Tag Aaron Carpenter

Once the girl and the boy like each other, then the arrangements for Betrothal and marriage starts.

The problem with the present generation is that they set conditions.

1.They need to talk to each other,by email,webcam and in person and it is in vogue now.

2.The girl should be well-educated, employed and domestically well-trained(?!)

3.The Boy without parents being alive is preferred and most preferred boys are those who do not have siblings;they must commit to support the girl's parents.

The Boy should be in a transferable job and can get transferred to the Girls' place.

4.Both the Boy and girl declare they should be in the same 'wave length' , each must 'personal space and they want to ensure that each is compatible with the other.

I am talking about the point on 'wavelength' , 'personal space 'and compatibility.

I was married to a girl whom my parents finalised and have grandchildren now, with usual, ever-present misunderstanding between us.

What exactly is ''wavelength'?

If my understanding is correct , it means that both should be able to have same tastes, likes and dislikes.

I am afraid this is not possible or probable.

Each is unique.

If one were to have the same likes, dislikes then Life would become dull and boring.

It is a question of supplementing each other.

None loves, likes the others in all their follies and tastes.

It applies to every one.

It is the process of compromising and adjusting that makes Life happy or at least tolerable.