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  • Why Love Happens Tamil Answers

    Recently I came across a question in a Facebook Community.

    ‘Why does Love happen’?

    People may brush it aside as silly but it needs an answer.

    Lovers Portrayed ina temple in Tamil Nadu.jpg
    Lovers Portrayed ina temple in Tamil Nadu

    I did not see any relevant answer to the question.

    In life we see people falling in Love, some of them,if succesful’ lead a Happy married Life

    Even among those successful in getting married, the unhappiness  after marriage rate is high.

    I am speaking of Love and not what is now portrayed as a convenient arrangement for  one’ security.

    Now I find whether it be a boy or a Girl,  contrary to what many think, do not fall in Love without deliberation.

    They check the financial position, the responsibilities one has to bear and decide to fall in Love.

    In my opinion this is not Love.

    This is a deliberate arrangement to ensure smooth Life, whether that myth remains through out Life is another matter.

    Love is a passion that surges forward at a specific point for no known reason.

    Shakespeare put it,

    ‘Whoever loved that loved not at first sight’

    How and why does this Love happen?

    I checked Tamil literature for Tamil classical literature is a reflection of ancient Tamil life and offers solution to any aspect of Life.

    Tamil language has a separate grammar called Kalaviyal, they have treated Life as a part of language evolution.

    While marriage as an institution was  given its due, Tamils were practical in assigning a place for love and have laid certain rules for Love!

    This is Called Kalaviyal,களவியல்,  Kalavu,one of its meaning, is on the Sly.

    I shall be posting on this later.

    What does Tamil say on Love happening?

    Tamil acknowledges that neither marital status nor finanicial one has anything to do with it.

    It happens to all at any age.

    The value judgement on this is a different matter,

    There are rules even for this.

    The first available book on Tamil Grammar says thus,

     

    ““ஒன்றே வேறே என்றிருபால் வயின்
    ஒன்றி யுயர்ந்த பால தாணையின்
    ஒத்த கிழவனும் கிழத்தியும் காண்ப
    மிக்கோ னாயினும் கடிவரை யின்றே” (களவியல் – 2)’ Tolkaapiyam.

    Love between a Man and a woman happens because of…’Fate”

    Note that Tolkaapiyam is careful in saying ‘between Aman and woman,implying that there were other relationships as well.

    I tend to agree that Love, Marriage, Children and Profession is the handiwork of Fate, our protestations notwithstanding.

    Sanatan Dharam says much the same.

     

     

     

  • Hindu Saptapadi In American Cherokee The Rite Of Seven Steps

    Most important part of Hindu Marriage is the Saptapathi, the Rite when the couple take Seven steps around the Fire in a Clockwise direction, with seven mantras , praying Lord Vishnu.

    Riite of Seven Steps Cherokee Indians.jpg
    Riite of Seven Steps Cherokee Indians.

    Hindu marriage is complete only after the performance of Saptapathi, be it performed among the Kashmiris or among the people of Kanyakumari.

    Saptapadi Seven Steps, Hinduism Marriage ceremony.jpg
    Saptapadi Seven Steps, Hinduism Marriage ceremony.

    The ancient Cherokee Indians follow this custom even today.

     

    This is it. Click below.

    The Rite Of Seven Steps

    Hindu Sapthapadi.

    “Seven Steps / Vows in the Hindu Wedding Means:

    * The couple takes the first step and promises that they will take care of each other and pray for abundant blessings and prosperity in their life.

    * In the second step, the couple promises and prays to the Gods to bless them with physical and mental powers and lead a healthy married life.

    * During the third step, they promise to protect and increase their wealth by proper means.

    * With the fourth step, the bride and the groom pledge to share happiness and sadness together.

    * With the fifth step, the couple promises to be responsible and care for their children.

    * The sixth step is taken by the couple to be together always.

    * And while taking the last seventh step, they promise to be truthful and trustworthy to each other and pledge to be united always in friendship and harmony.
    Citation.

    http://www.idlehearts.com/seven-steps-of-marriage-saptapadi/

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  • Brahmins Organized Indian Marriage System Tholkappiyar

    I have often wondered who organized the Marriage System (Monogamy) in India.

     

    Though marriage is considered to be sacred in Hinduism and has elaborate Rituals to solemnize and conduct marriages, I have not been able to find any definite information on who organized this system of marriage.

     

    Marriage ceremony.jpeg.
    Hindu Marriage ceremony.

     

    I could not find the origin of marriage details from the Puranas, Vedas or Ithihasas.

     

    All these texts glorify and explain the rituals connected with Marriage.

     

    The first written record  on who organized marriage as a System is found in the ancient Tamil Grammar Book, Tholkappiyam, written by Tholkappiar (between 3rd century BCE and the 3rd century CE), a disciple of Sage Agasthya.

     

    He states that the society was being ruined by indiscriminate copulation ,involving Lies, frauds.

     

    Hence  Brahmins organized the system of marriage.

     

    “மேலோர் மூவர்க்கும் புணர்த்த கரணம்
    கீழோர்க்காகிய காலமும் உண்டே (1090)
    பொய்யும் வழுவும் தோன்றிய பின்னர்
    ஐயர் யாத்தனர் கரணம் என்ப (1091) Tholkappiyam.

     

    Here there is a rider.

     

    Marriage as a system which was in existence for the three Varnas(மேலோர் மூவர்க்கும்) is now being set for the Fourth Varna by the Brahmins.

     

    Meaning of the text.

     

    Marriage as a System, which was in existence for three varnas, is now set for the fourth varna by Brahmins

     

    Information to enrich the article welcome.

  • For Marrying Lady Love Krishna Stotra By Mohini Avatar

    Lord Vishnu took Mohini Avatar on a couple of  occasions.

    One is during the Samudra Mantha, churning of the Milky Ocean to get Nectar,Amrutha..

    For others please read my post Various Mohini Avatars Vishnu.

    Mohini is believed to have composed a stotra on Krishna,(Avatar of Vishnu)

    This rare stotra is believed to help a man to get married to his Lady Love.

    Krishna is not mentioned directly in this stotra.

     

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    Mohini Avatar ,Halebid Statue

    The Translation.

    Mohinyuvacha:-

    Mohini told:-

    1.Sarvendryanam pravaram Vishnor amsam cha manasam,

    Thadeva karmaanaam bheejam thad udhbhava namosthuthe.

    The first among all the sense organs , the part of Lord Vishnu is the mind ,

    And my salutations to that which is born out of the seed of its work.

    2.Swayam athma hi bhagawan, Jnana roopo Maheswara ,

    Namo Brahman jagath sruth thadhubhava namosthuthe.

    The god is himself the soul and he is the greatest god with the form of wisdom,

    Salutations to Brahman and to the one from whom Brahma who created was born.

    3.SArvajitha , jagath jetha, jeeva jeeva manohara ,

    Rathibheeja, rathiswamin , rathipriya namosthuthe.

    Salutations to him who has won everybody , who has won the universe,

    Who is the pretty soul of all beings , who is the root of pleasure ,

    Who is the god of pleasure* and one who likes pleasure.

    *It could be also “RathI”, the wife of Manmatha,

    4.Saswad yoshidhanushtana, yoshid pranathika Priya,

    Yoshi vahanam, yoshasthra yosha dwandwo namosthuthe.

    I salute the two goddesses and one who is permanently with them,

    And Who is dearer than soul to them , as well as ,

    The vehicle of those goddesses and the weapons of those Goddesses.

    5.Pathi sadhya kara sesha roopadhara , gunasraya,

    Sugandhi vatha sachiva , Madhu mithra namosthuthe.

    Salutations to the one who is considered fit for his riding .

    To the one who assumed the form of Adhisesha,

    Who depends on good qualities, who carries the perfumed air ,

    And who is the friend   of the sweet one.

    6.SAswad yoni kruthadhara , sthree sandarshana vardhana,

    Vidagdhaanaam virahinaam prananthaka namosthuthe.

    Salutations to him who is the basis of the creation done, again and again,

    Who increases the chance of meeting ladies and ,

    Who is the killer of undigested food and pangs from separation.

    7.Akrupa yeshu thenartha , theshaam jnanam vinasanam,

    Anooha roopa bhaktheshu krupa sindho namosthuthe.

    If your grace is not there , it would mean destruction of his wisdom,

    So salutations to the ocean of mercy from this careless devotee.

    8.Thapasvinam cha thapasaam Vighna, bheejaaya leelaya,

    Mana sakaamam mukthaanam karthu shaktham namosthuthe.

    I salute him who is capable of removing passion from the mind,

    And also problems for penance to the sages   as a matter of play.

    9.Thapa saadhya sthadha aaradhya sadaivam Pancha bhouthika,

    Panchendra krutha adhara Pancha bana namosthuthe.

    I salute the God with five arrows , who helps in penance and worship,

    Of all the Gods as well as the five elements and who is the basic of action of the five sense organs.

    10.Mohinithyeva mukthaathu manasa saa vidhe pura,

    Vira rama namra vakthra bhaboova dhyana thathparaa.

    In the places of stay , Those who followed Mohini were liberated,

    When they prayed with bent heads and were interested in meditation

    11.uktham madhyamdhino kanthe stotramethath manoharam,

    Puraa durvaasasa datham mohinyai Gandha madhane.

    Repeat   during rnoon , oh dear ,   this stotra

    which was given by Sage Durvasa to Mohini ,

    at the Gandha madhana mountain.

    12.Stotra methath maha punyam kaami bhakthya yadhaa pateth,

    Abheeshtam labhathe noonam , nishkalanko bhavathe dhruvam.

    If this very holy stotra which if read with devotion by the passionate one ,

    Without doubt his wish would be fulfilled ,

    And he will   definitely would become stainless.

    13.Cheshtaam na kuruthe kama kadhachith api tham priyam,

    Bhavedh arogi sri yuktha , kama deva sama prabha.

    Vanitham labhathe sadhvim pathim trilokya mohinim.

    Without taking any action , sometimes the loved one would become his own,

    And he would be blessed with health and wealth and shine like the God of love,

    And also he would get the pious lady who is the mind stealer in the three worlds as his wife.

    Ithi Sri Mohini krutham Krishna stotram samaptham

    Thus ends the prayer to Lord Krishna composed by Mohini.

    Translation by P.R.Ramcchander.

    Mohinikrishna Stotra.pdf

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  • No Dowry Signed Inscription Virinchipuram Temple

    Dowry, the amount paid to the  Bridegroom by the Bride’s parents does not have the sanction of the Vedas or Smriti.

    How ever this practice was an is being followed in certain communities in India.

    The term Kanyadan , name for marriage, from the brides side , means gifting the Virgin Girl.

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    Virinchipuram Maragathambihai samedha Margabandheeswarar temple near Vellore, Tamil Nadu

    The term Panikgrahana from the Bridegroom’s side means ‘Holding the hand’

    This practice of dowry has played havoc in many a girl’s life.

    This obnoxious practice seems to have been in existence .at least, before 1300 AD.

    And people were concerned.

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    Kanyddaan, Gifting the Daughter.

    To such an extent an edict, sanctioned by the King and signed by the Brahmins find a place in a Temple’s inscription in Tamil.

    ”

    A Tamil Inscription from Margabandeswarar Temple in Virinchipuram offers some respite for DOWRY, THE SOCIAL CURSE that has vexed Brahman community during the reign Devaraya II (reigned 1432–46), Vijayanagara emperor.
    Agreement against Dowry by Brahmanas of the kingdom of Padaividu
    This inscription refers to the Brahmana Dharma (Sacred Law of Brahmans) and specific reference to the Brahmanas of the kingdom of Padaividu (town of  Padavedu – previously known as Padaividu – now in the Polur Taluk, Thiruvannamalai district) including Karnataka, Tamil, Telugu and Lata (the old name of Gujarat) Brahmanas. An agreement, signed by the representatives of Brahmanas of the kingdom of Padaividu , vouch to conduct marriages in their families as mere ‘Kanyadhana.’ – the part of the marriage ceremony where the bride’s father only gives away the bride to the bridegroom”
    ..
    Inscription inside the front gopura of the Virinchipuram Temple
    (No.56 Inside the front gopura of the Virinchipuram temple, second inscription to the right: III – Inscriptions at and near Virinchipuram. Tamil and Grantha Inscriptions. South Indian Inscriptions)
    Tamil Text
    சுபமஸ்து. ஸ்வஸ்தி ஸ்ரீ . ஸ்ரீமன் மகா ராஜாதிராஜ பரமேசுவரரான ஸ்ரீ வீரபிர
    தாப தேவராய மகாராஜர் ப்ரித்விராஜ்யம் பண்ணி அருளானின்ற சகாப்தம்
    1347ழின் மேல் செல்லானின்ற விஸ்வாசு வருஷம் பங்குனி மாதம் 3க்கு
    சஷ்டியும் புதன்கிழமையும்பெற்ற ஆநுசத்து நாள், படைவீட்டு இராஜ்யத்து
    அஸேஷவித்யமஹாஜநங்களும் அகர்கபுஷ்கரணி கோபிநாத ஸன்னதியிலே
    தர்ம ஸ்தாபந மையபத்ரம் பண்ணி குடுத்தபடிஇற்றைய நாள்முதலாக இந்த படைவீட்டு ராஜ் யத்து பிராமணரில்
    கன்ன(டி)கர் தமிழர் தெலுங்கர் இலாளர் முதலான ஆஸேஷ கோத்திரத்து
    அஸேஷசூத்தரத்தில் அஸேஷகையிலவர்களும் விவாஹம் பண்ணுமிடத்து,
    கன்னியாதானமாக விவாஹம் பண்ணக் கடவராகவும் கன்னியாதானம்
    பண்ணாமல் பொன் வாங்கி பெண் கொடுத்தால், பொன் கொடுத்து விவாஹம்
    பண்ணினால், ராஜ தண்டத்துக்கும் உட்பட்டு பிராமண்யத்துக்கும்
    புறம்பாகக் கடவரென்று பண்ணின தர்ம ஸ்தாபன மைய பத்ரம்; இப்படிக்கு
    அஸேஷ வித்ய மகாஜனங்கள் எழுத்து

    Translation    Let there be Prosperity! Hail! On the day of (the nakshatra) Anusham (Anuradha Star constellation) which corresponds to Wednesday, the sixth lunar day, the 3rd (solar day) of the month of Panguni (Tamil Calendar month) of the Visvavasu (Tamil Calendar year) year, which was current after the Saka (Shalivahana calendar) year 1347 (had passed),  while the illustrious maharajadhiraja-parameswara, the illustrious Virapratpa-Devaraya-maharaja was pleased to rule the earth,-the great men of all branches of sacred studies of the kingdom (rajyam) of Padaividu drew up, in the presence of (the god) Gopinatha (of) Arkapushkkarini, a document (which contains) an agreement fixing the sacred law. According  to (this document), if the Brahmanas of this kingdom (rajyam) of Padaividu, viz., Kannadigas, Tamilas, Telungas, Ilalas, etc.,of all gotras, sutras,  and  sakhas conclude a marriage, they shall, from this day forward, do it by kanyadana. Those who do no adopt kanyadana, i.e., both those who give away after having received gold, and those who conclude a marriage after having given gold, shall be liable to punishment by the king and shall be excluded from the community of Brahmanas. These are the contents of the document which was drawn up.

    The following are the signatures of the great men of all branches of sacred studies:-

    Virinchipuram Maragathambihai samedha Margabandheeswarar temple
    Virinchipuram Maragathambihai samedha Margabandheeswarar temple is located near Vellore town in the Chennai-Bangalore Highway.
    The east facing temple is around 1300 years old and is very rich in extraordinary sculptures and artistic pillars.
    The legend is found in  Arunachala Puranam, Siva Rahasiyam, Kanchi puranam and many other holy books . Aadhi Shankaracharyar did the Beejakshara Pradhishtai to the Simha theertham of the temple.
    The temple was venerated by Thirumoolar, Pattinathar, Thirugnana Sambhandhar, Appar, Arunagirinadhar,
    Appayya Dikshithar and few others.
    The holy tree is palm and the holy water tanks include Simha Theertham, Sooli Theertham and Brahma Theertham.
    Citation:
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