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  • Education, Choosing A Course.

    Selecting a Course for Higher Studies is a daunting task.

    Choosing a Course.
    Choosing a Course.

    The Course one selects for Higher Studies determines the Career.

     

    It is not practical, at this point of time,to debate and stake one’s Life, by arguing about the System of Education in India being one of producing machines that aim to produce mark oriented Curriculum a against real Education which is Character building and about the teaching of Skills to face Life.

     

    Whether one likes it or not the system and society is oriented towards Money.

     

    Before one proceeds further, this fact has to be kept in Mind.

     

    In India, in general there used to be  time when parents chose the course,I would not say ‘chose’,-but enrolled in a Course available,for their children.

     

    Our generation studied what our Father has joined us in , married whom he pointed out and we, at least. I, have no regrets,

     

    Now children are better informed and have a clear idea as to what they want to do with their Career and are focused.

     

    This post is for them and parents also may have a few points for them to ponder over.

     

    Parents must realize and accept that to days children have more information(not knowledge) and it is their future .

     

    So one should limit oneself to guiding them and not try setting their Life /Career Agenda for them.

     

    It is essential for parents to get to know the latest trends nd advise children from their stand point and at the same time point out the pitfalls .

    It is not ethical and fair trying to ram down your aspiration on your child for he is what He or She is.

    At best basic values that go to make good one a good Human Beings has to be inculcated, like Honesty,Integrity, Harming none, hard work, perseverance and nerves of steel to face Life’s problems.

    Children also must remember that parents are not enemies; they are interested in your welfare and want to ensure that you do not suffer for none can share your failures or the pain associated with it and they must learn to listen to them .

    While choosing a Course, which is 10th standard in India where specialization starts,bear in mind couple of facts.

    There are always things you want to do ,pursue and like and what is good what that secures your financial security.

    Idealism to pursue what one wants to do is fine ,but to achieve that one needs financial security.

    Unfortunately, in Life these two normally do not co-exist.

    On balance it is safe to choose something which offers you financial security and affords you the luxury of doing what you want to do.

    The same principle works for Jobs as well.

    How does one choose a Course?

    First one has to find out what he /she is best equipped for and where his/ her interests lie.

    In jargon , they are called ‘Aptitudes and Attitudes’.

     

    We shall examine them in the forth coming posts.

     

    This post is about the process of selecting Courses, both in India and abroad and the ways to go about them, including Foreign/Indian Admissions, Fees, Courses, Universities,Financial assistance, Tests to undergo and paper work

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

  • A Wife’s Management of Husband With Alzheimer

    Alzheimer’s is a deadly disease to manage.

    Alzheimer's patient.
    Alzheimer’s patient.
    alzheimer's disease patient eating
    alzheimer’s disease patient eating

    President Ronald Reagan had it.

    Ronald Reagan’s  son recounts that he used to hug his father every morning.

    One day some one asked Reagan,pointing out his son.

    He replied ,

    “Yes.

    Who is it?

    The man who hugs me!’

    Such is the severity of the disease.

    A woman is managing her husband with Alzheimer.

    Let’s look into it.

    Dedication, that’s the word for it.

    US Family Life is not what we see in Hollywood movies.

    May these family values endure.

    Alzheimer's Note
    Alzheimer’s Note

    “My dad was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s about three years ago. After an extended stay at the hospital and stints in two different rest homes, my mom brought him home to care for him herself. She did this despite warnings that it would be too much for her to handle—even with regular assistance—because the conditions in the homes were too depressing to bear. There is an unseen routine in the lives of most home caregivers that makes Michael Haneke’s Amour look like Sesame Street. I wanted to find out what the day-to-day life of someone tasked with keeping another adult alive is like, so I talked to my mom about it.

    VICE: How does your average day begin?
    BB:     Usually I wake up before LD and get dressed, and I try to get the coffee made and the cereal stuff out. But if he wakes up first, I just get him cleaned and dressed and then do the other stuff.

    What time does he get up?
    He’s gotten so he goes to bed between 8 and 9 PM and sometimes sleeps until noon. One day I was so tired and exhausted that I didn’t hear him and he got up and went into the den at seven in the morning. He ended up somehow falling, and I found him on the floor tangled up in the chair. But usually I wake up before him and get dressed real quick, because if I don’t he watches me do every single thing, and it drives me crazy.

    Why does he watch you?
    Because he doesn’t have anything else to do. He just stares. And he wants to see what food I’m making.

    I know he usually wets the bed at night, even through the disposable underwear. Do you change the sheets after you wake him up?
    I take the sheets and the pajamas and the shirt and socks and just wrap them up in that plastic liner that keeps the mattress pad dry. Sometimes if he wakes up before I do he’ll have already taken his underpants off. I get him to the bathroom and have him sit on the toilet so I can get his wet clothes off and wipe him off with Handi Wipes.

    You have him sit on the toilet to get dressed and undressed?
    Yeah, because he might go. And if he’s not bad, I can use those Handi Wipes and wipe him off and put powder on his back and in his underwear so that it will be dry. But, like, today he was soaked and had taken his own stuff off and didn’t want to get in the shower. He doesn’t like me to bother his pants, and when I mess with them, that’s when he grabs my wrists. I figured out that I can reach behind him and underneath and pull the pants down that way. He’s still grabbing, but once I get them down, he’ll sit on the toilet. It’s tricky. Once he’s got a hold of my wrist I’ll threaten him. I say, “You’re going to have this hand in your face if you don’t let go of my hand.” [laughs] He knows I’m not going to do it, but… I get really angry because I’m helping him. I try to explain to him, “I’m trying to help you, and you are hurting me.” And he’s strong. Sometimes my wrists are red afterward.

    He doesn’t realize you’re helping him.
    He wants to do things himself. He always has.

    Then when you finish with the clothes…
    Once I get him in the shower, I pour shampoo on his head. Baby shampoo, so he won’t tear up. I used to give him soap and he’d use it, but now he doesn’t, so I put on these gloves and put the soap on my hands and just reach in the shower. Of course I get soaking wet—my jeans and everything, but I soap him up and down and wash his head. He doesn’t like that at all.

    http://www.vice.com/read/the-daily-life-of-an-alzheimers-caregiver

     

     

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  • The ‘Sex Education Syllabus’

    Recently the Government of India has proposed the age of consensual Sex from 18 years to 16 Years.

    It is also talking about ‘Sex education ‘ to children.

    This has sparked off a controversy.

    The Elite(?) are for Sex Education while the other Group opposing it.

    What is Sex Education?

    Let’s see  its Definition.

    Burt defined sex education as the study of the characteristics of beings; a male and female.[1] Such characteristics make up the person’s sexuality. Sexuality is an important aspect of the life of a human being and almost all the people including children want to know about it.[citation needed] Sex education includes all the educational measures which in any way may of life[clarification needed]that have their center on sex. He further said that sex education stands for protection, presentation extension, improvement and development of the family based on accepted ethical ideas. Leepson sees sex education as instruction in various physiological, psychological and sociological aspects of sexual response and reproduction.[2] Kearney also defined sex education as “involving a comprehensive course of action by the school, calculated to bring about the socially desirable attitudes, practices and personal conduct on the part of children and adults, that will best protect the individual as a human and the family as a social institution. Thus, sex education may also be described as “sexuality education”, which means that it encompasses education about all aspects of sexuality, including information about family planning, reproduction (fertilization, conception and development of the embryo and fetus, through to childbirth), plus information about all aspects of one’s sexuality including: body image, sexual orientation, sexual pleasure, values, decision making, communication, dating, relationships, sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and how to avoid them, and birth control methods.[3] Various aspect of sex education are to right[clarification needed] in school depending on the age of the students or what the children are able to comprehend at a particular point in time. Rubin and Kindendall expressed that sex education is not merely a unit in reproduction and teaching how babies are conceived and born. It has a far richer scope and goal of helping the youngster incorporate sex most meaningfully into his present and future life, to provide him with some basic understanding on virtually every aspect of sex by the time he reaches full maturity.[4](Wiki)

    Shorn of jargon, it is about teaching what Sex is about.

    You may notice the definition needs ‘citation’ for sensuality.

    If you can not define what sexuality is, which I am sure we can not define as we can hunger and other instincts,how does one go about it?

    Sensuality and Sex appeal are the fundamentals of Sex.

    Sex education includes all the educational measures which in any way may of life[clarification needed]that have their center on sex

    Sex Education in Schools.
    Sex Education in Schools.

    * Look at the expression in the Image above!

    Same confusion in definition.

    About

     family planning,

     reproduction (fertilization, conception and development of the embryo and fetus, through to childbirth),

    plus information about

    all aspects of one’s sexuality including:

    body image,

     sexual orientation,

    sexual pleasure,

     values,

     decision-making,

     communication,

    dating,

    relationships,

    sexually transmitted infections (STIs)

    and how to avoid them,

    body image

     

     and birth control.

     

    fertilization, conception and development of the embryo and fetus, through to childbirth.

    The topics  are  taught in Biology already.

    Now Communication is taught as a Soft Skill or they talking about intercourse being taught in Communication Skill?

    So is decision making.

    Onto Sexual Pleasures and Orientation.

    How do you explain Sexual Pleasure ?

    That ‘Straight Sex’ is more pleasurable than , say gay Sex,Lesbianism, Sadism,BDSM, Fellatio and other designated Perversions?

    Wait, people might take objection to my grouping gay sex and lesbianism  with perversions for most countries have legalized it.

    How does one compare?

    By trying out each one of them?

    And how do you decide which age group can understand what?

    under the guise of Sex Education what is about to happen is the detailed Illustration of all perverse sexual activities and a suggestion that it might not be good for the individual and the Society, in the passing.

    Absolute rubbish.

    If people want to delude , by introducing Sex education  they would be barring the Sex Information available on the Internet, …well and in fact give the children all the Information under one head with official legal sanction!

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexuality_education

    Related:

    A government review has, as expected, ruled that sex education in schools will from 2011 be taught as part of the personal, social, health and economic (PSHE) curriculum. This means that children will learn about sex in the broader context of relationships, homosexuality, marriage, civil partnerships, divorce and abortion, rather than simply as the biological facts of puberty and reproduction formerly taught in science classes. This new form of sex education will also become the norm in both primary and secondary schools, and for children aged 15 and up, it will be compulsory, regardless of parental objection.

     

    http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/2009/nov/05/sex-education-schools-compulsory

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  • Organize Your Kitchen, Cooking

    In India Meals are not ‘rustled up’ or assembled in jiffy by adding some packaged foods, at least in the traditional Homes.

    An Organised Kitchen would make even the most elaborate preparation can take only the least cooking time if the kitchen  and the ingredients are well-organized.

    In Indian Homes, especially in the South, we have a five partitioned container called ‘அஞ்சறைப்பெட்டி ‘ ,meaning Five- partitioned Container.

    Anjarai Petti.

    They contain Pepper, Mustard , Fengureek ,Cumin ,pigeon-pea(துவரம் பருப்பு ).

    Depending on usage these might vary as also the number of Compartments.

    No Indian cooking can be done with out these ingredients.

    Keep this and other ingredients like Red Chilies, Bengal Gram ,Salt , Chilli powder,Asafoetida and Tamarind.

    And keep the cooking utensils handy .

    Read the Info-graphics.

    http://blog.visual.ly/14-infographics-to-help-organize-your-kitchen/?utm_campaign=website&utm_source=sendgrid.com&utm_medium=email

    Kitchen Guide.
    Arrange your Kitchen for Functionality.
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  • Safety Cleanliness Freedom Women’s Day Survey. What?

    Times of India , in collaboration with IMRB had conducted  Survey on Women on the occasion of the Women’s Day and had published the results with its comments.

    This survey is reported to have been done in Six Cities of India.

    Let’s assume the Survey is scientific ,which I doubt ,because of the sample size area and interpretation.

    1.64% of Women feel Unsafe in the City.

    2.60 % of Women step out side with company.

    When one looks at the figures, it is evident one feels safe if they go out with company

    .Only 4% are do not seem to subscribe to this view.

    (One never knows whether both the responses are from the same person).

    So if you feel safe with company why not opt for it  in the interest of your safety.

    Complaint about Public Places.

    45% say Toilets must be clean.

    This applies to men as well.

    Cleanliness is not Gender Specific unless if people are not clean.

    Struggle For Independence.

    Home Makers and Unemployed  29% want Independence.

    Under sub clause in the same finding, 42% work for Financial Independence: 12% for Money

    So it is all a question of being not committed for the family- “I would like to be independent of every one’-

    Translate into common parlance ‘I am not sure of the relationship  and I want to be independent’

    If the spouse also thinks the same way, then Marriage  and Family go out of the window.

    Who takes the decision  on Big Investments?

    39% say Husband.

    Wait till you hear this data under the heading.

    Who decides on Savings?

    Woman decide.

    40%

    Who decides on method of  Contraception?

    Women 21%

    You decide on savings, contraception and yet say Husband decides on Big Investments.

    It is like a man saying ‘I take all major decisions like obeying wife  while she does all unimportant things like finance; raising kids!

    Either the Survey is skewed, or did not ask the relevant questions ….

    Or Women being Women?

    What is Women’s Day ,r Mother’s Day, father’s Day?

    As if they no longer remain one on the other days!

    Times of India and IMRB Survey Report.

    Women's Freedom.
    Women’s Freedom.

    Bangalore is safe, but not safe enough. At least, that seems to be what the majority of women living in the city believe, based on a study commissioned by The Times of India. The study, which is based on a survey of 900 women conducted by IMRB in six cities across the country, looked at various issues faced by women, beginning with safety, services available, gender issues at home and the workplace, health and financial issues. It shows that while women feel relatively safer in Bangalore compared to other cities, in absolute terms, opinions are divided. An overwhelming 64% of the city’s women said they do not feel safe in the city after sunset, and only 17% said they felt safe “at any time of the day.”

    Some parts of the city are perceived to be less safe than others. TheMarathahalli Ring Road area, for instance, is perceived to be either “unsafe for women” or “very unsafe for women” by more than a third of those surveyed. “The stretch of Outer Ring Road between Marathahalli and Bellandur, where I live, is definitely underlit and possibly unsafe. The few times I’ve had to wait alone at Marathahalli junction for a bus or auto haven’t been pleasant,” says Ankita Sharma, who works in an HR firm in Brookefield and travels by public transport. Sharma says there are no street lights in this area and the operators of private vehicles soliciting passengers can get rude and hostile. “After the Delhi rape incident, I became especially wary of these private vehicles. I don’t know if any of them have proper licenses and whether the police keeps an eye on them,” she adds.

    Other areas where women felt “unsafe” or “very unsafe” included Kengeri Road and the stretch between BEL Road and Vidyaranyapura. Even the morning stroll, so long a part of the Bangalorean’s day, seems to have become fraught. More than half the women (53%) IMRB spoke to felt unsafe during their morning walks. An increasing number of women feel so insecure that they have begun contemplating carrying a weapon – 42% of the respondents said that they “felt the need to carry a weapon/article of self-defence”

    http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/bangalore/What-women-in-Bangalore-want-Safety-cleanliness-and-freedom/articleshow/18857074.cms?

    I can ad my comments on other statistics.

    Can some one tell me what Freedom is being referred to here?