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South Marrying a North Indian Girl

Technically this is the correct Vedic marriage procedure.

Thaali is a concept taken by Aapasthamba, while composing the Aapasthamba Sutra for people living south of the Vindhyas.

Please read my post on this.

So the objection on these grounds seem to be trivial.

Another difficulty faced by the Boys' parents is that they are used to demanding money from the Bride's side during the Marriage while in the North Indian marriages(at least in Punjabi and Kashmiri at least) the Boys' parents are made to shell out for the bride in the form of more jewellery and gifts to her relatives.

But once these initial hiccups are over, the parents of both he children have become very close and each tries to accommodate the other!

The level of looking after the guests is some thing seen to be believed.

And , irrespective of family misunderstandings, (which family does not have), the relatives rally around and take a personal interest, not delegating things to Agencies, even though they have arranged things through the Agencies.

And I have found the girls, though they are very well employed and hail from well to do families, to be very respectful, easy-going and at ease with the new-found relatives.

Though I am not related to these boys closely they often call me up for no specific reason but to chat and enquire about my family and they in general are good.

But this depends on how one interacts with them.

The North South Indian How they Befriend

He would not have a No from me!

He would take me to Hindu pilgrimage spots.

He had taken me Hardwar,Rishikesh,Kedarnath and Badrinath.

And I had a gentleman whom I met on the Train at night en route to Budh Gaya.

I was on my way, with my wife to Benares,Gaya and Allahabad and the Rajdhani from Delhi was expected to reach Gaya by 3.45 am.

Around Eight when the Dinner was being served a Young man of about 35, took the Dinner Trays from the Waiter' laid it out in his aisle berth and made sure me and my wife had water by our side.

As my wife was allotted an upper berth, he exchanged his berth later one, without my asking!

I spent some time chatting with him.

In the morning he woke me up at 3.30 am, helped me out with my baggage, assisted my wife in getting down from the Train

He fetched us an auto rickshaw, gave directions to the driver, asking him to drop us at the address, telling him that he should call him as soon as he dropped us and had the driver's Phone number noted.

After ten minutes or so when we were reaching the destination the driver received a call from this Youngman who checked whether we had reached safely

and chatted with me for a couple of minutes.

Remember it is 4am!

He is local Cable TV operator from Gaya and a journalist.

Next morning he sent a man who introduced himself as an Agent and booked us in a Train to Allahabad.

Wait listed at 300( I never knew WL can run into 300!) I was apprehensive.

The man was waiting at the Train Compartment before we arrived got us a Confirmed seat.

Do you that he refused to accept anything more than Rs 20 as his charge!

I get to meet a lot of my son's friends who are North Indians working in Bangalore.

The way they mix and the respect they express, I have not seen.