Tag: Marriage

  • Disillusion of a Software Professional, Is this Life?

    Office of Dr. Philip Blake, Al Capone's 2nd Ps...
    Office of Dr. Philip Blake, Al Capone’s 2nd Psychiatrist (Photo credit: Chicago Crime Scenes)

    I have blogged on 11 July 2012, on ‘I would like to be poor’ where  I have made some comments reflecting on Life…..

    “Life loses its charm and becomes tedious when one has everything in terms of material comforts.

    Some get things too easily.

    People long for good food,shelter ,good clothes,Car,Gadgets likeMobile, iPod,Home, a Girl/Boy friend , a job which appears to be satisfying for a while.

    They get married.

    They postpone be-getting children to ‘enjoy Life’

    They work inordinate and ungodly hours, eat junk food, guzzle soft drinks ,Hard Drinks.

    On Saturdays/Sundays, they wake up around 12 and laze about, go out for food, sleep , then go out for Dinner and watch movies.

    Suddenly they realize that they are ‘burnt out’

    They have no desire to do anything.

    They leave jobs saying that they want to do things they always wanted to do, forgetting that they chose their Careers on their own and made decisions on their own over every thing.

    They become abrasive and irritated and become depressed.

    This does not end here.

    Once out of job, they try to do some thing which they think they like doing , get disillusioned shortly and start hunting for a job.

    Some times they get it immediately, some times they don’t.

    They become depressed further and consult a Psychiatrist.

    The Psychiatrist tells them that they should get their priorities right and decide on what they like and start doing what they like.

    And the whole Cycle begins again!

    http://ramanisblog.in/2012/07/11/i-would-like-to-be-poor-for-a-while-what-life-is/

    I saw a forward sent by my son, which I read to day, which showed me how the mechanical pursuit and unnecessary reflection can lead to disillusionment and how man reaches old age.

    Read this poignant b ya Software professional.

    WRITTEN BY AN INDIAN SOFTWARE ENGINEER..
    A Bitter RealityAs the dream of most parents I had acquired a degree in
    Software Engineering and joined a company based in USA, the
    land of braves and opportunity. When I arrived in the USA, it
    was as if a dream had come true.Here at last I was in the place where I want to be. I decided I
    would be staying in this country for about Five years in which
    time I would have earned enough money to settle down in India.

    My father was a government employee and after his retirement,
    the only asset he could acquire was a decent one bedroom flat.

    I wanted to do some thing more than him. I started feeling
    homesick and lonely as the time passed. I used to call home and
    speak to my parents every week using cheap international phone
    cards. Two years passed, two years of Burgers at McDonald’s and
    pizzas and discos and 2 years watching the foreign exchange
    rate getting happy whenever the Rupee value went down.

    Finally I decided to get married. Told my parents that I have
    only 10 days of holidays and everything must be done within
    these 10 days. I got my ticket booked in the cheapest flight.
    Was jubilant and was actually enjoying hopping for gifts for
    all my friends back home. If I miss anyone then there will be
    talks. After reaching home I spent home one week going through
    all the photographs of girls and as the time was getting
    shorter I was forced to select one candidate.

    In-laws told me, to my surprise, that I would have to get
    married in 2-3 days, as I will not get anymore holidays. After
    the marriage, it was time to return to USA, after giving some
    money to my parents and telling the neighbors to look after
    them, we returned to USA.

    My wife enjoyed this country for about two months and then she
    started feeling lonely. The frequency of calling India
    increased to twice in a week sometimes 3 times a week. Our
    savings started diminishing.

    After two more years we started to
    have kids. Two lovely kids, a boy and a girl, were gifted to us
    by the almighty. Every time I spoke to my parents, they asked
    me to come to India so that they can see their grand-children.

    Every year I decide to go to India… But part work part
    monetary conditions prevented it. Years went by and visiting
    India was a distant dream. Then suddenly one day I got a
    message that my parents were seriously sick. I tried but I
    couldn’t get any holidays and thus could not go to India … The
    next message I got was my parents had passed away and as there
    was no one to do the last rights the society members had done
    whatever they could. I was depressed. My parents had passed
    away without seeing their grand children.

    After couple more years passed away, much to my children’s
    dislike and my wife’s joy we returned to India to settle down.
    I started to look for a suitable property, but to my dismay my
    savings were short and the property prices had gone up during
    all these years. I had to return to the USA…

    My wife refused to come back with me and my children refused to
    stay in India… My 2 children and I returned to USA after
    promising my wife I would be back for good after two years.

    Time passed by, my daughter decided to get married to an
    American and my son was happy living in USA… I decided that
    had enough and wound-up every thing and returned to India… I
    had just enough money to buy a decent 02 bedroom flat in a
    well-developed locality.

    Now I am 60 years old and the only time I go out of the flat is
    for the routine visit to the nearby temple. My faithful wife
    has also left me and gone to the holy abode.

    Sometimes

    I wondered was it worth all this?

    My father, even after staying in India,

    Had a house to his name and I too have
    the same nothing more.

    I lost my parents and children for just ONE EXTRA BEDROOM.

    Looking out from the window I see a lot of children dancing.
    This damned cable TV has spoiled our new generation and these
    children are losing their values and culture because of it. I
    get occasional cards from my children asking I am alright. Well
    at least they remember me.

    Now perhaps after I die it will be the neighbors again who will
    be performing my last rights, God Bless them.

    But the question
    still
    remains ‘was all this worth it?’

    I am still searching for an answer……………..!!!

    START THINKING

    IS IT JUST FOR ONE EXTRA BEDROOM???

    LIFE IS BEYOND THIS ….., DON’T JUST LEAVE YOUR LIFE ……!!!!
    START LIVING IT …….!!!
    LIVE IT AS YOU WANT IT TO BE ……!!!

    Regards,
    Anand

    Thanks Anand Ramanan

    Note.my son is a Software professional

  • Relationship-Brother and Sister Unique.Video

    There are many Realationships which we form and there are some which are granted to us.

    Parents,Brothers and Sisters and Children….

    English: Brother and sister in the street of Q...
    English: Brother and sister in the street of Qala-i-Shada, Kabul, Afghanistan Français : Un frère et sa soeur dans les rues de Qala-i-Shada, à Kaboul, en Afghanistan (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

    In these we have no choice.

    In Tamil and Sanskrit there are unique words to denote these relationships.

    Tamil :Parents-Petror.-one who begets-They beget children,They are the custodians.

    Sanskrit-Sahodaran/Sahodari-of the same Blood-sharing the same Blood.

    Of these the relationships between brothers is at one level and between sister and brother is at another level.

    A man sees in his sister his mother.

    Despite his ragging her early in Life, a man is totally dedicated to his sister to his younger sister.

    This slightly differs from his elder sister.

    With the younger sister he is totally free and indulgent, while with the elder one he is more reverent and a little reserved.

    With the later he seeks advice,but with the former he shares every thing as he would with a close friend.

    No doubt they have their quarrels as befits a true relationship.

    A sister is more like a mother but with  difference , she guides him tenderly.

    Whatever be the age , his affection for the sister and hers for the brother does not fade.

    Owing to the fact that one has to go different ways by getting married and has his/her own Family, the Love remains dormant.

    The stages  vary as a Child,Adolescent’married and after be-getting children.

    Asa child they quarrel, be a informers to parents of each other, as adolescents they share their innermost feelings unique to that age.

    But this relationship seems to strain a bit after marriage. mainly because of the fact another woman enters the Life of man and women being possessive by Nature are disturbed.

    They can not reconcile themselves to the fact that time has moved.

    They forget that also are sister in Law to her husband’s sister.There their behaviour is different, similar to her brother’s wife.

    But be it a brother or sister the affection sustains till the grave.

    All these were brought into focus in Neeyaa,Naana of  STAR Vijay on 10 June .

    The show was well anchored by Mr.Gopinath, who seems to know to ask the right question without being too intrusive.

    Excellent Anchor who seems to research his subject,

    (The greatest relief was not to find the self-styled Expert Dr,Shalini who normally offers text-book views, totally unrelated to reality.)

    Now watch the video and the greatest song on the love between by Kannadasan in Paasa Malar.

    Listen and Down load at http://gosong.net/MALARNTHUM.html

  • ‘Living in’ ,’Ditching’ Is it Rape?

    People enter into a Live in relationshiponly to avoid the responsibilities that accompany a marriage ,with a clear intention of ditching when it suits them.

    Marriage Day
    Marriage Day (Photo credit: Fikra)

    They hide behind nonsensical statements like, ‘want to know the partner well’ and the like.

    How many people, despite living matrimony have understood their spouses?

    It is impossible to understand another human being.

    You adjust and make compromises, that’s Life.

    Do we understand ourselves?

    Now to the issue of rape.

    Both the partners have indulged in sexual intercourse by consent.

    If the live in relationship breaks ,how does earlier intercourse becomes a rape?

    It looks as if even married couple have to sign a bond consenting for sexual intercourse!

    Again can not a Man claim the same privilege?(!)

    Sheer nonsense.

    You have entered into a relationship knowing the full implication.

    One does not marry to remain a monk nor a woman a nun.

    Please read my blog on rape.

    A Delhi-based computer professional had no qualms in maintaining a live-in relationship for 8 years with a girl but when it came to marrying her, he quickly fell into the customary caste-based obligation to tie the knot with another girl chosen by his parents. Married just three months ago, now he faces rape charges brought against him by the erstwhile live-in partner. His last hope for protection against arrest went up in smoke on Friday as a vacation bench of the Supreme Court dismissed his bail plea.

    Petitioner’s counsel argued that the erstwhile live-in partner had never complained of rape during the 8 year relationship and has filed a complaint with police accusing him of raping her only after learning that he was getting married.

    A bench of Justices Deepak Verma and S J Mukhopadhaya said “for 8 years you remained together and now you have ditched her to marry another. That could be a reason for the complaint. But you face the charge.”

    The two met in 2004 and stayed together as live-in partners towards the end of 2011. But, the man chickened out when his family and society opposed the match on the ground that the girl did not belong to the caste in which he could get married.

    As soon as the girl came to know that he was going to marry another chosen by his parents, she filed a complaint with the police on February 4, just eight days before the date of his marriage. The counsel said the family elders intervened and settled the matter. The girl withdrew her complaint on February 8.

    The boy got married on February 12 and the former live-in partner went to Mandawali police station on March 1 insisting on registration of her complaint accusing him of repeatedly raping her on the promise of marriage.

    With the trial court and the Delhi High Court refusing to grant him bail, he had moved the Supreme Court seeking relief on the ground, among others, that he had been married just three months ago.

    http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/india/Man-ditches-live-in-partner-of-8-years-faces-rape-charge-SC-dismisses-bail-plea/articleshow/13487862.cms

     

  • You Can Not Divorce Relationships.

    Divorce Rates in Sweden 2000- 2010
    Divorce Rates in Sweden 2000- 2010 (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

    A relationship is in the mind.

    It might be a Girl friend or wife.

    One might think to have ended it under Law.

    The relationship exists in the mind.

    You might get a divorce legally.

    The memories, good or bad still linger.

    No man or woman is wholly good or wholly bad.

    Even after legal separation, these memories linger.

    Again, we normally are not aware and are reluctant to admit our short comings in a relationship.

    It is only when we enter into a new relationship do we find that we get the doubt that we have our own shortcomings.

    So the maladjustment leaves a scar  in our psyche.

    To remain in a relationship trying to bear with a partner who is incompatible and cruel is also a pain.

    Is this why people say ‘Marriages are made in Heaven?” ,for better or worse-substitute relationship for marriage.

    If the relationship is parents/siblings, children?

    You can not divorce these.

    In Sanskrit there are two words to describe these relationships.

    One is Sondham, the other is Bandham.

    Sondham is a relationship which is not your choosing-parents,siblings and children. You are stuck with it.

    Bandham is what we choose( this might be wrong as well)-wife, acquaintances-you may be able to discard them.

    Here’s how most of us who are thinking about leaving our marriage imagine divorce will be like: We’ve had it with our partner (or perhaps he’s decided the same about us and casts us aside, but let’s just say we’re the ones who want out and let’s say we’re the woman because women ask for divorce two-thirds of the time). We think — finally, freedom.

    Now we no longer have to feel the brunt of his anger and criticism; we can stop nagging about how he doesn’t pull his weight around the house; we won’t have to fake being in the mood when we’re not, and we get to do and eat and watch whatever we want whenever we want to.

    And, we have the kids, so we don’t have to bicker anymore over whose turn it is to bathe them or whether they can have ice cream for dessert if they didn’t finish everything on their dinner plate.

    Not so fast.

    Maybe that was what divorce was like back in the day when moms were almost always awarded full custody and dads could “visit” their kids. But those days are rapidly disappearing, according to University of Sydney law professor Patrick Parkinson, whose new book, “Family Law and the Indissolubility of Parenthood” (Cambridge University Press, 2011), details the major shift in family law and the incredible challenges ahead.

    “Many of the conflicts about family law in the Western world today derive from the breakdown of the model on which divorce reform was predicated in the late 1960s and early 1970s,” he writes. The model he discusses assumed that divorce was a clean break; husband went his way, wife went hers and all was good. “The assumption was that once the property and the children had been allocated to one household or the other, each parent was autonomous. The divorce freed him or her from being entangled with the life of the other parent, except to a limited extent,” Parkinson writes.

    But rarely has that been true. Most divorcees learn relatively quickly that although we’re no longer married and living together, we still have to deal with our former spouse in their continuing role as our kids’ mom or dad. He or she still has a say, and can nix our plans to move away for a new job or a new love. Divorce is no longer the end of a relationship; it’s a “restructuring of a continuing relationship.”

    Which has made some of us as miserable divorced as we were in our marriage.

    “People in unhappy marriages do not look to divorce as a way to restructure the relationship with their partners. They look to divorce to end that relationships, to set them free to start a new life, perhaps to move to a new location and to form new relationships,” Parkinson says.

    But, not if you have kids. As Parkinson notes, “The experience of the last forty years has shown that whereas marriage may be freely dissoluble, parenthood is not.”

    And a huge reason for the battles in family courts has been the “problem” of fatherhood, he says. It used to be that dads were mostly absent; now, he notes, we can’t get rid of dads: “Separation motivates some fathers to rethink their priorities and to try to maintain their connections to children even if this means struggle and conflict. Because fathers demand a greater involvement in their children’s lives after separation, there has been increasing conflict both at a policy level and at the individual level of litigated cases.” And it’s happening globally.

    This is, of course, something to celebrate — dads wanting to be with their kids. Who wouldn’t want dads to be hands-on in a shared-parenting arrangement instead of mom having sole custody? Well, a lot of people, according to Parkinson. Although national statistics are hard to come by, a 2008 study of seven states he cites in his book indicates a dramatic increase in custody filings — 44 percent between 1997 and 2006 — at the same time that divorces had decreased in the U.S. by 3 percent.

    Throw into the mix all sorts of new ways of partnering — from cohabitation to same-sex civil unions — and already convoluted and outdated family laws are being stretched in ways they can no longer handle, he says.

    Unfortunately, whatever legal changes have occurred so far haven’t been driven by a “philosophical shift in the meaning of divorce,” but piecemeal and too often driven by “destructive gender conflict.”

    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/vicki-larson/why-divorcees-arent-free-_b_1512109.html?utm_campaign=052112&utm_medium=email&utm_source=Alert-divorce&utm_content=FullStory

  • How To Register A Marriage Details.

    Rita and John's Marriage Certificate
    Rita and John’s Marriage Certificate (Photo credit: mary hodder)

    The details regarding the Registration of Marriages are as under.

    For additional details please check with the Registrar, or Sub-Registrar of your city


    ‘Q1. What is the procedure for Solemnization of marriage / Registration of marriage?

    i. Procedure for Registration under HMA.
    ii. Procedure for Registration under SMA.
    iii. Procedure for Solemnization of marriage under SMA.

    Q. Where do I have to go and during which hours?

    To the office of Additional Divisional Magistrate in whose jurisdiction any of the husband or wife resides, during 9.30 a.m. to 1.00 p.m. on any working day. The office is located in the DC office complex on main Mehrauli Badarpur Road and near Anupam Appt. for assistance of public, recption counter is manned during the offical hours for proper guidance. Necessary forms can also be obtained from Reception Counter or can be downloaded from this site.

    Q. Which papers/documents/fees, do I have to take with me?

    1. Hindhu/Special marriage Application form duly signed by both husband and wife. 2. Hindhu/Special marriage Documentary evidence of date of birth of parties (Matriculation Certificate / Passport / Birth Certificate) Minimum age of both parties is 21 years at the time of registration under the Special Marriage Act. 3.Residential proof of husband and wife . 4.In case of Special Marriage Act, documentary evidence regarding stay in Delhi of the parties for more than 30 days (ration card or report from the concerned SHO). 5. Hindhu marriage Affidavit by both the parties stating place and date of marriage, date of birth, marital status at the time of marriage and nationality. 6.Two Hidhu/Special marriage passport size photographs of both the parties and one marriage photograph. 7.Marriage invitation Hidhu marriage card, if available. 8. Hidhu marriage If marriage was solemnized in a religious place, a certificate from the priest is required who solemnized the marriage. 9.Rs. 10/- in case of Hindu Marriage Act and Rs.15/- in case of Special Marriage Act to be deposited with the cashier of District and the receipt should be attached with the application form. 10.Affirmation that the parties are not related to each other within the prohibited degree of relationship as per Hindu Marriage Act or Special Marriage Act as the case may be. For details of such relationships Click here. 11.Attested copy of divorce decree/order in case of a divorcee and death certificate of spouse in case of widow/widower. 12.In case one of the parties belong to other than Hindu, Budhist, Jain and Sikh religions, a conversion certificate from the priest who solemnized the marriage(in case of Hindu Marriage Act). 13. In case one of the parties is a foreign national, no objection certificate/marital Status certificate from the concerned embassy.

    All documents excluding receipt should be attested by a Gazetted Officer.

    Q. What will be the criteria used while deciding my case?

    A) Hindu Marriage Act

    Verification of all the documents is carried out on the date of application and a day is fixed and communicated to the parties for registration. On the said day, both parties, alongwith a Gazetted Officer who attended their marriage, need to be present before the ADM. The Certificate is issued on the same day

    B) Special Marriage Act

    Both parties are required to be present after submission of documents for issuance of public notice inviting objections. One copy of notice is pasted on the notice board of the office and copy of the notice is sent by registered post to marriage officer of the area where either of the parties having present/permenent address. Registration is done 30 days after the date of notice after deciding any objection that may have been received during that period by the ADM. Both parties alongwith three witnesses are required to be present on the date of registration/Solemenzation. For filing objection, register is available with the Dealing Assistant in the office of ADM(S).

    Q. Are the advocates required for registration/ Solemenization.

    Both the registration under HMA & SMA and solemenization of marriage under SMA is a very simple procedure and doesnot required any LEGAL HELP / ASSISSTANCE. It is advised that parties should present their case directly.

    Q. What are the relevant Forms?

    One copy of notice is pasted on the notice board of the office and copy of the notice is sent by registered post to marriage officer of the area where either of the parties having present/permenent address.

    Q. When will I get a response?

    In case of Hindhu Marriage Act, at the time of filing duly completed application form, a due date vide acknowledgement of receipt of application form is given . On that date necessary formalities can be completed. In case of registration / solemnization of marriage under Special Marriage Act, notice of 30 days after appearance of both the parties the marriage officer is mandatory. Once the application alongwith the prescribed document is presented, the date for appearance before the marriage officer is given vide acknowledgement

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    Solemnisation of Marriage under Special Marriage Act

    Special Marriage Act, 1954 provides for solemnisation of marriages in accordance with the provisions of the Act. SDMs/ADMs/Deputy Commissioners have been authorised as Marriage Officers for this purpose.

    Q. What will be the criteria used while deciding my case?
    For solemnization of marriage, presence of both parties is required after submission of documents of issuance of notice of intended marriage. A copy of the notice is pasted on the office notice board by the ADM. Any person may within 30 days of issue of notice , file objection to the intended marriages. In such a case, the SDM shall not solemnise the marriage until he has decided the objection, within 30 days of its receipt. If the ADM refuses to solemnise the marriage, any of the parties may file an appeal within 30 days to the District Court. In case no objection is received, the ADM solemnises the marriage after 30 days of the notice. Both parties alongwith 3 witnesses are required to be present on the date of solemnisation of marriage. It is advisable to submit names of witnesses atleast one day in advance.

    Q. What are the relevant Forms?

    Click here for relevant Form

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    Degree of Prohibited relationship as per the Hindu Marriage Act, 1955

    Section 3 (f):

    i.”Sapinda relationship” with reference to any person extends as far as the third generation (inclusive) in the line of ascent through the mother, and the fifth (inclusive) in the line of ascent through the father, the line being traced upwards in each case from the person concerned, who is to be counted as the first generation;

    ii.two persons are said to “sapindas” of each other if one is a lineal ascendant of the other within the limits of sapinda relationship, or if they have a common lineal ascendant who is within the limits of sapinda relationship with reference to each of them;8

    Section 3 (g):

    “degrees of prohibited relationship” – two persons are said to be within the “degrees of prohibited relationship” –

    i.if one is a lineal ascendant of the other; or ii.if one was the wife or husband of a lineal ascendant or descendant of the other; or iii.if one was the wife of the brother or the father’s or mother’s brother or of the grandfather’s or grandmother’s brother of the other; or iv.if the two are brother and sister, uncle and niece, aunt and nephew, or children of brother and sister or of two brothers or of two sisters;

    Explanation – For the purposes of clauses 3(f) and 3(g), relationship includes –

    i.relationship by half or uterine blood as well as by full blood; ii.illegitimate blood relationship as well as legitimate; iii.relationship by adoption as well as by blood;
    and all terms of relationship in those clauses shall be construed accordingly.

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    Degrees of Prohibited relationship as per the Special Marriage Act, 1954

    Section 2 (b):

    “Degrees of prohibited relationship” – a man and any of the persons mentioned in Part I of the First Schedule and a woman and any of the persons mentioned in Part II of the said Schedule are within the degrees of prohibited relationship.

    Explanation (I) – Relationship includes, —
    a.relationship by half or uterine blood as well as by full blood; b.illegitimate blood relationship as well as legitimate; c.relationship by adoption as well as by blood;

    and all terms of relationship in this Act shall be construed accordingly.

    Explanation (II) – “Full blood” and “half blood” – two persons are said to be related to each other by full blood when they are descended from a common ancestor by the same wife and by half blood when they are descended from a common ancestor but by different wives.

    Explanation (III) – “Uterine blood” – two persons are said to be related to each other by uterine blood when they are descended from a common ancestress but by different husbands.

    Explanation (IV) – In Explanations II and III, “ancestor” includes the father and “ancestress” the mother;

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    THE FIRST SCHEDULE [ DEGREE OF PROHIBITED RELATIONSHIP]

    PART – I
    Mother.
    Father’s widow (step mother).
    Mother’s mother.
    Mother’s father’s widow (step grand-mother).
    Mother’s mother’s mother.
    Mother’s mother’s father’s widow (step great grand-mother).
    Mothers’s father’s mother.
    Mother’s father’s father’s widow (step great grand-mother).
    Father’s mother.
    Father’s father’s widow (step grand-mother).
    Father’s mother’s mother.
    Father’s mother’s father’s widow (step great grand-mother).
    Father’s father’s mother.
    Father’s father’s father’s widow (step great grand-mother).
    Daughter.
    Son’s widow.
    Daughter’s daughter.
    Daughter’s son’s widow.
    Son’s daughter.
    Son’s son’s widow.
    Daughter’s daughter’s daughter.
    Daughter’s daughter’s son’s widow.
    Daughter’s son’s daughter.
    Daughter’s son’s son’s widow.
    Son’s daughter’s daughter.
    Son’s daughter’s son’s widow.
    Son’s son’s daughter.
    Son’s son’s son’s widow.
    Sister.
    Sister’s daughter.
    Brother’s daughter.
    Mother’s sister.
    Father’s sister.
    Father’s brother’s daughter.
    Father’s sister’s daughter.
    Mother’s sister’s daughter.

    Mother’s brother’s daughter.

    Explanation – For the purposes of this Part, the expression “widow” includes a divorced wife”

    http://dcsouth.delhigovt.nic.in/registeration_marriage.htm#RM

    Related:

    Karnataka Marriage and Registration Act.

    Sections:
    CHAPTER-I
    PRELIMINARY
    1. Short title, extent and commencement
    2. Definitions
    CHAPTER-II
    REGISTRATION OF MARRIAGES
    3. Every marriage to be registered
    4. Appointment of Registrar of Marriages, etc
    5. Memorandum of Marriages
    6. Memorandum of marriage submitted after thirty days, etc.
    7. Register to be open for public inspection
    8. Non-registration not to invalidate the marriage.
    CHAPTER-III
    DOWRY
    9. Giving or taking of dowry prohibited
    10. Agreement for giving or taking dowry to be void.
    11. Dowry to be for the benefit of the wife or her heirs
    CHAPTER-IV
    LUXURY MARRIAGE TAX
    12. Levy of luxury marriage tax
    13. Levy and collection of marriage tax
    CHAPTER-V
    INTER –CASTE MARRIAGES
    14. Inter-Caste marriage
    CHAPTER-VI
    CERTAIN RESTRICTIONS

    http://dpal.kar.nic.in/.%5C2%20of%201984%20(E).pdf