By the way why is it Girls use this term often than Boys?
(before you jump the gun, this is my personal view)
I was working as a Salesman ,fresh from the College.
We were launching a new range of product.
(I shall recount my selling experiences later).
My Sales Manager was about 35, and a Drunk.He normally carried a bottle oor two in his coat pocket!
But he was an exceptionally Good sales person and a Good man , barring his drinking.
Whatever I am to day- he is one of the major influences.
We had in our Organisation Sales Supervisors, all aged around 40-50.
I had a Supervisor.
We also had a girl doing the Typing,Accounting and Reception Desk(?)
She was from s poor family and was reasonably good-looking.
One day when all of us were in the office(sans The Sales Manger,he was in his Cabin) this Supervisor told her…
‘I have two tickets for evening show at the Shanthi Theatre( at Chennai which was owned by the Actor Sivaji Ganesan then and it was a prestigious issue to visit this theatre after Safire and Anand and Midlands theatre”)
I am going to the market and I will come pick you up by 5.30.’
And he went off without waiting for a reply.
After sometime,after all the others had left, the girl went inside the Manger’s cabin and came back after about ten minutes informing me that the Sales Manger wanted to see me.
He told me ‘ you go to the market and come to Office by about 4.30. I want you to be here.”
I went about my work and was in the Office by about 4.30 and was sitting in the hall.
By 5 pm , the Supervisor came and went into the Sales Manger’s room to submit his report.
Immediately, I was called in.
The sales manager said..
You call her, I want you to see some thing’
The girl came into the room and the sales Manager asked her to sit in the chair.
Then he went to the Supervisor ‘flashing out two tickets and said..
‘I have two tickets for the night show.
Send your daughter with me to the film’
The supervisor was shocked(he had a daughter of about 15 years)…
‘You may be my Sales Manager, you can’t talk that way to me about my daughter’
“I see, how can you talk this way to the girl”
Ramanan, now watch’- he removed his shoes and slapped the Supervisor and told him..
‘If I ever see you behaving this way in this office or for that matter in Public, I do not what I will do, now get out’
and turning to me..
‘This you never forget in your life. I want you to know some values and to teach this rogue by humiliating in front of a small boy like you and went about his routine business.
That the Supervisor apologised to the girl and worked in the organisation, with impeccable behaviour is another story.
Note.For my Readers from the West-dating was frowned upon and treated with severe punishment then(early eighties in India.
I have a suspicion that even now some parents who seem to have values follow this)
The Internet is abuzz with Statistics showing that Facebook is responsible for 20% of Divorce according to Lawyers.
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Worst of all is the fact that “”There are now FB widows and ‘spending time on Facebook’ is replacing ‘spending time online watching porn’ as grounds for cruelty,” said Deshmukh.
There are also reports that Facebook increases Alcohol abuse. Neela Gokhale, a divorce advocate, recounts that in Pune, a woman found her husband “obsessed with FB and ‘adding’ women friends. She has filed for divorce”. Facebook posts and pictures are being used as evidence in courts”
People want to pour out their emotions in Face Book , least understanding that the information they post may be used by professional Pimps ,lurking under the guise of Escort Service or offering to console them(men by women ,women by men).
One leads to another and ends up in illicit relationship. You find a column(is it how it is called(?) where boys and girls state that they are in ‘Relationship?
In some cases it lets people know that they are in Love and use this to let the parents know of their Love through this medium or by those who can inform the parents,having seen the Status.
The ideal step,in the case of a Genuine Love, is to inform parents directly.
People do not know realize that it hurts a parent know of their children’s relationship through others, especially when they happen to be the last to be informed.
But in illicit relationships, the price one may have to pay ranges from Divorce to Death,Murder.
Many a future have been ruined by posting indiscriminatingly in Facebook .
Please read my blog .Avoid posting these information On line‘
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When Facebook gets involved, relationships can quickly fall apart – as Hosni Mubarak and Muammar Gaddafi have discovered. But dictatorships are not the only ties being dissolved by social networkingsites: now Facebook is increasingly being blamed for undermining American marriages.
Even though the rate of divorce in the US has remained largely stable in recent years, American divorce lawyers and academics have joined Middle East analysts in picking out Facebook as a leading cause of relationship trouble, with American lawyers now demanding to see their clients’ Facebook pages as a matter of course before the start of proceedings.
“We’re coming across it more and more. One spouse connects online with someone they knew from school. The person is emotionally available and they start communicating through Facebook,” said Dr Steven Kimmons, a clinical psychologist and marriage counsellor at Loyola University Medical Centre near Chicago.
Yet while the US media has been quick to trumpet any evidence of Facebook as the country’s leading marriage-wrecker, the truth is “It’s complicated,” as the site’s relationship status would have it.
A 2010 survey by the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers (AAML) found that four out of five lawyers reported an increasing number of divorce cases citing evidence derived from social networking sites in the past five years, with Facebook being the market leader.
Two-thirds of the lawyers surveyed said that Facebook was the “primary source” of evidence in divorce proceedings, while MySpace with 15% and Twitter with 5% lagged far behind.
Those statistics included not just evidence of infidelity but other legal battles, such as child custody cases in which parents deny using illicit drugs but boast of smoking marijuana on their Facebook pages.
Photographs harvested from social networking sites – including those posted by friends or colleagues on their own pages – are a particularly rich source of damning evidence, according to divorce lawyers.
“This sort of evidence has gone from nothing to a large percentage of my cases coming in,” Linda Lea Vicken, a member of the divorce lawyers’ group from South Dakota, told the Associated Press.
Marlene Eskind Moses, president of the AAML, said the openness and sharing of social networking sites left their users’ public and private lives more exposed.
“If you publicly post any contradictions to previously made statements and promises, an estranged spouse will certainly be one of the first people to notice and make use of that evidence,” said Moses.
Statistics for January from online analysts Nielsen showed 135 million people in the US visiting Facebook during the month – nearly 70% of the country’s internet users. On average, users spent more than seven hours a month visiting the site, far longer than the less than half an hour spent on visits to Amazon or the average of two hours and 15 minutes on Google, America’s most popular web destination.”
It found those who used such sites daily were five times more likely to smoke tobacco as those who did not, three times as likely to drink alcohol and twice as likely to use marijuana.
The poll of 12 to 17-year-olds Americans, conducted by Columbia University, found 70 per cent of those interviewed said they used social networking sites on a typical day, while 30 per cent did not.
One of the main reasons for going on such sits, besides actually communicating with friends, is to keep tabs on peers by looking at their photographs.
But the study found that pictures of teenagers “drunk, passed out, or using drugs on Facebook and other sites” were “rampant”.
However, parents seemed unaware that browsing such sites could increase their child’s likelihood of abusing drink or drugs, with almost nine in 10 believing it did not have an effect on them.”
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Case have increased fourfold in Sunderland, Durham and Teesside, the areas of Britain where Facebook is most popular.
Professor Peter Kelly, director of public health in Teesside, claimed staff had found a link between social networking sites and the spread of the bacteria, especially among young women.
He said: “Syphilis is a devastating disease. Anyone who has unprotected sex with casual partners is at high risk.
“There has been a fourfold increase in the number of syphilis cases detected with more young women being affected.
“I don’t get the names of people affected, just figures, and I saw that several of the people had met sexual partners through these sites.
“Some marriages may get saved, but Facebook, which a recent survey in UK blamed for nearly a third of all divorces, is leading to a rise in face-offs in family courts across India too. “Facebook is fast becoming a reason why many marriages are faltering,” said celebrity divorce lawyer Mrinalini Deshmukh.
As divorce petitions get peppered with the mention of Facebook and printouts of web pages, the reason is not merely because couples spend more hours individually on the site, Deshmukh said. “Spending more time, especially at night before bedtime, with friends on Facebook or merely playing games on the site is no doubt eating into couples’ together-time or intimacy. More pertinently, if someone wants to have an affair or flirt, then FB is an easy place to do it. People also use the ‘friend finder’ to re-unite with school or college friends and some really unite. One couple opted for mutual consent divorce when her husband found his former love on FB,” the lawyer explained.
Sex Statistics ,published by Live Science. does not really throw any thing anew.
But the information helps.
Ultimately it is the propagation of the Species that matters, our pleasures being a spin-off,may be intended as a tool .
I wonder whether the same amount of research has been done on Hunger!
Whether it’s penis size, papillomavirus risk, or profligate pregnancies, it’s good to know the numbers. Check out these stats to see if you are well within the sexual mean — or if you’re off the charts.
Are you infected?
At least 50 percent of sexually active men and women will have a genital HPV infectionat some point in their lives. HPV, or human papillomavirus, comes in both low- and high-risk forms; low-risk HPV can cause genital warts, and high-risk can cause cervical and other cancers. In 90 percent of cases, the body’s immune system will fight off the disease within two years.Source: Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.
Two-thirds of women who had their first baby between 2001 and 2003 worked during their pregnancy, and 80 percent of those women worked within one month or less of giving birth. Compare this to the period between 1961 and 1965, when 44 percent of women worked during their pregnancy (35 percent worked one month or less before delivering).
Source: U.S. Census
How many sex partners have you had?
What’s your number? According to a survey of adults aged 20 to 59, women have an average of four sex partnersduring their lifetime; men have an average of seven.Source: National Center for Health Statistics
Do you get fringe benefits?
Two-thirds of college students have been in a “friends with benefits\” relationship, citing the lack of commitment required as the main advantage to such an arrangement. More than half of those who had sex with a friend said they had engaged in all forms of sex; 22.7 percent said they had intercourse only, while 8 percent said they did everything but have intercourse.Source: Wayne State University and Michigan State University
Do you reach orgasm every time?
While 75 percent of men always reach orgasm during sex, only 29 percent of women report the same. In addition, most women are unable to climax through vaginal intercourse, instead needing clitoral stimulation.Source: National Health and Social Life Survey
Do you have a comfortable couch?
About one out of 10 married adults – 12 percent – say that they typically sleep alone.Source: National Sleep Foundation
When did you lose your virginity?
The average male loses his virginity at age 16.9; females average slightly older, at 17.4. And a new study shows that genetics may be a factor: inherited traits, such as impulsivity, can make a person more or less willing to have sex at an earlier age.Sources: Kinsey Institute; California State University
Relax, guys. No matter what those, ahem, movies might suggest, in the United States, the average erect penis is five to seven inches long, and four to six inches in circumference.Source: Kinsey Institute
Why do you do it?
Sure, there’s the obvious. But there’s also an argument for men’s biological drive to perpetuate their genes: An 18th-century Russian woman holds the world record for having birthed the most children: 69, which she had over the course of 27 pregnancies that included sixteen pairs of twins, seven sets of triplets, and four sets of quadruplets. But she’s outdone by the male record-holder for most kids, a Moroccan emperor who, according to the Guinness Book of World Records, sired “at least 342 daughters and 525 sons, and by 1721, he was reputed to have 700 male descendants.”Source: “Why Evolution Is True” (Viking, 2009), by Jerry Coyne
Generally Men get the impression that girls in Bright Colours are easy to flirt and those in light colours are reserved are prude.
May be women instinctively know this.
Every action of a Male /Female is conditioned by nature to ensure the survival and propagation of the Species.
Man admires Girl in Red.
“Researchers and psychologists from theUniversity of South Brittany, France questioned 120 male students and asked them to judge a woman’s ‘sexual intent’ based on an image of a 20-year-old woman wearing an ordinary T-shirt.
The volunteers were split into four groups and were shown an image of the woman wearing a red, blue, green or white shirt.
Each participant studied the images for 30 seconds and were asked to rate, on a scale of one to nine, how attractive she was and how likely she was to have sex on the first date.
Researchers discovered that the majority of men from the study rated the woman dressed in a scarlet-hued item of clothing, as being more likely to sleep with a man on the first date than those in white, blue and green.
“Studies have shown that red is connected to lust and romantic love as well as to female fertility,” explains a spokesperson from the study.
“For the first time, our experiment shows clothes have the ability to lead men to perceive a woman wearing a red T-shirt as having greater sexual intent than one wearing blue, white, or green.”
Or of course, a woman’s reason behind wearing red could be because… she likes the colour.
Explaining what she thinks about the study’s findings, relationship expert Dr Pam Spurr and author of Sex Academy, told HuffPost Lifestyle: I’m not surprised by this research that scarlet-clad women really do come across as ‘scarlet’ women primed for sex.
“Whether or not you intend the colours you wear to reveal intimate things about you they do! We see red as the colour of passion and daring – this holds true for our world and in the animal kingdom.
“It usually takes bags of confidence to wear red adding to this overall affect that you are both confident enough to carry off this powerful colour as well as having sexual confidence.”
Wearing a bright colour doesn’t only give men a buzz, but they can also increase confidence, says Dr Spurr.’
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