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Want Money? Host A Dinner

Some customs are meant to help people in distress.

Men living in Tribal Societies formulated some customs to help the needy.

As the society develops, it seems, man has become more greedy and starts misusing these noble concepts.

One such Custom being practiced in the Districts of Coimbatore, Erode, borders of Pudukkottai and Thanjavur,Tamil Nadu is 'Moy Virundhu'

That is organizing a Free Dinner for the villagers by those who are in need of money.

The reason could be for celebrating the marriage of a Girl in the Family, Debts or simply the need for additional finance for Business.

The Rules are:

One should be really in need of Money.

They should organize a Feast for the villagers this could be for 100 to 500 people.

Prospective attendees are to be invited personally.

One can put up a poster, Bill Boards even.

The Dinner should consist of minimum six dishes and must include Non Vegetarian, especially Lamb,Chicken.

At the Dinner those who attend the Dinner must donate money they can afford and this will be recorded by the host.

There are instances when 40 to 60 tables are put up to collect money.

Wedding Other Function Invites Hindu Style.

Marriage is one of the most revered and important Customs in India, especially among the Hindus.

The procedures are elaborate, needs careful planning.

A typical Hindu Brahmin Marriage consists of, aside from seeing the bride to be, Betrothal, it has

Sumangali Prarthanai (read my post on this) when the departed Women who died leaving their Husbands behind are worshiped.

This is followed by Samaradhanai (Dahdhiyaaradhanai), th offering of Puja to the Family Deity.

Only after these are completed, Marriage ceremonies take place.

One of the important duties is the Inviting people for the Marriage.

Till about some years back, some twenty years back,two different types of Invitations are printed.

The traditional invitation is meant for close relatives,the other one with Modern type which will be distributed to others,either by the parents or by the Bride or Bridegroom.

It was the practice to post the invitations to people who are staying elsewhere.

This has to be followed by a personal letter(hand written) inviting people individually, to attend the Function.

It was also the practice to reimburse their travel expenses incurred for attending the Function.

For those who are located in the same city, the Invitation is not be posted.

It has to be delivered by hand by the Parents in person with Kumkum, Akshata, Fruits and wherever required new clothes are to be handed over to them.

This process is backed up by a Telephonic reminder a week before the marriage.

To some, this entire process might seem funny.

But there is Families which do not remain on speaking terms for years together on a single misstep in this procedure..

Now how does one decide whom to call one while sending Invitations?