Son is considered to prevent parents from entering a horrible type of Hell, ‘Puth’: hence son is called as ‘Puthra’ in Sanskrit.
What do the Puranas say about the duties of the son?
For every child, devotion to parents is the primary Duty.
So much so ,the Upanishad says, Mathru Devo Bhava,Pitru Devo Bhava’,Devote yourself to Mother ,Father.
This, during the parents’ lifetime.
Last and ensuing rites after death is to be performed by the son, and by the father for the son.
These Karmas are to be performed with the Sacred Thread worn on the Left shoulder(Pracheena Veedhi)
The Last rites are to be performed only by the eldest son That is the rites performed immediately after death.
But after the Thirteenth day all the Rites, including Srardha is to be performed by all the sons.
There is a view that if the elder son performs the Srardha, other sons need not perform.
If all the brothers stay in one house and perform the Srardha the eldest can do and the others can be by his side.
If they stay separately then every one has to perform separately.
Other than the sons of the wife married in the Vedic way, sons of the deceased may perform the last rites, if
The son was born to a Man who married without paying the parent’s of the girl ,
of a Concubine.
On death, all the relatives must bathe the dead body ,dress it up with only Dhoti,or Saree apply Vibhuthi,Thiruman or Kumkum and adorn with Garland.
No ornaments, even if it is Rudraksha has to be removed and the body’s head should face the South.
All the relatives must take part in this.
Daughter of the deceased must bathe the body and wash the place where the body was kept initially and keep the washed body there.
As soon as one is dead, a smoking fire is to be kept outside the House.
None should eat till the body is set afire.
After the Pretha(Body)Karmas are done with and the body burnt in the Ghat, people should enter the house after washing their feet and take bath with their clothes.
Should sleep on the floor till the twelfth day.
Till the thirteenth day food can be taken only once in the morning and Pinda, a Rice ball, is to be placed for the dead.
The Karmas are to be performed at Home.
A small hole, Kuzhis, is to be made , just outside the house,within the compound, and covered.
The Kuzhi Tharpana is to be performed by the Paternal side relatives till the tenth day.
Should take bath outside the village or town, offer Tharpana and donate Dhoti,Angavastra or Saree and Blouse bit on the First,Third, Seventh and ninth day of the death.
Asthi Sanjayan, the dissolving of ashes is to be done on the Fourth day.
(The Current practice is performing this Karma on the second day, Vishnu Purana says it should be done on the Fourth day)
After twelfth day one can sleep on he bed.
But till the thirteenth day no intimate relations with husband or wife is allowed.
During this period, all the three varnas, Brahmana,Kshatriya and Vaisya should not recite Vedas, Engage in Dhaana or Dharma nor should one accept any thing from the others..
For more on this read my posts on Srardha and Srardha Samayal
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Who should perform the last rites of a father’s younger brother who is unmarried and has no children…?
Any brother or Brother’s son.
Father is not alive….so can father’s eldest (first) son perform the rites of father’s younger brother…?
Yes.
Hi ,
My dad passed a month ago on April 27, 2019. My cousin (brother) performed his last rites but as per his last wish i did his Asthi visarjan in ganaga ji. I live outside India and want to do be present for doing his Gaya Shraad and barsi- can gaya Shraad be performed on Chaitra Karamas from mid march to mid april and then his barsi? In that case i can be present in both events in 1 trip.
My father wanted me to be part of every ceremony of his- it was his last wish and i know it connected to his mukti.
PS: If i have to do two trips i will but trying to avoid it as much as i can.
Thanks a lot for your help!
General rule is that Gaya Shraddha can be performed after the First Shraddha. Shraddha is performed on the Thithi when one expired. Hence it is to be performed when the Thithi falls on the month of demise.
.Ideal one is present during this ritual.
when father is alive can son perform mahalaya tharpan
No
https://polldaddy.com/js/rating/rating.jsMy father died on 04.12.2004 due to road accident. 13 years completed. I am only done last rites to my father myself kayal (girl). I have an elder sister, there is no son in my home. After my father’s death till now we are facing so many problems like finance/problems in relatives/ jobs etc., I searched groom for my sister for her marriage but still we don’t get any good match,.(she’s age 34 years now) Mother have health issues. We have done so many parihara for my sister. I really don’t know why so much of issues in my family. Pls tel me any solutions/parihara for this.
https://ramanan50.wordpress.com/2014/09/10/nine-temples-for-pitru-dosha-parihara/
https://ramanan50.wordpress.com/2014/09/04/33224/
Please read the articles and perform what suits you.
While visiting pitru parihara sthalangkallil, you may feed the poor, depending on your budget.
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https://ramanan50.wordpress.com/2014/09/04/33224/
https://ramanan50.wordpress.com/2014/09/10/nine-temples-for-pitru-dosha-parihara/
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