Contrary to what is believed, it is Women who chase Men, as A Study, based on nearly two-billion cellphone calls and close to 500-million Texts, reveals.
Stands true to Biology.
While the Male‘s job is to donate(?) Sperm and to ensure the well-being of the Offspring, it is th Female who carries the sperm in the womb and ensures the growth and spread of the Species.
Even this ‘ensuring the well-being of the Offspring’ seems to be limited to Mankind, for in the Animal Kingdom it is the Female who does this job, look a the Lions,Elephants,Chimps.
Another interesting fact is that in the Animal Kingdom it is the Male which spruces itself and appeals to female while in Man, the Female goes to Beauty Parlour.
Time more Men went to Beauty Parlours?
Sanskrit Wisdom says that a Man sees in his Daughters his Mother while a Boy sees a Hero in his Father.
Young woman using a mobile phone. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
After examining nearly two-billion cellphone calls and close to 500-million texts, researchers said they determined that women are more focused on relationships with the opposite sex than men are during their reproductive years, indicating that women are more invested in creating romantic ties.
As women age, however, their grown-up daughters become the people they most frequently contact, replacing their spouses as their “best friends.”
“What seems to happen is that women push the ‘old man’ out to become their second best friend, and he gets called much less often and all her attention is focused on her daughters just at the point at which you are likely to see grandchildren arriving,” Prof. Dunbar said.
BBC reports that men’s phone contact with their spouses also declined over time. Men called and texted their spouse most frequently during the first seven years of their relationship, then shifted their attention to other friends. (Of course, one could arguably interpret this another way: If you’re spending a lot of time with your spouse, you’re probably not contacting them via mobile phone.)
The researchers, who had access to the age and sex of the mobile phone users, said they based their findings on the assumption that mobile-phone communication reflects the most important relationships in people’s lives and the level of closeness of those relationships.
I read an interesting blog on marriage and I am reproducing a portion of it, the Link with my comment.
My comment.
Just married going around the Fire
Truly said. Matrimony is not about sex alone, though it forms an integral part. More than physical proximity it is that ‘I have some one to lean on,and another leans on me’ is an emotional requirement of an individual.
Marriage is also a spiritual bond. Hinduism states that marriage is so holy that because of the entire world is sustained, It is the responsible married man who forms the nucleus of a Society, by taking care of others;as a corollary others take care of you. No Religious ceremony will bear fruit if not performed along with the wife. For a Man,none of the Religious duties will bear fruit.. It is a Union that supports one another in their fulfilment of earthly desires and the takes care of the World beyond.. In the performance of marriage,in Hindu custom,just married pair walk around the sacred Fire together, with these 7 vows. ‘During this ritual, the groom walks with the bride to the right side of the sacred fire. All along, he holds his wife’s right hand in his right hand in the way in which he held her hand during the paani grahanam ceremony. He stops, bends down and holds the right toe of his wife with his right hand and helps her take seven steps around the fire. At the beginning of each step, he recites a Veda mantra to invoke the blessings of Maha Vishnu. Through these seven mantras, he asks Maha Vishnu to follow in the footsteps of his wife and bless her with food, strength, piety, progeny, wealth, comfort and health. At the conclusion of the seven steps, he addresses his wife with a moving statement from the Veds summarized below: Dear Wife! By taking these seven steps, you have become my dearest friend. I pledge my unfailing loyalty to you. Let us stay together for the rest of our lives. Let us not separate from each other ever. Let us be of one mind in carrying out our responsibilities as householders (grihasthas). Let us love and cherish each other and enjoy nourishing food and good health. Let us discharge our prescribed Vedic duties to our elders, ancestors, rishis, creatures, and gods. Let our aspirations be united. I will be the Saaman and may you be the Rk (Saaman here refers to the music and Rk refers to the Vedic text that is being cast into music). Let me be the upper world and let you be the Bhumi or Mother Earth. I will be the Sukla or life force and may you be the bearer of that Sukla. Let me be the mind and let you be the speech. May you follow me to conceive children and gain worldly as well as spiritual wealth. May all auspiciousness come your way. This series of Veda mantras starting with “sakhaa saptapadhaa bhava …” and ending with “pumse putraaya …” are rich with meaning and imagery.’
A man/woman’s Life is incomplete without Matrimony. Sad that such a sacred institution has come to the stage of being called a ‘Contract‘ as if it is a business deal.
The Blog.
It is interesting to look at marriage, both in the contemporary and historical frame. The act of marriage today in many countries is a legal arrangement, or a contract binding two by law. This, to me, dilutes the sacred nature of the promise; the vows exchanged and the love that two people share. We should travel the sphere of sacred union to learn what lives within the heart.
Throughout history and within many different cultures, marriage has changed. We can see many peculiarities and attributes of what constitutes marriage when we study these customs. A binding of two is a sacred thing, marked by ceremony, rings, paintings, clothing and many other symbols of unity…..
As we travel within the sphere of sacred union, we must realize that a marriage at its purest form is a promise; a sacred vow of love. It seems that so many have forgotten this in the world. Divorce is becoming more a common occurrence than the entry into matrimony. By making marriage a legal document; a common contract of law, we have made the sacred vow mute.
I’ve been married. It did not last. I’ve known many friends who married, and soon after divorced. I also know many who have been together for more than a decade, without being married. They choose to stay beyond the contract, and only live with love for each other. Though yes, they do have struggles, but this is part of life. Many are capable of keeping the sacred promise to each other, but of course, many others cannot.
Genuineness of a will cannot be disputed merely because the testator declined share in the family property to “ungrateful children”, and had bequeathed it solely to one of the sons who looked after the aged parents till their death, the Supreme Court has ruled.
A bench of justices G S Singhvi and S J Mukhopadhaya set aside a judgement of the Madhya Pradesh High Court which disbelieved the veracity of a will executed by Harishankar to one of his son Mahesh Kumar to the exclusion of two other sons – Vinod Kumar and Anand Kumar.
“Therefore, there was nothing unnatural or unusual in the decision of Shri Harishankar to give his share in the joint family property to the appellant. Any person of ordinary prudence would have adopted the same course and would not have given anything to the ungrateful children from his/her share in the property,” Justice Singhvi writing the judgement said.
The bench said that in the present case the evidence clearly proved that Harishankar had willed the property to Mahesh Kumar instead of the other two sons as the former along with his wife and kids had taken care of the aged parents till their death.
Hence it felt that the high court had wrongly assumed that the Will was shrouded in suspicion owing to the exclusion of property to the other children by Harishankar which was executed on February 10, 1992.
“The evidence produced by the parties unmistakably show that respondent No 2 had separated from the family in 1965 after taking his share and respondent No 1 also got his share in the 2nd partition which took place in 1985. Neither of them bothered to look after the parents in their old age.
“The attitude of respondent Nos 1 and 2 left Shri Harishankar and his wife with no choice but to live with the appellant, who along with his wife and children took care of the old parents and looked after them during their illness,” the apex court said.
I had been to Rameswaram, a Pilgrim centre, which is considered holy for the Hindus.
While travelling back to Chennai, I got to talking to a gentleman in the Train.
He said he was looking for an alliance for his son.
In Hindu custom, the parents look for girls or boys to get their children married.
They look for the family back ground,Gothra(genealogy, a unique concept which traces out your ancestors and excludes blood relatives who might be brothers/sisters however far removed-this is verified scientifically)
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The word “gotra” means “lineage” in the Sanskrit language. Among those of the Brahmincaste, gotras are reckoned patrilineally. Each gotra takes the name of a famous Rishi or sage who was the patrilineal forebearer of that clan. And each Gotra is addressed by the suffix ‘sa’ or ‘asa’ as relevant.
The concept of Gotra was the sociodemographic-cultural coding by Brahma to classify His family, themselves among different groups. At the beginning, these gentes identified themselves by the names of various rishis (Angirasa, Daksha, Himavan, Atri, Gautam, Vishrava, Kashyapa, Bhrigu, Vasishtha, Kutsa,and Bharadwaja; the first seven of these are often enumerated as Saptarishis). It is to be noted that Vishwamitra was initially a Kshatriya king, who later chose and rose to become an ascetic rishi. Hence the gotra was applied to the grouping stemming from one of these rishis as his descendants.
Humans have 23 pairs of Chromosomes and in each pair one Chromosome comes from the father and the other comes from the mother. So in all we have 46 Chromosomes in every cell, of which 23 come from the mother and 23 from the father.
Of these 23 pairs, there is one pair called the Sex Chromosomes which decide the gender of the person. During conception, if the resultant cell has XX sex chromosomes then the child will be a girl and if it is XY then the child will be a boy. X chromosome decides the female attributes of a person and Y Chromosome decides the male attributes of a person.
When the initial embryonic cell has XY chromosome, the female attributes get suppressed by the genes in the Y Chromosome and the embryo develops into a male child. Since only men have Y Chromosomes, son always gets his Y Chromosome from his father and the X Chromosome from his mother. On the other hand daughters always get their X Chromosomes, one each from both father and mother.
So the Y Chromosome is always preserved throughout a male lineage (Father – Son – Grandson etc) because a Son always gets it from his father, while the X Chromosome is not preserved in the female lineage (Mother, Daughter, Grand Daughter etc) because it comes from both father and mother.
A mother will pass either her mother’s X Chromosome to her Children or her father’s X Chromosome to her children or a combination of both because of both her X Chromosomes getting mixed (called as Crossover). On the other hand, a Son always gets his father’s Y Chromosome and that too almost intact without any changes because there is no corresponding another Y chromosome in his cells to do any mixing as his combination is XY, while that of females is XX which hence allows for mixing as both are X Chromosomes.”
In addition to this, parents look into Horoscopes and decide how the marriage is to be conducted.
Of course the Boy/girl will have a say in this.
However this old system is fast disappearing.
Gone are the days when parents circulate their children’s horoscopes through their friends/Relatives and through their family astrologer.
Now people advertise in Marriage portals.
The gentleman was expressing his difficulties in getting a Girl for his son as the Girls seem to be making impossible terms in their expectations.
I can vouch for this.
I have spent nearly four years in getting my son married.
He is B.Com, MBA,Soft ware Specialist in a Senior position and we have no commitments to be fulfilled at home as my only daughter is married and there are no other children for me.
I found,in the marriage portal, under’ expectations’ Girls/Girls’ parents listed the following.
Should be an Engineer, preferably in Communications/Electronics
Should be an IT Professional
Must draw a salary of not less than 7.2lakhs/a.
Preferable that there are no brothers and sisters
Placed in Metros
Should be in a transferable job
Willing to relocate to the Girl’s home town/where she works.
( The sting, I shall come later at the end of the blog.)
I wonder how people who are not IT specialists and those who are not in the specified Income Group ever get married!-leave alone the other terms!
Of course I got my son married to a suitable girl whose family did not have funny hang ups like these.
The details of Girls to be married , who were less than 26 years of age were uploaded by parents while for those above 26 years of age were uploaded by the Girl herself or brother \sister.
In the process of selecting the girl.I have come across various instances where the parents were unwilling to get the girl married quoting irrelevant reasons( in one case a parent told me that he had deferred his daughter ‘s marriage temporarily, and I asked him if this decision permanent!)
The reason is that the parents have accustomed themselves to the girl earning and the parents have become used to living off her and were unwilling to get her married.
This may sound cynical ,but unfortunately this is a fact.
The parents thus dispose of enquiries for marriage informing their daughter that the alliance is not good.
One day the girl finds that she is over 26 and she is not getting married and uploads her details and enters into the fray.
How sad!
(In the selection process I have short listed 3300 horoscopes, no error here, to find a suitable match, normally I select one in 10 based on compatibility including Horoscope).
The gentleman brought home a curious instance where the girl/parents of the girl asked him whether the Boy had Old Furniture at Home.
The man was perplexed.
He replied them that they have new furniture at Home.
One prefers the good clean things in Life while secretly desiring the other. one pretends to like what society approves of.
In general Men like women bad girls,to put it bluntly, a woman who is good in bed(as women desire in men).
But the question is -do they prefer them as wife or husband?
No.
One may not like it, but it is a fact.
Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt at the Deauville American Film Festival in Deauville, France, September 2007 (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
For the happy Life of man a woman is dreamed of a
‘ mother in care,friend in times of distress,advisor like a Minister and a slut in bed”
“Men no longer want a submissive wife who has no opinion of her own and nods her approval for anything and everything her husband says. They want someone who’s fun to be around with and is confident of herself. Your man would love it if you initiate sex and not always wait for him to make the first move.
Celebrities like Angelina Jolie, Kareena Kapoor, Megan Fox are desired for their good-girl-gone-bad image. These girls are wild and know how to make a guy fall for them. This is what makes them so desirable. The drop dead gorgeous looks help too! Angelina Jolie who’s currently in a relationship with Brad Pitt has had numerous affairs in the past which were certainly high on the wildness factor. Her tattoos have added that extra bit of edge to her looks. Even the roles she plays on screen are edgy and dark. Kareena’s public display of affection for ex-beau Shahid Kapoor and the very public hot kiss they shared became national news. She refused to be one of those actresses who deny their relationships and refer to their boyfriends as “good friends”.
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