Tag: Death

  • ‘Paid Mourning’ At Funerals Indian And Abroad.

    I was around 12 or 13 at Chennai with my Brother and Mother.

    My father who was at Srivilliputtur, Tamil Nadu sent us a Telegram informing us the passing away of my paternal Grandfather at our place.

    We rushed Home.

    Only  to find my father reclining in his easy chair in the pial ( a small place at the entrance of the house meant for relaxing  in the evening and to provide resting place for travelers), with my grandfather’s body laid out in Hall inside.

    I remember having asked my father,

    ‘It is your Father who is dead? Why are you not crying?

    He replied,

    “Look he is dead, if people can assure me he will come back if I cry, I will cry.

    People never come back, so do not waste time and energy .

    I was waiting for you both, I have to arrange for Professional Mourners”

    He sent for them.

    They came Home and started beating their chests and started wailing(Four in number) till the body was taken away from our Home o the Burning Ghat.

    I could not understand what they were singing nor what they were doing for the death of my father.

    (They were paid, I think about 4 Annas , a high price at that time, equivalent to 25Paise of today(which is not in circulation now).

    In Dollar terms it is 25 % of  One Rupee. ( US $ = Rs 60).

    Later I came to know about these people.

    In Hinduism, excepting the Brahmins, other Communities celebrate Death if it happens to be of an elderly person with a lot of singing, dancing and the atmosphere is festive.

    In Brahmin House holds, the mood would be somber, dignified.

    They have been trained that Life and Death are inevitable and have to be taken in one’s stride normally.

    However there is also a belief that the Dead person’s spirit hovers around the house for 12 days, till the Sabindeekaranam Ceremony is done and would become sad if they are not remembered.

    So people have to talk about them during this period.

    Where people can not mourn openly engage the Services of Professional Mourners.

    There is even a term for doing something with out involvement ,’கூலிக்கு மாரடிக்கிறது  (Doing for only money)

    In Tamil literature the songs for these occasions are given literary status and are master pieces of emotions, sentiments and Philosophy.

    I am proving some Links towards the end of this post.

    Now I just read a piece on professional Mourning in England.

    Makes an interesting Read.

    Human emotions are the same.

    Is Wake not about this?

    Hindu Mourning.
    Hindu Mourning.

    Story:

    4:10PM GMT 26 Mar 2013

    For £45 an hour, the fake mourners can be rented to cry for the duration of a funeral service in order to swell the numbers at funerals.

    Ian Robertson, the founder of Rent-a-Mourner, in Braintree, Essex, admits the idea may be unfamiliar to the British, although the phenomenon is popular in places such as Asia.

    The mourners-for-hire are briefed on the life of the deceased and would be able to talk to friends and relatives as if they really had known their loved one.

    Rent-a-Mourner has 20 staff on its books to hire out for funerals, which Mr Robertson said were friends of his rather than professional actors.

    He added that they are not required to well up, but are mainly there just to make up the numbers.

    http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/newstopics/howaboutthat/9955111/Mourners-for-rent-hired-to-blub-at-funerals.html

    1. ஆலி ஆட்டம், 2. இலாவணி, 3. கழியல் ஆட்டம், 4. குறவன்குறத்தி ஆட்டம், 5. கைச்சிலம்பாட்டம், 6. கோலாட்டம், 7. தப்பாட்டம் (பறையாட்டம்), 8. தெருக்கூத்து, 9. நையாண்டி மேளம், 10. பெரியமேளம், 11. பேயாட்டக்காமிக், 12. ஒப்பாரி, 13. மாரடிப்பாட்டு ஆகியன நிகழ்த்தப்படுகின்றன. இவை வட்டாரத்திற்கு வட்டாரம், பொருளாதாரத்திற்கு ஏற்றாற் போலும், இறந்தவரின் வயதிற்குத் தகுந்தாற் போலும் மாறுபடும். இந்நிகழ்த்துக் கலைகளில் கானாப்பாடலின் கூறுகளும். தன்மைகளும் ஒப்பாரியிலும் மாரடிப்பாட்டிலும் காணலாம். அவற்றின் நிகழ்வினைப் பின்வருமாறு ஆராயப்படுகின்றன.

    ஒப்பாரி – நிகழ்த்தும்விதம்:-

    உயிர்போன வெற்றுடல் எரிப்பதற்கோ, புதைப்பதற்கோ கிடக்கின்றது. அவ்வெற்றுடலை நம்பி வாழ்ந்தவர்கள், அதனால் வாழ்வு பெற்றவர்கள், உரிமையுடையவர்கள் உயிர்போன அவ்வெற்றுடலைச் சுற்றி நின்று அல்லது உட்கார்ந்து கொண்டும், ஒருவர் மேல் ஒருவர் கையினைப் போட்டுக் கொண்டும், சிலர் கண்ணீர் மட்டும் சிந்த, சிலர் மனதுக்குள் வருத்தப்பட, சிலர் மனம் கலக்கமுற்று மயங்க, இப்படித் தங்கள் துன்பங்களை வெளிப்படுத்துவார்கள். அவ்வெற்றுடலைக் கண்டு சிலர் பாட்டுப் பாடி அழுகின்றார்கள். அப்பாட்டுக்களில் உயிர் இருக்கின்றது. இறந்து போனவர் அப்பாடல் மூலம் எழுந்து நடமாடுவது போன்று இருக்கிறது. இறந்து கிடக்கும் வெற்றுடலின் வரலாறு தெரியாதவர்களுக்கு அப்பாடல் அதனுடைய வரலாற்றினைக் காட்டுகின்றது. எனவே இறந்தவர் எழுந்து பாட்டு வடிவில் நடமாடுகின்றார். இறந்தவரைப் பாட்டின் மூலம் மற்றவர்களுக்குக் காட்டக் காரணமானவர்கள் பெண்கள். பெண்களால் பாடப்படும் அப்பாடல்களையே ஒப்பாரி என்று அழைக்கிறோம்.

    பெண் ஒருத்தி தான் ஒப்பாரி வைத்துச் சந்தர்ப்பத்திற்குத் தகுந்தார்போல், சொற்களைப் பயன்படுத்தா விட்டால், மற்ற பெண்கள் பொருத்தமின்மையைக் கிண்டலடிப்பார்கள். உரியச் சொற்கள் என்று குறிப்பது ஒப்பாரி வைக்கும் பெண்ணிற்கும் இறந்தவருக்கும் உள்ள உறவினைக் குறிக்கும். இதனையொத்த நிலையில் சென்னை நகரக் குடிசை வாழ் மற்றும் நடைபாதை மக்களிடத்தில், இறப்புச் சடங்கன்று ஆண்கள் ஒன்று கூடிப்பாடுகின்றார்கள். அதனைக் கானாப் பாடல் என்று கூறுவார்கள்.

    மாரடிப்பாட்டு – நிகழ்த்தும் விதம்:-

    மாரடிப்பாட்டு என்பது இறந்தவர்கள் பற்றிப் பாடப்படும் பாடலாகும். இதற்கென்றே கூலிக்கு மாரடிக்கும் கலைஞர்கள் உள்ளனர். மார்பில் அடித்துக் கொண்டே பாடுவதால் இது மாரடிப்பாட்டு என்று வழக்கப்படுகிறது. இதனை ஒப்பாரிப்பாட்டு என்றும் அழைக்கின்றனர். இந்நிகழ்வு தமிழகத்தில் பரவலாக நிகழ்த்தப்படுகிறது. இதனைக் குறிப்பிட்ட இடம், மாதம், நாள் எனக் கணக்கிட்டு நிகழ்த்துவதில்லை. இறந்தவர்களின் வீடுகளில் மட்டுமே நிகழ்த்துகின்றனர். இறந்தவரின் பிணம் வீட்டுக்குள் இருக்கும் போது மாரடிப் பாட்டு கலைஞர்கள் வீட்டின் முற்றத்தில் (வாசல்பகுதி) நின்று கொண்டு இதனை நிகழ்த்துகின்றனர். இவை வாழ்க்கை வட்டச் சடங்குகளில், இறப்புச் சடங்கின் ஒரு கூறாக உள்ளது. பெரும்பாலும் வயது முதிர்ந்தவர்கள் இறந்தால் மட்டுமே மாரடிப்பாட்டு நிகழ்த்தப்படுகிறது. சிலயிடங்களில் வரையறையுடன் நிகழ்த்துகின்றனர். இம்மாரடிப் பாட்டில் பதினோரு பேர் பங்கெடுக்கின்றனர். இதில் ஆறு பேர் பாட்டுப் பாடுகின்றனர். ஒருவர் நாதசுரம் வாசிக்கின்றார். இருவர் தம்புருசெட் (பெரியமேளம்) அடிக்கின்றனர். ஒருவர் உறுமியும் மற்றொருவர் கிடுகிட்டியும் இசைக்கின்றனர்.

    http://www.koodal.com/article/tamil/ilakkiyam.asp?id=371

    Drums played in a death ceremony at Tamil Nadu Village

    நீ போருக்கு போனடத்தை 
    போராடி மாண்டாய் ஐயா
    மகனே
    பாரத்துவக்கெடுத்தோ
    உங்களுக்கு
    பயந்தவெடி வச்சானோ
    உங்களுக்கு பெரிய துவக்கொடுத்தோ
    உங்கள பேசாமல் சுட்டெறிந்தான்
    மகனார்
    உன்ன சந்தியல கண்டடத்தை
    உன்னைபெத்த கறுமி
    தலைவெடித்துப் போறனையா
    மகனார் நீகப்பலில வாராயெண்டோ
    நாங்க கடலருகில் காத்திருந்தோம்
    
    மகனே நீ 
    இருந்த இடத்தைப் பார்தாலும்
    இரு தணலாய் மூளுதையா
    நீ படுத்த இடத்தை பார்தாலும் 
    பயம் பயமாய் தோன்றுதடா
    மகனே
    உன்னைப் பெற்ற கறுமி நான்
    இங்க உப்பலந்த நாழியைப்போல்
    நீ இல்லாம
    நாள்தோறும் உக்கிறனே
    http://ta.wikipedia.org/wiki/%E0%AE%92%E0%AE%AA%E0%AF%8D%E0%AE%AA%E0%AE%BE%E0%AE%B0%E0%AE%BF%E0%AE%AA%E0%AF%8D_%E0%AE%AA%E0%AE%BE%E0%AE%9F%E0%AE%B2%E0%AF%8D
    

     

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  • Heart Stopped Beating 45 Minutes, Recovers

    A woman’s heat stopped beating for 45 minutes in England

     

    People including the Doctor gave up on her.

     

    But the Paramedics went on CPR Procedure and her Heart stated beating after 45 minutes and she is recovering.

     

    Hope this does not make people keep the dead for an indefinite period in the hope of reviving them.

     

    Hinduism stipulates that the body may be kept for 96 minutes( Two Muhurtahams).

     

    The body is not to be disposed of before this.

     

    I awit her experiences  during this 45 Minutes to know more about Death.

    Story:

    A 63-year-old woman who was expected to die after her heartstopped for 45 minutes, is recovering well.

    Carol Brothers, from Easterton near Devizes, collapsed outside her home from a heart attack, last month.

    Paramedics managed to restart her heart and she was airlifted tohospital but her family were told to expect the worst and doctors withdrew medication.

    Her daughter, Maxine Dickinson, said doctors “put mum on the pathway to die” but days later “she came back to life”.

    Mrs Brothers was returning home from a shopping trip with her daughter when she collapsed, said her husband David.

    Induced coma

    “I saw them pull up, the next thing I hear is the daughter screaming at the top of her voice and I couldn’t see Carol,” he said.

    “So I shot out there and she was flat out on the floor, just changing colour – a horrible colour and basically I panicked.”

    Medical support was withdrawn from Mrs Brothers but she is recovering
    Medical support was withdrawn from Mrs Brothers but she is recovering

    The doctor said she could go quite quickly – and they put mum on the pathway to die”

    Maxine DickinsonDaughter

    Mrs Brothers’ daughter, with the help of a neighbour, began to administer CPR but she said as far as she was concerned “my Mum was dead on the path”.

    “I just went into complete shock,” she said.

    (First Response and the paramedics arrived and we stayed out the way because I just couldn’t watch my mum – it was too upsetting.

    “But they just kept going and going and going and after 45 minutes did get the heartbeat going.”)

    http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-wiltshire-21910348

     

    Related:

    A man has survived against the odds after a heart attack which caused his heart to stop beating for 18 minutes.

    Doctors say people can normally survive for up to four minutes after they stop breathing. They are likely to die or suffer serious brain damage after that.

    But Rob Waggett, 31, of Newport took a breath after paramedics used a defibrillator seven times to shock him.

    Doctors told his wife he survived because his heart kept on quivering four times longer than normal.

    His wife Dianna said: “It’s a miracle.”

    He was allowed home on Sunday but his short-term memory has been affected by the ordeal.

    http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/wales/8505038.stm

  • What Happens to My Facebook Page after My Death

    This is a great question of international curiosity

    Facebook Page. Like this!
    Facebook Page. Like this! (Photo credit: TangYauHoong)

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    I never thought of what would happen to things here after my death., the reason , I have nothing left to leave save my children.

     

    Let alone Facebook Pages.

     

    I have come across a news item that after your death your estate could control these social networking material.

     

    But no Laws yet.

     

    But, last week, the New Hampshire House of Representatives voted 222-128 to give Sullivan more time to write an amendment that begins a study of the issue.

     

    Now you can sleep peacefully.

    Story:

    State Rep. Peter Sullivan has introduced legislation to allow the executor of an estate control over the social networking pages of the dead. Last week, the New Hampshire House of Representatives voted 222-128 to give Sullivan more time to write an amendment that begins a study of the issue.

    The bill proposed by Sullivan, a Democrat from Manchester, would allow control of someone’s Facebook, Twitter, and other accounts such as Gmail to be passed to the executor of their estate after death.

    According to Sullivan, passage of his bill would bridge a gap in policies of social media sites regarding posthumous users. He said his bill would protect residents who have suffered loss.

    “This would give the families a sense of closure, a sense of peace. It would help prevent this form ofbullying that continues even after someone dies and nobody is really harmed by it.”

    http://news.yahoo.com/facebook-death-172350356.html

    Related;

    ‘Nobody knows exactly when the 39-year-old, who went by the online moniker “Dare Dellcan,” took his life. Nobody knows why the normally cheery creative director anddesign company owner did it. And for the first couple of days, few people besides the police officers who found his body on July 16 knew he was dead.

    The day after the discovery, a message appeared on Dowdell’s Facebook wall.

    “I am a friend of Anthony’s. I wish I could call you all to inform you personally and this is probably a crappy way to find this out but our dear friend Anthony aka Ant aka Dare Dellcan has passed away. It is confirmed. I live around the corner and I have spoken with authorities this evening … I am only sharing this because if I was Anthony’s friend, I would want to know too. And I know that Anthony had friends all over the place.”

    https://ramanisblog.in/2012/12/09/your-facebook-profile-after-your-death-video/

     

  • Death in Chapels Photo Essay

    St Gratianus is enrobed in rich jewels and fine fabric befitting his state as a martyr. It is known he died for his faith because his bones stand above a chalice filled with dried blood. His remains are on display in the Basilica of Waldsassen in Germany.

    Image of Death
    St Gratianus

    The Bones of St Pancratius are found at the Church of St Niklaus in Wil, Switzerland. He was originally robed in clothes by nuns in the late 1600s but in 1777 – the centenary of his bones arriving in Wil – he was dressed in this magnificent commissioned suit of armour.

    Image of Death
    St Pancratius

    Vincenzo Piccini is the only clothed mummy in the Chiesa Dei Morti of the Confrternity of Buona Morte in Urbania, Italy. He is dressed in the robes of the religious order he was a member of and he wears the silver badge of death

    Image of Death.
    Vincenzo Piccini

    This bonneted lady can be found in the Chapel of Virgins in the Crypt of the Monastery of Santa Maria Della Pace in Palermo, Italy. She is one of four virgins placed on a ledge holding palm fronds signifying the triumph of faith.

    Bonneted lady.
    Virgin

    The Sedlec Ossuary (Ossuary of All Saints) in the Czech Republic is one of the most famous bone houses in the world. It doesn’t just lay the bones to rest – it uses them as extravagant deathly decorations. It is especially famed for the huge chandelier made entirely of human remains – part of which can be seen in the top left of this photograph.

    Sedlec Ossuary
    Sedlec Ossuary

    The skulls at the Chapel of St Michael in Hallstatt, Austria are famous for having been painted. The painted skulls are almost all male as they were outlived by their wives who would decorate them. Unfortunately the wives’ remains were left to their children who were less concerned with decorating the dead so they remain unpainted.

     Skulls at the Chapel of St Michael in Hallstatt,
    Painted Skulls

    The Chapel of Bones is in the Church of Nossa Senhora do Carmo in Faro, Portugal. In addition to the walls and ceilings of bones of members of the religious Carmelite order, death is even found underfoot where the paving stones are headstones for the deceased priors and local dignitaries.

    Chapel of Bones
    Chapel of Bones

    By no means the most extravagant collection of bones on this list, the St Hilaire cemetery in Marville, France gets its beauty from simplicity. It is unique in that may of the skulls are housed in small cabinets inscribed with funerary inscriptions.

    St Hilaire cemetery in Marville,
    St Hilaire Cemetery

    The Ossuary Chapel of San Martino Della Battaglia in Italy is the most ordered of all the bone houses on this list. Row upon row, column upon column of human remains rest in perfect order as if they were books in a macabre library. In all there are 2,619 deceased here with 1,274 skulls.

    The Ossuary Chapel of San Martino Della Battaglia in Italy
    San Martino

    In the Ossuary Chapel of the Cathedral of Otranto, Italy, the remains of the victims of a massacre in 1480 preside over the high altar straddled by rich gold candlesticks. The most famous victim of the Massacre was Antonio Primaldo who was the first to lose his head to the invading Turks. As soon as his body hit the ground it stood upright – headless – and even an ox could not move him. He remained standing until the last victim was murdered.

    Massacre
    Massacre

     

    http://listverse.com/2012/12/17/10-incredible-images-of-death-in-bones/

     

     

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  • Life Imitates Film, Strange Death Premonition

    Those who saw Final Destination, I am sure would have been intrigued by  the self-doubt, as to’ why I have not thought of this ‘

    As we enter a New Birth Day, we inch closer to Natural Death.

    (As an aside, Hindus, till recently were not in the habit of celebrating the Birth Day;Ayush Homa is celebrated every birth day till the Fifth year of the child;then sixtieth Birth Day,Shastiapthapoorthy ,Sathaabhisekam, 80 Birth day and in rare case the completion of the hundredth year.It is of of interest to note that according to Hindu Sastras, the Human Life Cycle for the present Aeon,Kali Yuga, is 120 years;Shastiapthapoorthy being the exact half of this Life cycle is celebrated with pomp)

    Life is the process of nearing Death every day,Biologically.

    In essence it is a struggle to avoid death,Life is.

    As essayed in Final Destination,Death catches up with you even if you try.(as though it were possible)

    The incidence reproduced below reminds one of  Final Destination.

    Read it in her WordPress blog, though she is no more.

    Ms.Ghawi
    Ms.Ghawi

    ‘Ms. Ghawi, an aspiring sports journalist known professionally as Jessica Redfield, was at a Toronto mall in June 2012 when a gunman killed a 25 year old male and injured seven others. In a blog entry – the last she would ever write – she describes how she went to the mall to get sushi but changed her mind at the last minute and got a burger and fries instead. She then made a purchase and, according to the entry, ‘felt funny… a feeling that was overwhelming enough to lead me to head outside in the rain to get fresh air instead of continuing back into the food court to go shopping at SportCheck.’ Either event may have saved her life. The gunman started shooting at 6.23pm, minutes after Ms Ghawi’s purchase was made at 6.20pm. One of the victims was found in the same place where she would have been if she’d ordered sushi.

    A month later, Jessica Ghawi was living in Denver and working as an intern for a local radio station. On July 20, 2012, she attended the ill-fated midnight screening of The Dark Knight and was killed when a gunman entered the theatre and opened fire. You can read her chillingly prophetic blog entry'( Listverse)

     

    http://jessicaredfield.wordpress.com/

     

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