Siddique was nowhere to be found.
While we were preparing the body for funeral.
He came, inebriated, crying , demanding that he be allowed to carry my father's body to the cremation ground.
The priests objected to this, him being a Muslim.
My eldest brother said that Siddique was more attached to our father than us and my father reciprocated that.
Siddique carried the body.
I came across an article on this and noticed this discussion some forums.
It is often assumed that you can share everything with your friend without any reservation.
Fact is that the one whom you can share without reservations is your best friend and not the other way.
When you share something with some one you should not be apprehensive about the fall out or the consequences of divulging such information.
One has to be wary of the fact that it might their attitude and behavior towards you.
The one whom you share might have their own agenda.
This is likely to complicate relations with them further because you are not sure whether their advice or opinions are colored and biased in their favor.
In general it is no practical to share everything with relatives, wife/husband included for the reasons mentioned above.
In the case of a friend it is different for they have no axe to grind nor are they interested in using your information or in some cases,You!
It is often thought one is expected to share everything with those whom they Love.
Incorrect.
Unselfish, Altruistic Love is Utopian, not practical.
In any relationship there is always an element of expectation.
Moreover one loves some one for certain qualities and not for all the qualities one possesses.
Therefore their perceptions need not concur with others and they never will.
So the question of sharing is fraught with complication with relatives.
But as I said earlier it is not so with friends.
The problem is that such friends are rare to come by.
I am fortunate to have such a friend(read my post on Friendship)
Coming to the issue of sharing with Spouse,it is very dicey and often leads to complications.
This dos not mean you do not love.
The conception that Love is complete only when you share, in my opinion is childish.
Love is about caring, that's all.
This requires a more healthy and mature Attitude than sharing.
Yet the question of sharing between Man and Woman always, though unspoken, has sexual implications.
Platonic Love is for Plato_Did he have a happy married Life?
Some references and discussions.
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