Ammi Midithal
The groom touches the feet of the bride and lifts her right foot gently and places it on the Ammi(grinding stone). This signifies her hope that their union may be as firm and steadfast as the grinding stone.
Women , not all of them but the self-styled feminists, would like one to believe that they are being discriminated by Men,want Equal Rights with Men.
They also say that they are not weak , can do what a Man could do.
In the same breath they expect Men to be chivalrous and give, as a courtesy(!?), to give priority to women in Public, say like allowing them the first right of passage,special seats for them in Trains buses, special timing and excuses for leave in the work place.
To me if you want to be equal to Men , you should expect to be treated like men.
To garner votes, the Government of India has gone overboard.
The Cabinet has given the nod for the following proposals.
“A wife will have a share in her husband’s inherited or inheritable marital property on divorce, though the exact quantum of the compensation has been left to the discretion of the judge, according to a legislation that was cleared by the Union Cabinet on Wednesday.
The Cabinet also cleared the proposal that in cases where divorce has been sought on mutual consent of both parties the judiciary has been given the discretion to grant divorce to one party after a period of three years, even if the man and the wife are no longer on the same page. These were part of the recommendations of the GoM on Marriage Laws Amendment Bill which will now be amended suitably before being brought to Parliament during the monsoon session, beginning August 5.
By not quantifying the amount of compensation the government has moderated its earlier proposal to give a wife “equal” share in marital property. The ministers felt that a judge could decide on the quantum of compensation after taking into account an entire set of considerations such as the disposable income of both husband and wife, conditions like who will bear the primary responsibility of raising the children and claimants on the “inheritable property.”
If you do not want to live with a Man, why do you want his property?
Are men returned the favor?
How many divorced women pay Alimony to their ex Husbands?
Relationship is about understanding and compromising one with the other.
If you want to end it, it should be with lock, stock and barrel, not what is convenient,.
While cases about Men walking out of relationships, Marriages, is widely reported, women indulging in this, never gets reported for the man considers that it is an insult to divulge it and Dog bites Man is not News.
I know a case, where a woman deliberately pretended to love a Boy , got married, drugged him with the help of her mother for three years and tried to get his property worth one crore and finally settled for 30 lakhs!..
If in a relationship, if either wants any thing more than the Relationship, other than Love, Care and Affection, in my dictionary it is, sorry for using this, Prostitution.
(Desertion , if proved, is a different matter and has to be strictly dealt with by Punishment and Compensation, this applies to both sex).
The other proposal of granting divorce after three years, even if one party is not willing or has a change of mind, Divorce is to be granted.
So the aim is to see that the Institution of marriage is broken, no compromise.
Then why do you have family Courts for Divorces, simply follow ‘Talaq,talaq, talaq’ and be done with it.
However I am not against Divorces if either the husband or wife is unfaithful , neglectful of the other and embark on cruelty.
This point is common to bth sex.
There is a mistaken impression that there is no cruelty being practiced by Women.
It is erroneous.
It exists more than one thinks.
Men do not admit it.
One of my friend used say that many Men in India go through married Life, because they feel it is their duty to go through it,let me suffer silently.
In India if men were to go for Divorce for reasons like cruelty by wives,well, about 80% of Marriages would have broken long ago.
I expect comments like Male Chauvinist Pig‘ ‘Sucking Pig, a Muslim(!?), who brings dishonor to Islam!
These comments are real and were approved and published in my site.
* I am not a Divorcee, am happily married with Grand children..
To me family is the most important institution one has to respect and men have the responsibility of taking car of it, including wife.
Marriage is not a walkers Association to walk away when you feel like it.
Wife has to be respected, listened when it is worth not otherwise, to me no compromises just to please, what is in the best interests of the family, will be done.
There is a Sanskrit slaoka which says,
‘Listen to women and children int the Family, take decisions in the interest of the family’
‘Do not discuss economic difficulties with Children, Wife and Gussets, they can not understand, you carry the burden”
I find this to be practical.
The issue of accepting money from your wife,.
You take Financial assistance from your wife for the family.
You had it, you would be reminded and insulted to the end of your Life.
Ask any man who has taken Money from his wife.
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