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  • Elder Abuse Mistreatment Statistics Story

    Elder Abuse is something which is under reported around the World in general and in India in particular.

    ‘Ageing in the Twenty First Century:A Celebration and A challenge’ a Study by The UN reports.

     

    Elder Abuse Statistics
    Elder Abuse Statistics

     

    ”                                                                                 9 out of Ten in the world are over 60

     

    43% of the people surveyed reported that they fear a personal violence,

     

    67% Face Age Discrimination”

     

    What are the Abuses?

    Verbal Abuse.

    Being subjected to indifference.

    Loss of Respect.

    Made to work.

    Deprivation of possessions.

    Discrimination in serving Food.

    These are apart from physical violence.

    The last one , sadly, is inflicted by sons!

    The same elders who taught you to speak  become people ‘ who do not now what to Talk’

    The ones who taught you to behave ‘do not know how to behave’

    The same parents who forced you to read/study are now ‘people who ‘know nothing’

    The Elderly have two choices.

    Stay with their children.

    Stay separately.

    In the former, they are subjected to all the harassment listed above.

    In the later case, they are dubbed as being selfish and not caring enough to take of the Family especially the Grand children!

    In the family, Elders do not know how to take care of the Grand children-the same idiots who brought you up.

    If one offers advice one is advised none too politely ‘to shut up’

    If remained aloof termed as ‘being irresponsible!’

    If this is the case in India, Japan , the  Country which has a Culture of respecting the Elders has decayed to such an extent that a

    Minister  publicly says ‘Hurry and die quickly!’

    India, the cradle of Family solidity and Values has come down very badly in its treatment of elders.

    Home was not a house where people make money, sleep and procreate.

    It was a place of harmony,human bonding,emotional cushioning..

    Elders have limited option in India.

    With all the abuses suffered, they choose to remain in children s’ Homes  for, they love their children,Grand children aand they do not want the ignominy of the famiy lbeing seen as the one which has lost its values.

    What can one say to children?

    The Seed will also beget seeds to beget Trees.

    Some facts from two studies.

     

    “Indian sons, and their wives, aren’t treating their aged parents well. A study on abuse of India’s elderly, conducted across 20 cities and involving over 5,500 older people, has found that almost 1 in 3 (32%) have faced abuse. The son has been found to be the primary abuser in 56% of cases, followed by the daughter-in-law in 23% cases.

     

    more than 50% of those abused had faced it for more than five years. More than half (55%) of those who were abused did not report it to anyone. Around 80% of them did not report the matter to uphold family honour.

    Delhi actually witnessed an exponential increase in abuse of the elderly. In 2011, Delhi’s abuse of the elderly rate stood at 12%. In comparison, 29.82% elderly people in Delhi said they faced abuse in 2012.

    The study, conducted by Help Age India, found that abuse was highest in Madhya Pradesh (77.12%) while people in Rajasthan (1.67%) were most well behaved with the elderly in their family. Nearly 30% or 1 in 3 elderly persons reported abuse in Maharashtra while the abuse rate was just above 1 in 4 (27.56%) in Tamil Nadu. It was 60% in Assam, 52% in UP, 43% in Gujarat, 42.86% in Andhra Pradesh and 40.93% in West Bengal.

    The study also brought out some shameful figures for Delhi. While nearly 30% of Delhi’s senior citizens had faced abuse, the primary perpetrator of abuse was the son in 60% cases, followed by the daughter-in-law in 24% cases. In Delhi, 76% of those abused did not report it, while of those who felt abused, 69% had felt disrespected with 35% facing it daily.

    Around 86% of elderly felt that the most effective measure to control elder abuse was through sensitizing children and strengthening inter-generation bonding and 14% felt increased economic Independence was the solution.

    The study said that in India, the family has been the mainstay of social support. “Even in this age and time, 58% of older persons in India are living with the family. The findings of this report also affirm confidence in the ability of the family to care for its older members,” the report said.

    http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2012-09-29/india/34163184_1_elder-abuse-abuse-rate-older-persons

     

     

    Discussions with male groups indicated that the middle income group listed
    “economic” problems on priority. The second male group from the upper
    middle class prioritised “mental health problems” focusing more on lack of
    work, lack of facilities for utilisation of leisure time and a general feeling of
    loneliness “talking to walls”. The problem here did not seem to be lack of
    money but lack of time by the “others” for the older persons
    Second to economic problem came ”lack of emotional support” from family
    members and both the groups felt that they felt a need to talk to their family
    who did not seem to have time for them The Words were many – ranging from
    “neglect” from family, “experience of loneliness in everything”, “a sense of
    insecurity” and feeling of “burden”, and “Old Age itself was a disease”
    A glaring problem faced by the males group was older couple being asked to
    live separately when they had more than one child i.e. the older woman to
    stay with one child and the man to stay with another – according to the
    convenience of their support in whatever housework /outside work they could
    contribute to
    Health problems however took a back seat coming in at the third position and
    linked with lack of mobility and economic problems
    Lack of accommodation was also a “problem” identified by the older persons
    who had houses of their own and were not staying in apartments, where there
    is only a specified area.

    http://www.who.int/ageing/projects/elder_abuse/alc_ea_ind.pdf

  • First “Indian Playboy Nude” Not “Painted and Dented’

    When Jytoi Singh Pandey died in a gang rape case in Delhi, people rose in anger against this atrocity, correctly so.

     

    In the frenzy the clamor descended into the Rights of Woman  to dress as they please.

     

    Many of the women who participated in the protests were over made up for a spontaneous reaction (with grief!) and wer bent on getting Media attention to the extent that a Girl had artificial Blood poured on her hands ,a woman bared her behind with a writing ‘Don’t rape Me”

     

    Read my blog.

    Indian Bollywood film actress Sherlyn Chopra Photo: AFP
    Indian Bollywood film actress Sherlyn Chopra Photo: AFP

     

    This made an MP and the son of the President to decry that these women are ‘dented and painted’ causing an out cry in the media and he was pilloried.

     

    Now in a land women activists protest vociferously against the us of women as Sex in advertisement films, are quiet for the opening of a Playboy Club in Goa and a Girl posing Nude in Playboy for the first time.

     

    Look at what Girl has to say on this.

     

    ‘My sister is proud of my achievement. I haven’t told anything to my mother, but I think I will visit her and tell her that she has to accept me the way I am.” Critics have complained that the magazine has billed her as a Bollywood legend, despite only appearing in a handful of films and being best known for Bigg Boss, India‘s answer to Big Brother”

     

    This is not ‘Painted and dented”?

     

    “Sherlyn Chopra, 28, will appear in the November issue.

    However, a series of teasing interviews has provoked a round of condemnation from women’s rights activists who accuse her of undermining the fight against sexual harassment and abuse.

    Miss Chopra herself has admitted that she has not yet told her mother about the Playboy shoot.

    “It is not an easy task to be nude in front of the camera and look good at the same time,” said Miss Chopra in an interview with the BBC’s Hindi service.

    She added that she had written to Playboy asking to model and received a response within days.

    http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/asia/india/9426510/Bollywood-star-becomes-first-Indian-to-pose-nude-for-Playboy.html

     

     

  • Playboy Club in Goa .Indian Hypocrisy At Its Best

    One should have seen the comments,suggestions and outrage when a Girl was gang raped and later died recently in Delhi.

     

    Now Playboy is st to open its Club on Goa!

     

    Excellent double speak , a society which is neither modern nor value conscious!

     

    Where are the Feminists, who decry using women as an object of Sex?

     

    What else is this?

     

    Playboy Club.
    Playboy Club.

     

    ”

    PB Lifestyle, the Indian firm with rights to the Playboy brand, will launch the club in the holiday state of Goa in December – the first of 120 clubs, hotels, fashion cafés and shops planned over the next ten years.

    Sanjay Gupta, chief executive of PB Lifestyle, said the famous bunny costume of a skimpy corset with a fluffy rabbit tail and ears would be adapted to suit India‘s conservative values, and he stressed no nudity would be involved.

    “Bunnies are an integral part of Playboy clubs,” he told AFP. “For the obvious reasons of Indian morality and sensibilities, we can’t follow the traditional costumes that Playboy bunnies are associated with.”

    Playboy, along with a host of other foreign “adult” magazines, is not permitted in India owing to obscenity laws banning material deemed “lascivious or appealing to prurient interests”.

    http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/asia/india/9648443/Indias-first-Playboy-club-set-to-open-in-Goa.html

  • Rapes Drinking Media

    I had posted recently  two articles on the Reasons for Rape.

    A rape Poster.
    A rape Poster.

    One post dealt with the publicity seekers and the media coverage which seemed to have only the TRP in its mind.

    And the issue of punishing the accused in th recent Delhi Gang Rape descended  into a free for all for men Bashing and demand for more Freedom for women  to dress and  move about.

    In the din some issues  have been left out.

    One such dangerous influence is Drinking,.

    Rape Statistics US.
    Figure 1. Of the 12.1 million American women who have been raped, nearly 30% were assaulted when they were younger than 11 years old. Another 32% were raped between the ages of 11 and 17; 22% were raped between the ages of 18 and 24; 10% were between the ages of 25 and 28. 6% of rapes occurred in women over the age of 29.

    ”

    Alcohol use by the victim or the perpetrator is frequently associated with acquaintance rape.

    • In one, study 26% of men who acknowledged committing sexual assault admitted that they were intoxicated at the time of the assault, and an additional 29% reported being mildly buzzed—55% were under the influence of alcohol.
    • In the same study 21% of the college women who experienced sexual aggression on a date were intoxicated at the time of the assault, and an additional 32% reported being mildly buzzed—53% were under the influence of alcohol.
    • More than once a minute, 78 times an hour, 1,871 times a day, girls and women in America are raped.

    Sexual assault has nothing to do with passion; it uses power and control to dominate and humiliate victims.

    • 50% of rapists are between the ages of 15 and 24 years old (see Figure 1).
    • Studies consistently conclude that 75% of all assaults are planned.  When three or more assailants are involved, the number climbs to 90%.
    • 78% of rape victims know their attackers.

    The average annual rate of rape and sexual assault among American Indians is 3.5 times higher than for all races.

    • American Indian victims of violence are the most likely of all races of victims to indicate that the offender committed the offense while drinking.
    Race of victim Percent of victims of violence reporting offender drinking (average annual percentage 1992-1996)
    American Indian 46%
    Black 28%
    White 36%
    Asian 22%

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    • Victims of rape and sexual assault often don’t report the crime to the police and often do not report it to anyone.
    • According to Bureau of Justice Statistics, over 70 % of sexual assaults are not reported. For Native women reporting can be really difficult because of the high level of mistrust for white agencies and helpers.  Other reasons Native women do not report sexual assault is the fear of being ostracized by their families, as well as the complicated jurisdictional issues on reservations.
    • The National Violence Against women survey indicated a 15.9 percent victimization rate of American Indian/Alaska Natives by an intimate partner—significantly higher than for women of other races.
    • Of the 854 American Indians convicted in federal court in fiscal year 1997, 20 % were convicted for rape.”

    Now if we look at the coverage of Media on the recent gang rape , how many of them focused on the issue of punishing th guilty?

    They concentrated more who said what on the ‘Rape’

    The jokers who came on the Television channels were interested in cheap publicity and said things more for shock value so that they may be noticed.

    Even those who had the interests of women were crude to the point of calling women names, instead of asking them to be careful.

    This type of coverage is not new.

    Media, including print Media sensationalizes any thing that is perverted.

    Look at the coverage they extend to father/uncles raping a child, women/murdering their husbands with the help of their paramour,

    revealing /nude photographs under the garb of social reporting and Fashion.

    Look at our own Times of India, whose TimesNow cried Foul the most in the recent gang Rape, publishing a Page In Your City showing faceless people showing off cleavage, writing about drinking parties.!

    Now to Investigative reporting.

    In the name of revealing the inner world of Tees the SUn publishes the Diary of Two Teens.

    ”

    Found out that on Friday Hetty got three love bites, two from Luke and one from Jake.

    May 17, 1993: Went to athletics. Tom is such a b*****d. He took my trainers so I took one of his and Katy took the other.

    Then Jake threw one over the fence!

    He took my hair ruffle and went to get his trainers so me and Katy followed him into the boys’ changing rooms and he attacked me with his Lynx (deodorant)…

    It went all in my hair so Katy tipped his pencil case out and we kicked it around and then I got my ruffle back.

    July 1, 1993: Teacher found out about Katy going to an all-night party.

    She thinks she is sleeping with a boy in the year above us and she has to tell her mum. I hope she is OK.

    July 2, 1993: Katy told her mum and she didn’t mind.

    I was surprised but I wish my mum was like that.”

     http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/woman/4744201/my-mad-fat-diary-readers-entries.html#ixzz2I6YpojO6

     

    http://www.montana.edu/wwwai/imsd/alcohol/Vanessa/vwrapefactsheet.htm

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  • Gang Rape Comments Protests Missing The Point

    There is a spate comments on the  new Delhi igang rape, which cost the life of a girl, Jyoti SIngh Pandey.

     

    Protests were organised to punish the guilty immediately without dragging for years.

     

    So far very good.

     

    Then some body like President  Pronab Mukherjee’s son,Mohn Bhagat of RSS , Asaram.. and  a host of others

     

    The protagonists   for immediate Justice clamour later reached the heights of calling every man as rapist waiting to rape any one in sight deteriorated   into question of feminine Freedom to dress and move about any time of the day..

     

     

    Delhi gang rape protest
    Delhi gang rape protest

    Comments.

     

    “It would have been comforting if vile foolishness in India had been the domain of the few. But Asaram Bapu is not alone when he says one hand cannot clap by itself. Or that taking diksha, reciting a mantra and pleading with her rapists as brothers might have saved the young girl that fateful night.

    The clergy of the Jamaat-e-Islami-Hind are not alone when they advocate co-educational institutes to be shut down, pre-marital sex to be outlawed and girls to dress in sober and dignified clothes as ways to prevent rape.

    Mohan Bhagwat is not alone when he asserts more rapes happen in ‘India’ than ‘Bharat’ — the first a synecdoche for promiscuous modernity; the latter for a more pious and traditional order where women live within boundaries prescribed by men. Abhijit Mukherjee is not alone when he mocks women protesters as “dented, painted” girls. Nor are Abu Azmi, Kailash Vijayvargiya or the Chhattisgarh home minister who says minors in the state are being raped because their stars are not favourable….

     

    The media reacted violently to these comments.

     

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    Over the past few days, the national media has rebuffed these men with an acetylene rage. Apologise, they have shouted. Retract your thoughts. Or at least be shamed into withdrawing the impunity with which you say such things in public.

    But this rage has triggered its own counter-currents. Madhu Kishwar, feminist and editor of Manushi, for instance, is scathing about the media’s tone. “What kind of imperialist vocabulary is this? If you treat everyone who does not agree with you as aliens and fools, if you refuse to accept them as your own people, what gives you the right to dictate to them? What makes you think they will even entertain your criticism?” she asks.”

    ..Ad guru Santosh Desai chimes in to warn of a backlash: “Media in India is more loud than representative,” he says. “If the framing of this debate gets too vociferous and extreme, it can galvanise the opposition in disturbing ways. Our society has always had a way of evolving organically, using a combination of strategies to create space for new ideas. As long as that change is gradual, the anxiety it produces is also gradual. If one gets too absolutist, the whole thing can boomerang.”..

     

    Chetan Bhagat offers a variation on the theme in his Times of India column, where he first divides the populace into four classes: One, the political elite; Two, the business elite; Threes, the rising lower and middle classes “with a certain amount of affluence and education”; and Four, “people with limited education, abysmal standards of living and little hope for a better future.” The Threes may be the heroes of Bhagat’s stories — and their hero in turn — but here he takes them to task for “imposing their new-found modern values” on the less-progressive masses “For example, Fours may see women-men relationships in a regressive way. The Threes, exposed to the latest Western beliefs, will mock them.” The column offers instead a more peace-loving recipe for change:”

     

    What exactly are the issues?

    A Girl was raped in the Capital of India.

     

    Accused have been charge sheeted.

     

    The case is being heard.

     

    People have expressed their anger against this despicable act.

     

    Now what we need to do is…….

     

    To make sure that rape law is made more stringent and be made Non bailable(at the same time it is to be ensured that it is not misused as in Anti Dowry laws).

     

    The perpetrators should not be executed  but to live with the mark of a rapist after serving Life term.

     

    They should be ostracized by the Society.

     

    Women should ensure that they are safe by wearing non provocative dress in public and be careful about moving in their own interest.

     

    This is not an issue of Male vs Female, it is a question of Life.

     

    You can not control other human beings at all times, human nature is unpredictable.

     

    You meet with accidents on the roads.

     

    You have Zebra Crossing.

     

    Use it.

     

    Nothing demeaning about it

     

    Media must remember it is more than TRP at stake.

     

    You have a moral responsibility as well.

     

    http://tehelka.com/cover-story-rape-and-how-men-see-it/?singlepage=1

     

     

    http://www.firstpost.com/living/sorry-chetan-bhagat-outrage-over-rape-isnt-elitist-587525.html?utm_source=mail&utm_medium=newsletter