In probably the First Divorce in India granted on Wife Swapping ground, this story makes fora sad and angry reading.
The judge ,in his wisdom, let off the couple with merely granting the Divorce.
The Boy should have been charged under SITA(what an acronym for Suppression of Immoral Traffic Act.
The girl should also have been charged under the same section, as she had taken time and there is no mention of Rape(This calls for the re-definition of Rape-read my blog on this)
Is is that the girl had brought the charge because she did not like the ‘partner’ she had?
Cleverly, probably under the advice(?) of a Lawyer she had admitted consuming Liquor .
She had informed her in-laws?
What did she inform?
I know of a Star Hotel in Anna Salai -Chennai, where the wife swapping takes place during week ends.
Be wary or eager ( depends on how you view it) of special entrances charges upwards of Rs 3000/ head with discounts for Couple and drinks on the house on weekends.
The process of wife swapping is very simple and ingenious.
The couple ,whenever they want to leave,just exchange car keys -the usual destination is OMR Road,resorts/individual houses on rent.
What could be the reasons?
It is not as though this is happening now.
Even 15 or years back such instances were there.
Now the incidents are on the rise.
The advent of IT Industry, pay package, the pampered cocooned atmosphere, the atmosphere to mix , the illusion of Life as being ‘Great’, ‘Cool'”awesome’ and easy monetary success contribute to this.
IT industry produces the best paid , most restless,emotionally unstable sad human beings.
Please wake up.
Worse still that the people involved do not even feel it is immoral.
Being immoral is pardonable, Amoral is not.
Story:
“By Umesh R Yadav – BANGALORE
23rd October 2012 09:30 AM
It might be one among the many divorce cases in the city. But what made it unusual were the grounds on which the divorce was granted — wife-swapping.
Granting divorce to Bhavya (29) (name changed) recently, a family court judge observed: “Practices like wife-swapping spoil Indian society, and people should not forget their culture and tradition by being attracted towards foreign lifestyles.”
In her petition seeking divorce, Bhavya of Chikmagalur said she was married to Dhanush (name changed), a software engineer residing at Jayanagar, three years ago. Both of them were attracted towards lavish western lifestyles. They used to go to late night parties and discos, and Dhanush used to introduce her to his friends, she said.
Bhavya further said sometimes they used to drink together, and Dhanush encouraged his friends to get too close to her. Dhanush also used to get intimate with wives of his friends. Recently, Dhanush and his friends arranged a party at a resort near Nelamangala, where they had brought their wives. At that party, they all drank and Bhavya was completely under the influence of alcohol. They spent the night there.
When Bhavya turned sober the next morning, she found one of Dhanush’s friends sleeping on her bed.
When she informed her husband of that, Dhanush seemed to be knowing about the “arranged incident”, and asked her not to discuss it with any one, Bhavya said.
After that incident, Bhavya refused to go to parties with him. But soon, Dhanush started compelling her to accompany him to parties. When she protested and informed her in-laws about it, he started torturing her.
Unable to bear it any more, she went to her parents’ house and stayed there for one-and-a-half years, but Dhanush continued to torture her, she said in her complaint.”
http://newindianexpress.com/cities/bangalore/article1311119.ece
Related.
What a helpful TV Programme?
Wife swapping is a hit for subscription television channel LifeStyle You, with Wife Swap Australiaranking as the number one entertainment programme on the Foxtel and Austar platform on Monday evening.
The premiere of Wife Swap Australia became the channel’s highest rating programme to date with 163,811 viewers.
The Twittersphere lit up too, as #wifeswapau became Australia’s top trending topic for the night.
Wife Swap Australia gives a whole new meaning to domestic bliss and lifts the lid on what it means to be Australian in the 21st century. The programme offers no cash rewards, but seeks to help couples reestablish their love and commitment to each other.
The series runs over ten weeks.
http://www.mediaspy.org/2012/01/11/wife-swapping-delivers-for-foxtel-and-austar/
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Just saw a strange trend – when you go to the news link, and see the comments therein, there are men AND WOMEN, who blame the lady in the case, saying she gave them too much ‘rope’ and was completely at fault!!
Yes, the woman drinks alcohol. Yes, the woman goes to parties with her husband, friends et all. In all probability, yes, she dresses sensually. But is that any reason to force her into sex?
When do we start separating the two?
The easiest thing in the world is to blame either the ISI or the West for everything that goes wrong in our country! What about our own self control? Are we mere animals to be ‘infulenced’ into behaviors like this? Sad indeed.
1.I have included the Boy as a fit case to be booked under Cr.Pc.
2.Drinking is bad , evil as it destroys the the discriminatory power to differentiate between The Right and The Wrong.
3.The detail of the case is yet to emerge fully.If the girl is honest and virtuous, why did she not complain immediately after her husband’s suggestion of the Swap party.
The argument she did not know won’t wash as Wife Swap things are not available to the uninitiated.
The girl is forward looking enough to share a Drink with her husband, yet she is not bold enough to complain on this immediately..
4.What exactly did she complain to her parents and in-laws?That she found a man whom she did not expect in her bed?
What was their response?
Ecstatic?
5.You are right about self control.When you do not have that to desist from drinking, you invite the consequences.
6.Western Culture is definitely a bad influence.This can be seen from the tone of the present comment on Drinking.
6.If the western culture is not responsible, the behavior of the girl is much worse.
In the name of ‘secularism’ Indians have stopped all moral education from our academic curriculum. Even Dr.Karan Singh has expressed his concern on this trend.Values are termed ‘taboo’. Any moral advice is considered an unnecessary intrusion. The fast pace life style of technocrats is proving too costly for moral fiber of the society.Two years back one highly placed technocrat form Dehradun had killed his wife and cut her in pieces and threw away the pieces in remote areas.Now he is facing trial for the heinous crime. Such instances are on the rise.Sociologists should consider this growing trend and suggest ways and means to uplift the moral fiber of the country.
What can a Sociologist do?
We must make an example of these people.
I wonder if Islamic Laws are the best in handing out punishment.