regions.
According to a study, experts say that India’s rapid development is driving many youths to despair.
Opportunities that have come with two decades of economic boom and open markets have also brought more job anxiety, higher expectations and more pressure to achieve, mental health experts said.
India has some of the world’s highest suicide rates, with many believing the biggest risk group to be rural farmers facing debt after poor harvests.
However, the study – published in the Lancet medical journal on Friday – says suicide rates are highest in the 15-29 age group, peaking in southern regions that are considered richer and more developed with better education, social welfare and health care.
That puts the young at high risk – a new phenomenon experts said has happened recently as more middle-class youths strive to meet achievement expectations, and new technologies like cell phones and social networking sites help break down traditional family units once relied on for support.
Overall, the report uses a national government survey of deaths in 2001-03 to estimate 187,000 suicides took place in 2010, making it the cause of 3 per cent of deaths that year.
The WHO reports about 1 million suicides a year, which would be a rate of about 14 per 100,000 in a global population of 7 billion. By comparison, the U.S. had 37,790 suicides in 2010, or a rate of 12.2 per 100,000, while India’s rate under the Lancet’s projected suicide tally of 187,000 would be near 16 – far higher than earlier reports and estimates of around 10.
There has been little scientific examination of suicide motives in India.
Most of the terms they use are undefined,……Personality,Intelligence,unconscious(by the way it is ‘unconscious’ because you are not conscious of it, then how do you say it is there?)
I know funny explanations will flow.
Now onto some psychological experiments that went wrong and ruined people.
God save the Patients!
( before some one pounces on me, unfortunately I hold a degree in the Subject!)
I also have observed that the Psychiatrists seem to be in need of Behavioural Therapy and counselling for their odd behaviour and view of Life- well at least for some of them.
One of my Psychiatrist friends admitted to this fact and said that it is due to to constant interaction with mentally disturbed people!
Story:
Psychology as we know it is a relatively young science, but since its inception it has helped us to gain a greater understanding of ourselves and our interactions with the world. Many psychological experiments have been valid and ethical, allowing researchers to make new treatments and therapies available, and giving other insights into our motivations and actions. Sadly, others have ended up backfiring horribly — ruining lives and shaming the profession. Here are ten psychological experiments that spiraled out of control.
In 1971, social psychologist Philip Zimbardo set out to interrogate the ways in which people conform to social roles, using a group of male college students to take part in a two-week-long experiment in which they would live as prisoners and guards in a mock prison. However, having selected his test subjects, Zimbardo assigned them their roles without their knowledge, unexpectedly arresting the “prisoners” outside their own homes. The results were disturbing. Ordinary college students turned into viciously sadistic guards or spineless (and increasingly distraught) prisoners, becoming deeply enmeshed within the roles they were playing. After just six days, the distressing reality of this “prison” forced Zimbardo to prematurely end the experiment.
In this study, conducted in 1939, 22 orphaned children, 10 with stutters, were separated equally into two groups: one with a speech therapist who conducted “positive” therapy by praising the children’s progress and fluency of speech; the other with a speech therapist who openly chastised the children for the slightest mistake. The results showed that the children who had received negative responses were badly affected in terms of their psychological health. Yet more bad news was to come as it was later revealed that some of the children who had previously been unaffected developed speech problems following the experiment. In 2007, six of the orphan children were awarded $925,000 in compensation for emotional damage that the six-month-study had left them with.
MK-ULTRA.
The CIA performed many unethical experiments into mind control and psychology under the banner of project MK-ULTRA during the 50s and 60s. Theodore Kaczynski, otherwise known as the Unabomber, is reported to have been a test subject in the CIA’s disturbing experiments, which may have contributed to his mental instability. In another case, the administration of LSD to US Army biological weapons expert Frank Olson is thought to have sparked a crisis of conscience, inspiring him to tell the world about his research. Instead, Olson is said to have committed suicide, jumping from a thirteenth-story hotel room window, although there is strong evidence that he was murdered. This doesn’t even touch on the long-term psychological damage other test subjects are likely to have suffered.
Elephant on LSD.
In 1962, Warren Thomas, the director of Lincoln Park Zoo in Oklahoma City, injected an elephant named Tusko with 3,000 times the typical human dose of LSD. It was an attempt to make his mark on the scientific community by determining whether the drug could induce “musth” — the aggressiveness and high hormone levels that male elephants experience periodically. The only contribution Thomas made was to create a public relations disaster as Tusko died almost immediately after collapsing and going into convulsions.
Milgram Experiment.
n 1963, in the wake of the atrocities of the Holocaust, Stanley Milgram set out to test the hypothesis that there was something special about the German people that had allowed them to participate in genocide. Under the pretense of an experiment into human learning, Milgram asked normal members of the public to ask questions to a man attached to an electric-shock generator and shock him in increasing measure when he answered incorrectly. The man was an actor, the shocks fake; but the participants didn’t know this. The terrifying part? People overwhelmingly obeyed the commands of the experimenter, even when the man screamed in apparent agony and begged for mercy. A little evil in all of us, perhaps?
Toni LaMadrid.
Many medicated schizophrenics enrolled in a University of California study that required them to stop taking their medication in a program that started in 1983. The study was meant to give information that would allow doctors to better treat schizophrenia, but rather it messed up the lives of many of the test subjects, 90% of whom relapsed into episodes of mental illness. One participant, Tony LaMadrid, leaped to his death from a rooftop six years after first enrolling in the study.
Pits of Despair.
Psychologist Harry Harlow was obsessed with the concept of love, but rather than writing poems or love songs, he performed sick, twisted experiments on monkeys during the 1970s. One of his experiments revolved around confining the monkeys in total isolation in an apparatus he called the “well of despair” (a featureless, empty chamber depriving the animal of any stimulus or socialization) — which resulted in his subjects going insane and even starving themselves to death in two cases. Harlow ignored the criticism of his colleagues, and is quoted as saying, “How could you love monkeys?” The last laugh was on him, however, as his horrific treatment of his subjects is acknowledged as being a driving force behind the development of the animal rights movement and the end of such cruel experiments.
The Third Wave.
Running along a similar theme similar to the Milgram experiment, The Third Wave, carried out in 1967, was an experiment that set out to explore the ways in which even democratic societies can become infiltrated by the appeal of fascism. Using a class of high school students, the experimenter created a system whereby some students were considered members of a prestigious order. The students showed increased motivation to learn, yet, more worryingly, became eager to get on board with malevolent practices, such as excluding and ostracizing non-members from the class. Even more scarily, this behavior was gleefully continued outside of the classroom. After just four days, the experiment was considered to be slipping out of control and was ceased.
In the 1960s homosexuality was frequently depicted as a mental illness, with many individuals seeking (voluntarily or otherwise) a way to “cure” themselves of their sexual attraction to members of the same sex. Experimental therapies at the time included aversion therapy — where homosexual images were paired with such things as electric shocks and injections that caused vomiting. The thought was that the patient would associate pain with homosexuality. Rather than “curing” homosexuality, these experiments profoundly psychologically damaged the patients, with at least one man dying from the “treatment” he received, after he went into a coma.
In 1966, when David Reimer was 8 months old, his circumcision was botched and he lost his penis to burns. Psychologist John Money suggested that baby David be given a sex change. The parents agreed, but what they didn’t know was that Money secretly wanted to use David as part of an experiment to prove his views that gender identity was not inborn, but rather determined by nature and upbringing. David was renamed Brenda, surgically altered to have a vagina, and given hormonal supplements — but tragically the experiment backfired. “Brenda” acted like a stereotypical boy throughout childhood, and the Reimer family began to fall apart. At 14, Brenda was told the truth, and decided to go back to being David. He committed suicide at the age of 38.
Belgian researchers watched videos of women walking, and were able to tell whether they regularly had orgasms from intercourse.
At the Universiti Catholique de Louvain, Institut d’itudes de la famille et de la sexualiti, Louvain-la-Neuve, Belgium, they set about proving the theory right.
They took women with known histories of either vaginal orgasm or inability to orgasm from sex and videotaped them walking on the street, and their orgasmic status was judged by sexologists blind to their history.
‘In the sample of healthy young Belgian women, half of whom were vaginally orgasmic, history of vaginal orgasm that was triggered solely by penile-vaginal intercourse, was diagnosable at far better than chance.
The researchers think that, as well as having an effect on people’s mental health, orgasms can ‘loosen’ muscle groups.
They wrote: ‘Research has demonstrated the association between vaginal orgasm and better mental health. Some theories of psychotherapy assert a link between muscle blocks and disturbances of both character and sexual function. In Functional-Sexological therapy, one focus of treatment is amelioration of voluntary movement.
‘The present study examines the association of general everyday body movement with history of vaginal orgasm.’
The team said the objective was to determine if appropriately trained sexologists could infer women’s history of vaginal orgasm from observing only their gait.
You must be logged in to post a comment.