Tag: Domestic violence

  • Domestic Violence Against Men Helpline

    Domestic Violence Against Men.
    Domestic Violence Against Men.

    Violence is violence.

    Yet when a mention of the term domestic violence crops up, it always is the violence perpetrated by Men against Women.

    What about Men subjected to domestic violence by women?

    Indian law is silent on this issue , so are laws the world over.

    “Definitions.- In this Act, unless the context otherwise requires,-

    (a) ” aggrieved person” means any woman who is, or has been, in a domestic relationship with the respondent and who alleges to have been subjected to any act of domestic violence by the respondent;” Domestic Violence Act India.
    Domestic Violence against Men.

    Findings that women are as violent as men have been termed “gender symmetry”.[1][9][10][11][12][13]

    A 32-nation study of university students “revealed an overwhelming body of evidence that bidirectional violence is the predominant pattern of perpetration; and this study, along with evidence from many other studies (Medeiros & Straus, 2007), indicates that the etiology of PV is mostly parallel for men and women.”[14]

    Domestic Violence against Men.
    Domestic Violence against Men.

    Straus and Gelles found that in couples reporting spousal violence, 27% of the time the man struck the first blow; in 24% of cases, the woman initiated the violence. The rest of the time, the violence was mutual, with both partners brawling. The results were the same even when the most severe episodes of violence were analyzed. In order to counteract claims that the reporting data was skewed, female-only surveys were conducted, asking females to self-report, and the data was the same.[15] The simple tally of physical acts is typically found to be similar in those studies that examine both directions, but some studies show that male violence may be more serious. Male violence may do more damage than female violence;[16] women are more likely to be injured and/or hospitalized. Female partners are more likely to be killed by their male partners than the reverse (62.1% to 37.9% per Department of Justice study), and women in general are more likely to be killed by their spouses than by all other types of assailants combined.[17] From a data set of 6,200 cases of spousal abuse in the Detroit area of the US in 1978-79, a study found that men used weapons 25% of the time while female assailants used weapons 86% of the time; 74% of men sustained injury and of these 84% required medical care.[18] Other studies report that female perpetrated domestic abuse is more common than male among adolescents.[19][20](wiki)

    Signs of Domestic Violence against Men.

    You might be experiencing domestic violence if your partner:

    • Calls you names, insults you or puts you down
    • Prevents you from going to work or school
    • Stops you from seeing family members or friends
    • Tries to control how you spend money, where you go or what you wear
    • Acts jealous or possessive or constantly accuses you of being unfaithful
    • Gets angry when drinking alcohol or using drugs
    • Threatens you with violence or a weapon
    • Hits, kicks, shoves, slaps, chokes or otherwise hurts you, your children or your pets
    • Assaults you while you’re sleeping, you’ve been drinking or you’re not paying attention to make up for a difference in strength
    • Forces you to have sex or engage in sexual acts against your will
    • Blames you for his or her violent behavior or tells you that you deserve it
    • Portrays the violence as mutual and consensual.

    http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/domestic-violence-against-men/MY00557

    Helpline.

    National Helpline
    01823 334244 
    If you are a man suffering Domestic Abuse or Violence call this number.
    Our confidential helpline is manned from Monday to Friday 10am – 4pm and 7pm – 9pm.
    Helpline services for the Deaf are provided through Text Relay. Visitwww.textrelay.org for details.
    Normal BT rates apply
    If you are in immediate danger, call 999

    http://www.mankind.org.uk/

    Philip Cook’s book Abused Men: The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence offers an account of the politics of statistics across four decades of research on intimate partner violence, chronicling the ways in which the battering of men is overlooked and under-discussed. Cook points out that women make up 20% of domestic violence arrests and, in the reissued version of the book released in 2009, shows how these figures have changed over time, reflecting reporting practices rather than a dramatic increase in the levels of violence. Cook cites a survey sponsored by the Law Enforcement Assistance Administration of abused women seeking shelter in Kentucky found that among violent couples, 38% of attacks were by ones where women reported that they had initiated a violent act.

    Unsurprisingly, men are far less likely than women to report incidents where they have been injured as it might call into question the status of their manhood. For men who did not hit back, retaliate, or perform an evasive action, there remains an expectation among many of the men themselves that they should have been able to fend off what transpired. Counselors note that boys and men who have been the victims of violence have a hard time accepting the label of victim.  Feminized associations with victim language makes it difficult for men and boys who experience violence to seek and accept help.

    http://thefeministwire.com/2013/03/feminist-anxiety-about-domestic-violence-against-men/

  • Kills Punching Wife Posts Photo In Facebook

    In a weird case, a man killed his wife and posted it in Facebook!

    Man Kills wife ,posts in Facebook..
    Man Kills wife ,posts in Facebook..

    I hope this makes the Judge‘s easier.

    Or wold it help the accused pleading’temporarily insane?’

    What wold be lost is the fact that the dead woman has been abusing her husband.

    Story:

    A dead woman’s bloody body lay sprawled out on a kitchen floor in a gruesome photo posted to her husband’s Facebook page, along with a harrowing confession.

    “Im going to prison or death sentence for killing my wife love you guys miss you guys takecare Facebook people you will see me in the news.”

    Derek Medina, 31, of South Miami appears to have posted the grisly picture of Jennifer Alfonso about 11:30 Thursday morning.

    It shows Alfonso bent backwards at the knees with blood splattered over her face and arm.

    “my wife was punching me and I am not going to stand anymore with the abuse so I did what I did I hope u understand me,” he wrote.

    Medina turned himself in to police Thursday and confessed that he shot his wife following a domestic dispute, local CBS-affiliate WFOR reported.

    http://www.nydailynews.com/news/crime/south-miami-man-allegedly-kills-wife-posts-pic-dead-body-article-1.1421670#ixzz2bREKewa5

     

  • Beating Women Rules In Islam Videos Text

    Mohammad Arifi , a  Saudi Cleric Explains how to strike women in Islam.

    Beating Women
    Beating Women

     

    ‘Women use their emotions more than their Body.

     

    Women  are fragile,

     

    Don’t strike them in the Face, we don’t strike even coming to animals in the Face,

     

    Beat her with a toothpick,

     

    If she doesn’t pick up the child which goes near the Stove, beat her with toothpick,

     

    Refuse to share the Bed,

     

    Men may use beating to discipline his wife,

     

    She uses her tears to discipline him,

     

    Refuse to talk to her,

     

     

    These are the Gems.

     

    Does this chap know what he is speaking?

     

    Is he right in quoting Islam?

     

    Or is the following information wrong?

     

    I am appalled>

     

    ‘The Qur’an instructs Muslim men to beat their wives

    Surah 4:34:

    “Men have authority over women because Allah has made the one superior to the other, and because they spend their wealth to maintain them. Good women are obedient. They guard their unseen parts because Allah has guarded them. As for those from whom you fear disobedience, admonish them and send them to beds apart and beat them. Then if they obey you, take no further action against them. Surely Allah is high, supreme.”

     

    Extending on Allah’s command to men for beating their wives, here is a Muslim cleric expounding on the proper way of beating a Muslim wife. I find it interesting that at one point, the Maulana says “…she is not his merchandise…”, yet no one seems to see the hypocrisy in one human beating another – whom they “not own” [to exert control].

    Then again, perhaps he is simply wrong to have said that, and the woman is indeed the husband’s merchandise.

    In Arabic and in the three other reliable English Qur’anic translations:

    ٱلرِّجَالُ قَوَّٲمُونَ عَلَى ٱلنِّسَآءِ بِمَا فَضَّلَ ٱللَّهُ بَعۡضَهُمۡ عَلَىٰ بَعۡضٍ۬ وَبِمَآ أَنفَقُواْ مِنۡ أَمۡوَٲلِهِمۡ‌ۚ فَٱلصَّـٰلِحَـٰتُ قَـٰنِتَـٰتٌ حَـٰفِظَـٰتٌ۬ لِّلۡغَيۡبِ بِمَا حَفِظَ ٱللَّهُ‌ۚ وَٱلَّـٰتِى تَخَافُونَ نُشُوزَهُنَّ

    فَعِظُوهُنَّ وَٱهۡجُرُوهُنَّ فِى ٱلۡمَضَاجِعِ وَٱضۡرِبُوهُنَّ‌ۖ فَإِنۡ أَطَعۡنَڪُمۡ فَلَا تَبۡغُواْ عَلَيۡہِنَّ سَبِيلاً‌ۗ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ كَانَ عَلِيًّ۬ا ڪَبِيرً۬ا (٣٤)

    YUSUFALI: Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has given the one more (strength) than the other, and because they support them from their means. Therefore, the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in (the husbands) absence what Allah would have them guard. As to those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (Next), refuse to share their beds, (And last) beat them (lightly); but if they return to obedience, seek not against them Means (of annoyance): For Allah is Most High, great (above you all).

    • PICKTHAL: Men are in charge of women, because Allah hath made the one of them to excel the other, and because they spend of their property (for the support of women). So good women are the obedient, guarding in secret that which Allah hath guarded. As for those from whom ye fear rebellion, admonish them and banish them to beds apart, and scourge them. Then if they obey you, seek not a way against them. Lo! Allah is ever High, Exalted, Great.

    • SHAKIR: Men are the maintainers of women because Allah has made some of them to excel others and because they spend out of their property; the good women are therefore obedient, guarding the unseen as Allah has guarded; and (as to) those on whose part you fear desertion, admonish them, and leave them alone in the sleeping-places and beat them; then if they obey you, do not seek a way against them; surely Allah is High, Great.

    Truth about Islamic wife beating

    Man is the absolute master in the Muslim household and beating your wife is definitely allowed in Islam. It should not be as severe as beating your slave. That is all! You can beat your wife (lovingly!) pretty good! Make it count, but take care not to break her bones! If you do, she may be able to leave and get a divorce. Therefore, bruising, blue marks, red marks, etc., are all okay! In fact, it is preferred to use a stick or a whip to beat your wife with (easier than using your hand, that’s for sure.). This is what I deduced from an honest reading of the Quran and the Hadith about wife beating. What can I say? The Islamic teachings on women are EVIL. It is hard not see Evil in, no matter what Qur’anic subject you research.

    More Islamic Wife-Beating Justifications

     

    Here is a video of a Muslim cleric, who gave a lecture on the proper way of beating women. Moreover, we are often reminded of the true tragedies of Muslim spousal abuses with this film of a man actually beating his wife. Well, thanks to people on YouTube again we have this follow-up lecture from another Muslim “holy” man, explaining with amazingly twisted logics why women do, indeed, need to be beaten!

    “No one should deny this because this was permitted by the Creator of Man”.

    Oh yeah? Well, the creator, I believe in, says, I can shoot you in the face. What do you think of that?

    I also love the way he makes claims about how many domestic disturbance calls there are in “infidel” countries – as if that makes it OK! Besides, when he is talking about all the beatings in the U.S., I wonder how many are Muslim. Obviously, those would not even count!

    So let me get this straight: when you get an electric car, you get a manual; and when you get a Muslim wife, you get the Qur’an. So, like … the Muslim wife is basically a glorified car, an object you can treat however you want to…

     

    I think this person is reading his Qur’an a bit selectively, am I wrong on this? Blah!!

    Yes, a Muslim woman is really like an object or Islamic merchandise. I would like to invite you to watch those two Saudi chicks: “I nearly fell out of my chair watching those two Muslim women try to eat spaghetti with that mask on their face! Terrible, and hilarious at the same time.”

    How to Beat Your Islamic Wife into Submission – More Rules!

    I would like to remind all women, that if your Muslim husband/boyfriend ever, EVER lays a hand on you – even one time – if you are ever abused…. and if you are in the U.S., please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-SAFE. You do not have to live like that; you deserve better!

    http://www.islam-watch.org/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=620

     

     

     
  • FBI Staff Bizarre Action Taken. Original Document

    The Custodians of Law!

     

    Look at their behavior and the action taken.

     

    Wish I could take a report on Indian Police and Security Agencies,should make a spicy reading.

     

    Any one has an idea?

     

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    From the original Source.

     

    Click the Link at the end of the Post for full report in pdf format.

     

    From: HQ_OFFICE_OF_ PROFESSIONAL RESPONSI BILITY
    Sent: Monday, October 01, 2012 6:12 AM
    To: FBI _ALL _EMPLOYEES
    Subject: OPRS QUARTERLY ALL EMPLOYEE E-MAIL – Octobtr 2012 Edition
    Ciassification: TJNCLASSIFIED
    NOT FOR PUBLIC DISSEMINATION
    OPRs Quarterly All Employee E-Mail – October 2012 Edition
    Set forth below are examples of cases adjudicated by the Office of Professional Responsibility (OPR) during the last
    quarter. OPR sends these Quart&Iy E-Mails to educate employees about the Bureaus standards of conduct and to aid
    employees in steering clear of ethical pitfalls and other violations. We do not include cases in which OPR finds that the
    employee did nothing wrong (more than one-third of the cases we adjudicate).
    Candice M. Will
    Assistant Director
    Office of Professional Responsibility
    1001 Pennsylvania Avenue, SuIte 444 North
    202-220-7800

    FBI Memo
    FBI Memo

    Examples of Recent Adjudications:

     

    1. Domestic Violence: During argument with spouse, Employee broke spouses e-reader in half
    and pointed unloaded gun at dog’s head while dog was sitting in spouse’s lap. In mitigation,
    Eniployee had been struggling with spouses mental health issues and fol!owing this incident, entered
    marriage counseling. In aggravation, Employee introduced a firearm into a domestic dispute, an
    extraordinarily serious escalation.
    PENALTY: 45-Day Suspension
    OFFENSE: Assault/Battery, Offense Code 4.1
    2. DUI: Erriployee was stopped by police for driving private ly-owned vehicle while under the
    influence of alcohol. lt was Employee’s second DUI whUe employed by the FBI. A second DUI while
    employed at the FBI resuits in dismissal.
    PENALTY: Dismissal
    OFFENSE: DUI in Privately-Owned Vehicle, Offense Code 4.4
    3. lmproper Financial Relationship with a Source: Employee purchased a used car from a
    Confidential Human Source (CHS). Employee had previously served as the CHSs handler. In
    mitigation, Employee did not seek a discount, paid fair market value for the car, and is a valued
    employee with an excellent record.
    PENALTY: 3-Day Suspension
    OFFENSE: Improper Financial Relationship with a Source, Offense Code 1.2
    4. lmproper Handling of Evidence: Employee failed to properly secure and accurately account for
    evidence seized during a search warrant. Empioyee was in charge of irventorying the evidence.
    Employee failed to recount the currency to verify its correct amount prior to placing it in evidence
    vault, resulting in a subsequent discrepancy. Employee also failed to properly secure drug evidence
    in the safe, instead co-mingling it with non-valuable evidence. In mitigation, Employee was
    responsible for multiple duties on the day ofthe search and was overburdened. In addition,
    Employee is a nine-year employee with no previous disciplinary matters.
    PENALTY: 3-Day Suspension
    OFFENSE: Investigative Deficiency, Offense Code 1.6
    5. lmproper Handling of Evidence; Lack of Candor Not Llnder Oath: Employee failed to follow
    Bureau procedures for the destruction of drug evidence. Employee did not weigh each item prior to
    destruction, despite specific instruetions to do so from the Evidence Control Technician and
    Employee’s supervisor. Also, Employee improperly stated all drug eviderice had been properly
    weighed. In mitigation, Employee was attempting to adhere to a tight timeframe; Employee verified
    there was no tampering with any packages prior to their destruction; Employee’s coriduct did not
    negatively impact pending investigations; and Employee self-reported his misstatements. In
    aggravation, Employee’s actions in failing to follow the proper procedure served as a poor example to
    more Junior employees and Employee was under administrative inquiry at the time for unrelated
    conduct.
    PENALTY: 8-Day Suspension
    OFFENSE: Investigative Deficiency, Offense Code 1.6
    Lack of Candor Not Under Oath, Offense Code 2.5
    6. lmproper Relationship with Criminal Element; Lack of Candor Under Oath: Employee
    engaged in a romantic relationship with former boyfriend (now husband) knowing he was a drug
    user/dealer. Employee also lied under oath when questioned during the administrative inquiry about
    her husband’s activities. Prior to polygraph exam, Employee adnitted husband’s drug use, inciuding
    being aware when she married hirn that he was a habitual drug user’ who sold drugs to rnake
    money. PENALTY: Dismissal
    OFFENSE: Lack of Candor Under Oath, Offense Code 2.6
    lmproper Relaticnship with Criminal Element, Offense Code 5.9

    http://i2.cdn.turner.com/cnn/2013/images/02/21/office.of.professional.review.-.cnn01302013_0000.pdf

     

    Related:

    An FBI special agent accused of driving on the State Thruway in Eden without wearing pants will see his charges dismissed if he steers clear of additional trouble for the next six months.

    John A. Yervelli Jr., 48, assigned to the Buffalo FBI office, was granted an adjournment in contemplation of dismissal Tuesday night in Eden Town Court.

    Yervelli was charged with misdemeanor public lewdness last month by State Police. A truck driver told troopers Yervelli was driving a passenger vehicle about 9 p.m. Dec. 7 when the off-duty FBI agent “pulled up next to his truck, turned on the dome light and displayed that he was not wearing pants, while making lewd gestures,” according to State Police.

    An Erie County prosecutor Wednesday confirmed this week’s court ruling, and said Yervelli is required to complete a psychological counseling program as part of the decision.

    http://www.buffalonews.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20130123/CITYANDREGION/130129616/1024

     

     

     

  • Reasons for Rape in India

    Now that Nirbhaya,  the  girl who was gang raped in New Delhi has died,people are waking up to the reality of Rapes in India.

    The Western newspapers are awash with articles on the subject.

    Victim of Delhi gang rape.
    Nirbhaya, Victim of Delhi gang rape.

    I found a reasonable good one which analyses the issue of rape.

    That is from The Washington Post.

    Following are the reasons  cited.

    Fewer Female Police Personnel.

    True

    Even the quality of women Police available is  disheartening.

    I have found the women Police to be more heartless than a Policeman in terms of character and humane approach to family issues brought into Police Stations.

    These women Police ensure that they get a good bribe to settle the issue even if what is agreed upon is totally unjustifiable.

    Lockup rapes are most common.

    Recruiting good material for the workforce will be the right step.

    And the training of Police force, both Men and women must be scientific and they must be made people friendly.

     

    Police Force.

    ‘Delhi, for example, is home to one of the largest metropolitan police forces in the world with some 84,000 officers. But only one-third are involved in any kind of actual “policing” at any given time, while the rest provide protection services to various politicians, senior bureaucrats, diplomats and other elites. According to the Times of India there is one officer for every 200 citizens and about 20 officers for every VIP. Many of those who do perform police duties can be found shaking down motorists, participating in protection rackets and simply looking the other way as crimes take place.’

    Yes, the strength of The Police Force must be increased

    Useless and avoidable deployment of Police Force for the Security of Politicians must  be dispensed with(most of the politicians deserve to be a security risk and I wish they succumb to the threat!)

    Blaming Provocative Clothing.

    There’s a tendency to assume the victims of sexual violence somehow brought it on themselves. In a 1996 survey of judges in India, 68 percent of the respondents said that provocative clothing is an invitation to rape. In response to the recent gang-rape incident, a legislator in Rajasthan suggested banning skirts as a uniform for girls in private schools, citing it as the reason for increased cases of sexual harassment.

    I disagree with this point  in that while Rape is not the direct outcome of provocative clothing, one can not deny that provocative clothing provokes.

    Even the term ‘provoke’ is used by the author to indicate the rekindling and egging of the desire!

    Women, for their safety, must ensure they  do not wear dresses that expose their body.

    One never knows how many perverts are up there, who imagine bedding every thing in sight!

    Asking women to be careful is not a denial of their rights.

    Acceptance of Domestic Violence.

    True.

    This is to be addressed by the families of the men and women.

    Here I mean the domestic violence by women as well.

    Lack of Public Safety.

    True with the rider that one can not  roam about bars frequented by the flotsam and jetsam of the society.

    The attempt to compromise the rape issue outside the Court also encourages the incidence of rape.

    The point to be observed is that while people who talk highly fo liberation of women and self-professed Liberals, How Many of them are prepared to take a girl who was raped as one’s daughter  in-law or men who will marry such a girl?

    This will take some time.

    As things stand, the  Court hearing can be held in camera , to begin with.

    Sluggish court system, Low Convictions and the low status of women.

    Agreed.

    The points missed out.

    The Lifestyle of Drinking, late night Partying , adoption of Western values, loss of family values, Single parenting do have a major role to play.

    I will be posting Blog on The law of Rape in India and the need for Reform.

    This includes a proper definition of Rape.

    In the frenzy of punishing rapists, one should not take a woman’s word at its face value at every instance.

     

    http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/worldviews/wp/2012/12/29/india-rape-victim-dies-sexual-violence-proble/

     

    Related:

    http://ramanisblog.in/2012/12/29/gang-rape-victimdelhi-dies-rape-pledge/

     

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