Category: Philosophy
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The Danger Of Having Unrealistic Expectations or Ecpectations.
I have a grand son who is eight months old .I have been observing his behavior.Till a few weeks back he has been all smiles excepting when he was hungry.He seemed to have an inner reservoir of happiness which was gushing out in smiles despite what is happening around him or who picks him up.
Now he has started moving on his stomach towards objects.When he starts moving , he goes backwards, unable to grasp the object of his attention and starts crying.
The child is the same, objects remain what they were;yet he has started crying while a few months earlier when he never attempted the present maneuver,never went after objects, was smiling.
Now the situation and his reaction has changed.
Earlier he has been accepting things for what they were and never had an idea/made an attempt to acquire the object;he did not have the desire for acquisition or he did not expect any thing.He was happy.
This is the essence of Life.Leave things as they are.Do what you feel like doing with an innocent child’s mind of about 6 months and you shall remain happy.
One must know there is nothing that can be changed by you.If think so, it is an illusion.You may argue with this point.But experience shall tell you the Truth as mentioned above.
Nor can you change people.
The closest person to you is yourself.Have you listened to yourself and changed?
Things are what they are and you are what you are.
This does not mean inaction.This means non action.That is, you perform a task because it ought to be performed knowing pretty well that you are only one factor in completing a task whether it is brushing teeth or earning money.Many other forces that are not in your control have roles to play.If you worry about results you shall be impairing the efficiency of the only factor, that is you, that is in your control, thus reducing the overall efficiency of factors that lead to completion of an act.
So do the best and leave it at that, whether it be a task or relation ships.This is the secret of Happiness.Now Read on….DISCONNECTS BETWEEN EXPECTATIONS AND EXPERIENCE
I would argue further that the reason many of my forewarned patients report to me the experience wasn’t as bad as they expected was precisely because I warned them it would be bad. Though I’ve used a medical example here, the impact of any disconnect between our expectations and our experience is felt in almost all contexts. Our expectations of our experiences dramatically color not just how we experience waiting for them but the experiences themselves. Four scenarios exist regarding expectations and experiences. We can have:
1. Low expectations and a poor experience, where our low expectations can mute the disappointment or even the discomfort we feel at actually having a poor experience.
2. Low expectations but a good experience, leading to a pleasant surprise.
3. High expectations and good experience, in which we get to enjoy not only the anticipation of looking forward to something fabulous but an experience that actually lives up to our expectations and therefore feels thoroughly satisfying.
4. High expectations but a poor experience, in which we often emerge bitterly disappointed or even traumatized.THE BEST STRATEGY
The “gain” at which we set our expectations tends to be more a matter of habit and disposition than conscious intention for most of us. Some of us expect little, perhaps as a way to defend against disappointment, accepting the cost of a muted or absent anticipatory sense of joy. Others of us can’t help having high expectations, basking consistently in the glow of anticipation but often paying a different price: the painful disappointment that comes when experiences fail to live up to those high expectations. Even worse, sometimes having unrealistically high expectations prevent us from being able to enjoy our experiences at all.
I honestly don’t think one strategy is better than another but rather that different strategies are better suited for different types of people. If you observe yourself to be continually disappointed by experiences you feel you should be able to enjoy, you may do better by consciously lowering your expectations somewhat. Likewise, if your expectations remain so consistently low you never think things will work out for you, you may find yourself plagued by a gloomy pessimism that blocks you from savoring a truly enjoyable part of life—the anticipation of good things—and you might work on allowing yourself to expect just a little more.
Though we all may have a built-in set point at which we unconsciously tend to set our expectations, that doesn’t prevent us from consciously grabbing the reins and adjusting them up or down to suit our needs. Certainly it would be ideal if our expectations always perfectly matched our experiences, but as the quality of many experiences is hard to predict, we might do better to adjust our expectation of how much we think we’ll enjoy or dislike an experience based more on how we know those expectations will affect us than on how accurate we may think they’ll turn out to be.
My own personal preference is to know up front as much as I can about both good and bad experiences coming my way. For me—and, I’ve observed, for many others—not knowing what’s coming when anticipating something bad creates even more anxiety than having full knowledge of how bad what’s coming will be. Knowing the limits of the “badness” I’ll be facing enables me to focus on preparing for it rather than on managing my imagination’s tendency to inflate it beyond all rational proportion. For me at least, the devil I don’t know is far worse than the devil I do.
Though soon after the anesthesiologist left our room for the last time my wife and I had both become resigned to having a different experience than we’d expected, after our son was born (perfectly healthy) we received another surprise: my wife’s left-sided pain actually became worse, located now not low in her pelvis where her uterus was appropriately contracting down to staunch any bleeding, but rather high up in the left upper quadrant of her abdomen where it had absolutely no business being. When I glanced worriedly at our obstetrician she only shrugged in confusion. The anesthesiologist was called back in one last time, gave my wife a narcotic, and the pain finally faded away, never to return. To this day, however, my wife regards the last five hours of her labor as one of the worst experiences of her life. The only thing that saved the day was that it was followed immediately by one of the best.
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/happiness-in-world/201003/the-danger-having-unrealistic-expectations -
Is Blind Faith in God and the Bible a Modern Invention?
There is no such thing as Blind Faith.There is nothing like Rational Faith and Blind Faith.
Faith is what you experience and not what you think.
You feel the presence of Love,God, not think of them.
Faith is of the heart not of the Head.
Couple of points.
1.Before trying to dissect the concept of GOD and trying to rationalise either to prove or disprove,first define ‘Mind’-then define thoughts.So far no body has defined mind but still use the term frequently as if it is the highest authority.
Mind is not seen ,heard,smelt,felt,or tasted( the five senses);yet you say it exists.One might say it is because of the results,namely coordination of sense organs.This again is an assumption and not proven.
You may also map the brain ,scan it, but still you can not say what the mind is.Can you declare that mind is not operative when brain is in coma?You do no know,that is the answer.
2.How does one explain consciousness?Psychologists have a funny term’Unconscious’.If you are not conscious how come you know it?Again the result of consciousness is seen in day to day life.That is, you infer.
Are all inferences correct?
In logic, you take a particular instance,refer it to general statement,then arrive at a final statement.To explain;
All men are mortal.
X is a Man.
Therefore X is mortal.
Seems correct-Is it ?
Before saying all men are mortal you should have verified all men living,dead and those who are yet to be born, know that those who are born die and then say all are mortal.
Is this the case?
We have not verified each case and also it is impossible to check each case.
We do what we call an inductive leap and say and all are mortal.
When your basic assumption itself is open to question/is wrong ,what about your conclusions?
Nor are the senses reliable.
You dip your hand in warm water and then keep it in cold water.Is the water cold
immediately?
If I am going to believe only what I am going to perceive by myself I will be a doodering idiot.I have not been to moon.I have heard of it.I believe it.What if people have have lied?
Testimony is also open to question.
If I were to follow what others tell me , then who has informed the first person on earth a thing is what it is?For example,I call rose a rose because it has been named thus.Who has informed the first human being thus?
Again what is a thing we see or hear?
I call rose a rose,because of certain qualities.say clolor,smell.If any thing smeels like rose shal I call it a rose.No.It may be a perfume.If it is because of color, there are many roses of the same color, but still we call a rose a rose.You strip a thing of its qualities;what does remain?
Take a Man.Can you tell me what is common between yourself at 3 yrs and you at present and in between?
I am totally different from what I was at various stages of my life when compared my present state.My physical details have changed,out look has changed.Yet I call myself the same.
What is it by which I call ‘I’?
These things call for introspection by the individual and no amount of writing shall solve the issue.
Introspect and you shall know what you are.
Both Theism and Atheism are set of principles that appeal to different groups.Let each believe what they want.
What you want is not in Books;it is within you.
Find it, for when you are about to die all this dissertations will be of no use, for that matter when you lie naked on the surgeon’s table for a procedure, these things will not help.
Find the Truth in you.
(By writing some controversial books ,people make money, Period.
Story:
A new book points out that the ancient Christians — and even early Americans — did not share the blind faith of today’s fundamentalists.
If you open Karen Armstrong’s new book, The Case for God, expecting to find a list of mysterious cures, scientific curiosities, or certified miracles all pointing toward the physical presence of a divine influence in the world, you will be sorely disappointed. Armstrong has no interest in, and is in fact completely antithetical to, trying to prove God’s existence. Despite this, her book is positioned — both in marketing and from its opening pages — as a direct challenge to books like Richard Dawkins’ The God Delusion, Sam Harris’ Letter to a Christian Nation, and Christopher Hitchens’ God Is Not Great: How Religion Poisons Everything. How can you make a defense of God if you’ve no interest in the existence of God? Quite well, actually, and if you do it as sharply as Armstrong, you can make hundreds of pages of what is basically theological analysis both entertaining and informative.Armstrong argues for an idea very similar to the “non-overlapping magisteria” that were put forward by evolutionary biologist Stephen Jay Gould (and in fact, Gould gets several nice mentions in The Case for God). She refers frequently to the idea that, in the past, people tended to break arguments into two groups for which she uses the Greek terms logos and mythos. Logos reflects practical, immediate reasoning — how do we build that aqueduct, what can we make from this wood, which crop would grow best in that field? Mythos is more aimed at the why — what does it mean that my friend has died, how can I recapture the joy I felt in a moment of pure experience, how can I find meaning and peace among the world’s noise and violence? This sort of approach could easily fall into a gooey cheer for “being spiritual,” but Armstrong is not talking about having a nice little breathing session now and then. She focuses on the 3000 year history of monotheism and the great effort that was put into building flexible, thoughtful religions, on how those religions continue to have a meaningful role in the life of millions, and how the recent history of those religions has led to unfortunate developments that are unique over those three millennia.
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Doctor says near-death experiences are in the mind -Really?
Doctors and Psychologists seem to think what they declare as gospel truth is final.Evidence collected by them alone is correct,not description by those who underwent the experience.
By the way , have these gentlemen defined ‘Mind”?
Is it the Brain or the activity of the Brain?
Are you aware of Brain because of its activity or the activity because of brain?
Indian Philosophy classifies Mind as an organ just like other sense organs like eyes,nose,ear,mouth,body.
These are the organs endowed with the functions(functions are different from organs-you may have organs, but no function,as in a deaf),seeing,smelling,hearing,tasting,and tactile sensations.
Activity of the brain is Mind;activity of mind is intellect;intellect is guided by Chiththa(modifications of the mind)
Brain is like a CPU,collects information,mind sifts them category wise,intellect discerns action to be taken and chiththa watches all
In near Death experiences, Chiththa cuts through brain,mind and intellect and experiences directly.
Straight perception by Chiththa is grasping knowledge unfetterd by prejudices.
It is experience, pure and simple.
Near Death experiences can not be wished away by offering high sounding pseudo scientific non sense.
Those interested in the subject may refer Rev.Leadbeaters book on this and also works published by Theosophical Society of India.These works contain proofs as well as photographs taken at the time of life or soul leaving the body.
Story:
For Laura Geraghty, April 1, 2009, started out just as any other day. It was sunny but cool, she remembers.Laura Geraghty was shocked 21 times before she came back from cardiac arrest with tales of the afterlife.
The mother of two, also a grandmother, was at her job, driving a school bus for the Newton Public School District in suburban Boston, Massachusetts.
Her passengers, special-needs children, were wheelchair-bound.
Seemingly in good health and in good spirits, Geraghty was finishing up her late-morning run, transporting a student and teacher back to Newton South High School, when she realized she was in trouble.
As she was pulling into the school parking lot, she began having sharp stomach pains. She was able to park her bus, but she kept feeling worse.
The pain “went right up my arm and into my chest, and I said, ‘Uh-oh, I’m having a heart attack,’ ” she said.
The teacher ran from the bus to get help. Newton South’s nurse, Gail Kramer, and CPR instructor Michelle Coppola arrived moments later with the school’s new automated external defibrillator.
Geraghty, barely conscious, was fading fast. She was weak and having trouble breathing. And then she went into full cardiac arrest.
“Her eyes were wide, and all of a sudden she stopped talking to us,” Coppola said. “I grabbed the two pads, stuck them on her, started it up, and I’d say within 20 seconds, she had her first shock.”
Coppola and Kramer performed CPR while they waited for paramedics. See an expert give a quick lesson in CPR »
At that point, Geraghty says, her body died. She remembers watching the scene unfold — as if from above.
“I floated right out of my body. My body was here, and I just floated away. I looked back at it once, and it was there.”
Geraghty says she saw deceased loved ones, her mother and her ex-husband.
http://edition.cnn.com/2009/HEALTH/10/16/cheating.near.death/index.html
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Universal Prayer.
All of us,including the plants,animals and inanimate beings(we think they are inanimate), are from God/Nature/Holy FatherAllah.
Praying for the welfare of all these is the proper Prayer.
“God is all encompassing and is full.The Universe is full,having come from Him.Having come from the Full,Full Remains.Even if after taking full(Universe) the Full( God) remains full.Let there be Peace , Peace ,Peace.
(Santhi Mantra of Isa and Brhadaranyaka Upanishad)
* For those who feelthat how full can remain fulll after taking full out of it-if you share your knowledge,after having done so,your Knowledge remains the same( full) and the one to whom you have imparted also has the Knowledge in full.
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