The concept of Group sex,Polygamy or Polyandry is not some thing new.
All these relationships have been tried out by humans since yore and Monogamy has been arrived at after finding out that the emotional security and social order is best assured by Monogamy.
Feeling insecure is a state of mind; it can arise irrespective of the nomenclature you give to your relationships.
Human beings as we are, the act of sex does not stop with the physical act.We attach an emotional content to it.A sexual act with out emotional content is not possible.You become frigid and a non performer in a sexual act.
Any feeling or emotion that is generated affects you in some way or other.Feeling of jealousy is also one and remember it is not wrong to be jealous.If you say you have never been jealous of any thing or any body,not necessarily relating to sex, please answer honestly.
You do not get emotionally involved with out an element of being attached to things or people with out the feeling of ownership or proprietorial right.May it is called wrong .It is the way things are.
Again an act of sex alone does not satisfy an individual in the long run.You need an emotional content to it.You can not imagine going on living with only sex acts through out your life for life needs emotional content as well.
It is only the management of so called jealousy is of criteria.
In monogamy people take sex as apart of life and not as Life.
Being loyal to your self and to your spouse enhances your self esteem and gives you stability to your emotional life not withstanding aberrations by you or your spouse.This shall pass.Ultimately monogamy with its perceived short coming of being not able to have sex with others out side marriage shall pass and you shall have a secure emotional life.
However people may engage themselves in polygamy ,polyandry or group sex as they choose and see their emotional status after they cross the secure forties.
If they can handle that stress it is fine.
Unfortunately, this , generally, is not the case.
Story:
Infidelity is treated as selfish, while monogamy is celebrated. But what’s so great about living a life of self-denial?
But what’s so gutsy about living a life full of self-denial and insecurity, where the person you love most is also the person you most need to limit?
Janet W. Hardy, co-author of The Ethical Slut, is quick to point out that being “open” is not necessarily the path of least resistance, and that moving away from monogamy takes courage: “The difference between polyamorous people and monogamous people isn’t that poly people never feel jealous — we do. The real difference is what we do with our feelings of jealousy. […] By blaming the [unhappy] feelings on their partners, [most monogamous people] are able to make problems someone else’s fault. That way, they don’t have to feel responsible for figuring out what’s causing the feelings, or for finding a solution.” Those who have elected to allow their partner extra-relationship sex don’t “have that luxury. You don’t get to distract yourself from your feelings of loss, sorrow, insecurity or whatever by diverting them into anger toward him [or her.]”
http://www.alternet.org/sex/147349/freedom_from_sexual_self-denial%3A_why_not_have_sex_with_people_who_aren%27t_your_partner/
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