In many cultures it is the belief that one sees his entire life flash before his eyes few seconds before his death.Now Neuroscience seems to have stumbled upon evidence that seems to validate this belief. In Hinduism, death is not considered as the end,but the beginning of another Life.Birth is considered to be the one that binds.The Subtle Body leaves at the time of death with the impressions of the present Life to another. I had explained this concept in my articles about Subtle body , How good offered to the Dead reaches them
The Kuzhi Tharpana is to be performed by the Paternal side relatives till the tenth day. Should take bath outside the village or town, offer Tharpana and donate Dhoti,Angavastra or Saree and Blouse bit on the First,Third, Seventh and ninth day of the death. Asthi Sanjayan, the dissolving of ashes is to be done on the Fourth day. (The Current practice is performing this Karma on the second day, Vishnu Purana says it should be done on the Fourth day) After twelfth day one can sleep on he bed. But till the thirteenth day no intimate relations with husband or wife is allowed. During this period, all the three varnas, Brahmana,Kshatriya and Vaisya should not recite Vedas, Engage in Dhaana or Dharma nor should one accept any thing from the others..