Eldest son is employed in a Private Firm in Chennai.
He draws about Rs 9000 per Month.
He has a child.
My second son , also in Chennai, is doing some small business in Ambattur, Chenaai.
My Daughter is married and is living well in with her Husband in Villiwakkam ,Chennai and has two children.
I worked in a government Organisation, receive a pension of about Rs.9000 per month.
Me and my wife have been living separately in a small portion in the same compound where my eldest son stays.
My wife, being 82, can not cook.
I have come here to end my days and hope I shall, soon.
My second son and daughter are yet to come and see us”
Parents quote
“I am 82.
I lost my husband 25 years back.
I have five sons and three Grand children, one Grandson is working in Computers(means Software)
I was staying in a small room in the out house of my eldest son, taking care of myself.
One day, about a week back, my eldest son brought me here in a Car and told me to stay here as these people will take care of me.
He has not called back since, other children have not called up either.
I will never go back, though I miss my grand children.
Leave it, I have lost my Will…
விடு, சாமி, மனசுவிட்டுப்போச்சு
These are the statements from the elderly who are now housed in a Home for the Aged near Chennai.
I saw the programme by accident in Podhigai (tamil) TV channel.
I am reminded of..
When Sankaracharya wanted to become a Sanyasi, his mother refused to let him go.
After a lot of persuasion, she let him go only after Shankaracharya promised that he would return to her in her death-bed and perform her last Rites, which he did.
Another Saint Pattinathaar when asked to light the funeral pyre of his mother, was heart-broken ,instead of firewood, laid Plantain leaves and recited the following poem for he did not want to set fire to his mother!
“ஐயிரண்டு திங்களாய் அங்கமெலாம் நொந்து பெற்றுப்
பையலென்ற போதே பரிந்தெடுத்துச் செய்ய
இருகைப்புறத்தில் ஏந்திக் கனகமுலை தந்தாளை
எப்பிறப்பில் காண்பேன் இனி”
When would I see again my mother, who has suffered for ten months when I was in her womb; who rushed me to offer her breast before I could cry for Milk?’
Lauren Sanders makes some observations on the ‘Only Child’
‘Only Child’
I am sharing my views on this subject and her observation are provided after that.
I was the last child for my Parents.My sister and brothers were old enough to be my Parents , they were married before I was born and were living in other cities from our Home.
1. I was brought up, for all practical purposes, as ‘only Child” ,It is not necessary for parents to have another child to make a child ‘only child’,it is the way he is brought up.
I am amazed at the fuss my Daughter and daughter in law make and the efforts they put up in bringing up children,
My son and son-in-law are not far behind.
My parents did not spend ‘quality time, as fancy terms indicate, with me.
I used to take food as it was given to me without any attempt to feed me(after I was Three),went to school on my own without parent’s accompanying and generally did what a child is expected of, playing on the street till called Home(from 630 am to 8,430 pm to six pm).
I never felt alone and was always busy.
Never have i felt that I was being brought up differently.
I am given to understand that I mix with people freely and easy to get along with.
But as Myth would have it I should have been an introvert, reserved and difficult to get along with; I am not.
This nails the myth that ‘only child’ is lonely, difficult to get on along with and is prone for maladjustment later in Life.
2.I have not been pampered.
I f I want something I used to ask my mother, which will be conveyed to my father,by her.
If he can not afford it, he would call me and say that he could not afford it.
My tantrums would be of no avail.
This has not made me adamant and cantankerous in my later Life.
3.Being the ‘only child’ has not made me any more selfish than any other child.
I am selfish as any other child and my daughter tells me I am selfish especially in Food, when I fight for Ice cream and chocolates with my Grandson, 4!
4.I had no idea what ‘shared strength’ is all about. till I heard the term recently.
The fact that Parents have more children does not make them to share less with children no dor parents Love one child the less.
This feeling is an illusion , for Love can not be quantified.
However it is a fact that parents do have a special fondness for a particular child, not that they love the other children less,
In general, I have seen fathers more attached emotionally to their Daughters.
In fact a Man sees his Mother in his daughter,
I do not know about Women.
5.It is a contradiction to observe that the eldest child gets priority in a Home and in some Homes the youngest’ it is the things are.
In short I am of the conviction that Children and emotions are not quantifiable and any conclusions based on these assumptions are incorrect and sends a wrong message to Parents.
Story:
The three biggest myths, she says, turn into one word — lonelyselfishmaladjusted — when people talk about us, despite the hundreds of studies that show only children are no different than people with siblings. It is a knowledge gap with consequences. The stereotypes “are really infringing on the lives of parents and especially mothers,” Sandler says. “They have their first kid for them and a second for the other kid. If the reason they’re doing that is that only children are somehow screwed up, then the reasoning is flawed.”
As I dared to exhale, she laid out the facts:
1. Only children are not lonely. This is true, but with a few qualifications. School-aged only children are not lonelier. However, those in rural areas might be somewhat more so, and adolescent onlys get lonely because they are teenagers. And grown-up only children coping with the needs and then the loss of aging parents do tend to feel more isolated than others in the same boat. “For me, personally, it is not a reason to have another kid,” Sandler says, “just so my kid has a sibling when I die.”
2. Only children are not more selfish than other people. Instead, Sandler says, “we become generous and respectful people. We put a lot of weight on our relationships. We tend to be very giving friends, and we are no more narcissistic than anyone else. For some reason, researchers cannot believe this, and just keep testing.
3. Only children are not all spoiled. At least, no more spoiled than any other child might be. “There is a notion that only children are spoiled because they get everything their parents have to give,” Sandler says, “and end up with the pony in the backyard and the diamond tiara and have a snit when they don’t get what they want. That’s not my kid. It wasn’t me.”
4. Only children are not maladjusted. “All of the data around that shows us that as long as kids go to school they’re socialized,” Sandler says. “I tend to be the person throwing a party. I bought a house with friends.”
5. Only children do have shared strengths. High achievement, intelligence and self-esteem. Raised in a “rich verbal environment” we talk a lot — and with depth. But, Sandler says, just as preventing “lonelyselfishmaladjusted” is not a reason to have a second child, improving your child’s SAT score is not a reason to stop at one.
I would say ‘Happy,Family oriented,Has values,Informed and reasonably responsible for their age”
How about my readers view?
In general,I have seen parents judging their children harshly forgetting what or how they were of their children’s age!
Parents’ View of Children
If you ask American moms, we are raising a nation of baby Einsteins. Here’s what one parent had to say about the intelligence of her 3-year-old, which was apparent to her from the very first moments of her life:
“I have this vivid memory when she was born of them taking her to clean her off … And she was looking all around … She was alert from the very first second … I took her out when she was six weeks old to a shopping mall to have her picture taken — people would stop me and say, “What an alert baby.” One guy stopped me and said, “Lady, you have an intelligent baby there.” … And it was just something about her. She was very engaging and very with the program, very observant. She’s still fabulously observant.”
The biggest difference between American parents and their counterparts in Europe might be that they are far more relaxed about enrichment than we are, according to a study released this week by Sara Harkness and Charles M. Super at the School of Family Studies at the University of Connecticut.
Not only are Americans far more likely to focus on their children’s intelligence and cognitive skills, they are also far less likely to describe them as “happy” or “easy” children to parent.
“The U.S.’s almost obsession with cognitive development in the early years overlooks so much else,” Harkness told Slate.
For part of their research, the authors focused just on parents in the United States and the Netherlands. The differences are stark: American parents emphasized setting aside “special time” with each of their children, while Dutch parents spent a few hours each day together with their kids as an entire family.
American parents said they struggled to manage the sleep schedules of their babies and young children, explaining that they try to entertain or distract them when they wake up in the middle of the night. As one American dad says:
“We both have different strategies. She’ll put him in the walker down here and I generally put him in the playpen and try to keep him somewhat entertained, either by the TV or he loves the stereo.”
Compare this to Dutch parents, who emphasized plenty of rest and regular schedules for their kids (and, by extension, themselves), and somehow end up inducing their offspring to sleep more:
“Many parents stressed the importance of a regular schedule, including a set time for both meals and bed. As one mother of an 18-month-old explained: ‘To bed on time, because they really need rest to grow, and regularity is very important when they are so little. If she gets too little rest, she is very fussy.’ A mother of a 6-month-old commented, ‘We are very strict about going to bed – at 6:30, upstairs.’”
Apparently, it works. The authors noted that the children of Dutch parents were consistently more calm, existing more frequently in a state of “quiet alert,” while American babies were more often “actively alert.”
“The higher state of arousal of the American babies corresponded to differences in their mothers’ behavior: the American mothers touched and talked to their babies more than the Dutch mothers did,” the authors note.
But beyond sleep schedules, Americans also seem preoccupied with their children’s smarts from an extremely young age.
The researchers compiled a list of the attributes that 60 families in six different countries used to describe their children, which you can see at the top of the page.
American parents were the only ones to consistently mention their children’s advanced intellect, while other countries focused on qualities like “happiness,” being “easy” to manage, or the even more zen-like “well-balanced,” in Italy. (Italians also used the word simpatico, a group of characteristics suggesting social and emotional competence).
Burt defined sex education as the study of the characteristics of beings; a male and female.[1] Such characteristics make up the person’s sexuality. Sexuality is an important aspect of the life of a human being and almost all the people including children want to know about it.[citation needed] Sex education includes all the educational measures which in any way may of life[clarification needed]that have their center on sex. He further said that sex education stands for protection, presentation extension, improvement and development of the family based on accepted ethical ideas. Leepson sees sex education as instruction in various physiological, psychological and sociological aspects of sexual response and reproduction.[2] Kearney also defined sex education as “involving a comprehensive course of action by the school, calculated to bring about the socially desirable attitudes, practices and personal conduct on the part of children and adults, that will best protect the individual as a human and the family as a social institution. Thus, sex education may also be described as “sexuality education”, which means that it encompasses education about all aspects of sexuality, including information about family planning, reproduction (fertilization, conception and development of the embryo and fetus, through to childbirth), plus information about all aspects of one’s sexuality including: body image, sexual orientation, sexual pleasure, values, decision making, communication, dating, relationships, sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and how to avoid them, and birth control methods.[3] Various aspect of sex education are to right[clarification needed] in school depending on the age of the students or what the children are able to comprehend at a particular point in time. Rubin and Kindendall expressed that sex education is not merely a unit in reproduction and teaching how babies are conceived and born. It has a far richer scope and goal of helping the youngster incorporate sex most meaningfully into his present and future life, to provide him with some basic understanding on virtually every aspect of sex by the time he reaches full maturity.[4](Wiki)
Shorn of jargon, it is about teaching what Sex is about.
You may notice the definition needs ‘citation’ for sensuality.
If you can not define what sexuality is, which I am sure we can not define as we can hunger and other instincts,how does one go about it?
Sensuality and Sex appeal are the fundamentals of Sex.
Sex education includes all the educational measures which in any way may of life[clarification needed]that have their center on sex
Sex Education in Schools.
* Look at the expression in the Image above!
Same confusion in definition.
About
family planning,
reproduction (fertilization, conception and development of the embryo and fetus, through to childbirth),
fertilization, conception and development of the embryo and fetus, through to childbirth.
The topics are taught in Biology already.
Now Communication is taught as a Soft Skill or they talking about intercourse being taught in Communication Skill?
So is decision making.
Onto Sexual Pleasures and Orientation.
How do you explain Sexual Pleasure ?
That ‘Straight Sex’ is more pleasurable than , say gay Sex,Lesbianism, Sadism,BDSM, Fellatio and other designated Perversions?
Wait, people might take objection to my grouping gay sex and lesbianism with perversions for most countries have legalized it.
How does one compare?
By trying out each one of them?
And how do you decide which age group can understand what?
under the guise of Sex Education what is about to happen is the detailed Illustration of all perverse sexual activities and a suggestion that it might not be good for the individual and the Society, in the passing.
Absolute rubbish.
If people want to delude , by introducing Sex education they would be barring the Sex Information available on the Internet, …well and in fact give the children all the Information under one head with official legal sanction!
A government review has, as expected, ruled that sex education in schools will from 2011 be taught as part of the personal, social, health and economic (PSHE) curriculum. This means that children will learn about sex in the broader context of relationships, homosexuality, marriage, civil partnerships, divorce and abortion, rather than simply as the biological facts of puberty and reproduction formerly taught in science classes. This new form of sex education will also become the norm in both primary and secondary schools, and for children aged 15 and up, it will be compulsory, regardless of parental objection.
The fad of Dieting has assumed alarming proportions and it has affected even children between the Ages of 3 and 7!
As far as I know science has not proved beyond doubt that Dieting helps you as in the case of Exercises.
What is sure is the side effects which are life threatening.
I posted a blog on the adverse effects ‘Fruit Diet‘, when the daughter of my friend (28 years) collapsed and sixty-six year old father had to rush to drive her Home from her office!
Never ever attempt dieting(many may disagree,after all Industries are built on this myth).
Follow traditional food by your parents and Grand parents and engage in physical work that suits you.
“I felt sick. Physically ill. Like someone had knocked the air from my chest,” Amy Cheney wrote on the website Mamamia.
Dieting 7 Year Old!
Cheney said she found the diet listalongside her daughter’s Polly Pockets and friendship bracelets, but it is the girl’s spelling that poignantly highlights just how young she is.
Among the foods the girl was allowing herself to eat were:
– “appals”
-“keewee”
-“yoget”
The exercises on the list included:
-“pooshups”
-“16 star jumps 2 time a day”
-“rid my bike 3 time a day”
In her post, Cheney noted her daughter said she had learned about dieting from a 7-year-old friend.”
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A recent study from Texas A & M also suggests that Cheney’s daughter’s decision to take up a diet after hearing about it from a friend isn’t altogether surprising. Researchers found that peer competition may contribute more significantly to adolescents adopting negative perceptions about their bodies than the media does.
There are also rare cases of children showing signs of anorexia as early as kindergarten. ABC News recently recounted a story about a kindergartner who confessed to her mother that she was always hungry.
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