It produces the opposite reaction.
You have run the family for nearly 30 t0 40 years and you have taught , or you thought you had taught your children to face Life,.
Why not leave them be?
What could they do?
They might make mistakes. like you and I have mad when we were young, or for that matter even now.
Why not admit that the younger generation may be( in Fact) is more intelligent in handling Life than we did?
Let them run the family the way they want.
If you have brought them up well and proper they would have the basic Morals alright.
That would do.
Not the silly expectation of them coming to you and submitting their account and informing y